Why is it wrong to dislike people with Asperger's?
It is wrong, I guess, but as an Aspy I couldn't care less if I met you and heard you say that you dislike people with Asperger's. What can I do anyways? Transform myself? I'll ignore it just as I would do if you said that you dislike Dutchmen. The thing is: you're kind of generalizing a spectrum of people. I know exactly what you mean when you say that the Aspies you met were nothing more than nuisances. If an Aspy fails to mix in with other people for a long time, they will develop annoying behaviors to cater themselves with at least some of the benefits of a group. Think of, for example, pretentious behavior to show off, making themselves believe everyone thinks they are super-duper and such. Or they may use force to get the group to follow their methods and ways. Or try to be the centre of the conversation in order to control their social environment. Or, simply, do not offer any more fun than they absorb with their dullness. Yep, these are things that may make an Aspy annoying. You must be aware that Aspies do not necessarily show such behaviors. Besides, if they do, they would love to do it differently---but changing such ways isn't easy at all! It's a hell that Aspies go through when they get help to improve their behavior. For example, the fact alone of having to admit how stupid they formerly were is horrible. I've seen it with other Aspies.People with Asperger's can be really sociable people though. However, if they are, you may not notice that they have Asperger's, and neither will they feel the need to explain it. Therefore, your generalization of Aspies is probably based on the most extreme ones that inevitably needed to inform people of their disorder---hoping that they will understand them better.What you probably need is to meet an Asperger's that is not as bad as the ones that you have formerly met. That's all.
People with Aspergers Syndrome, are you sick and tired of feeling left out and ignored?
I have Asperger's and Dyslexia and whenever we have a get together, most people seem to ignore me. I tried to hang out with some of my cousins yesterday and they just moved away from me or ignore me, like I have a disease. I see them having a great time, and never ask me to join them. Even on Facebook, when I comment on someone's (that I know) status and they ignore my comments. Nobody ever writes on my wall. I would write on there's but some, NEVER respond back. High school was difficult for me. Whenever I talk to somebody, they seem to enjoy talking to me, but when they see their friends, they turned me off and go hangout with them and forget about me. Whenever my "friends" are with their friends, they would pretend that they didn't know me. I'm not gonna talk about my childhood, cause it's kinda heartbreaking. :'( It hurts me when everyone else is having a great time with their friend and I'm all alone, frustrated, crushed, and sometimes feel like crying.
Why does people with asperger syndrome have to be in special education? I don't get it?
No, autism doesn't go away. There are generally ways, however, to manage *and even take advantage of* your particular personality profile. (People with Asperger's vary: enormously). It was very late news to me that there are *two* main functions to schooling. The academic learning *and* the development of life and social skills. I wish I had been formally told that while I was there, One more of those "unwritten rules" that the majority pick up easily, but those of us on the spectrum can miss. Some with AS manage in mainstream education, (perhaps with support) others find the social side and environment too stressful. The trouble is, yes, many special needs placements (UK) are not well-equipped to deliver the academic side of schooling at the level many with AS can handle, and therefore need. I know several parents who have agonized over this for their children, because the options offered were considerably less than ideal, in one respect or the other. " I could NEVER keep up a friendship like normal people can. I HATE being treated different! " Yes, that's not that unusual, unfortunately. But, just statistically, you are different. And the bulk of humanity aren't good at handling "different." While this is *their* problem, because of the numbers it is also your problem because you tend to be on the receiving end of it. Willam Hazlitt observed, (and provided something of an answer) "Mankind are a herd of knaves and fools. It is necessary to join the crowd, or get out of their way, in order not to be trampled to death by them." Tactic one: develop some camouflage. Work out equivalents to social skills using the intellect and deliberate thought and observation, rather than the instinct most people use. There are books and course and website for AS folk to help with this. You are then better placed to join the crowd, or at least pass unnoticed, as you choose. Tactic two: get out of the mainstream. Although there can be a basic desire to be "normal", that's not often going to be where you best get along, have fun, feel relaxed. Find *your* favourite places, activities, people, career. The niches that are more you-shaped. Often, for socialising, for those with Asperger's it's better based on special interests and hobbies, rather than this nebulous and ill defined "hanging out" and "partying".
Aspergers, shyness or is this just my personality?
I was never abused as a child, I was hit as a child but only really by my mother and that was the normal slap across the leg if i'd done something bad. The only really traumatic thing I remember was the constant fighting between my parents and my mother did often make us move out in the middle of the night when I was younger before they divorced. As a very young child I do remember being terrified when we were walking around in the dark to a relatives house. I've never had a good relationship with her though and moved in with my father 2 years ago, who I've always been more like, tall, slim, blonde, boyish, clowny, after my mother started drinking heavily. She did used to have multiple affairs and I never really liked her much, I'd always attributed this to my huuuuuuge problems with making female friends though. All my friends were boys for the duration of comprehensive school.
Do you believe in Asperger's Syndrome? Why or why not?
Hmm...and my 150+ IQ is explained by brain damage or mental retardation, that makes sense. Haven't you got something better to do with your time than insulting people who are [so obviously] much smarter than you?! You point the finger at others and label them as being retarded or brain damaged, yet you ask a 'question' like this. Now who's fooling themselves?!
Why are autistic people so hated?
They don’t hate us.It’s more about the tribal nature of NT society.NTs build small social hubs and then they often jockey for position inside the group.Groups often have their own unspoken or spoken rules and etiquette.Groups can be small and dynamic friendship groups, or large and manufactured like school and company groups, but the same dynamics exist.Because some NTs, notably Alpha types are attempting to secure and improve their social position they can and will use other people inside the group to further their ambitions.So, now the scene is set.Now enter the autistic person to the group.Someone who doesn’t understand the social rules, cannot pick them up, and often does not care in any case.Autistics also often ignore or are unaware of hierarchy, and this upsets the NTs in the group as they have an established hierarchy.The upshot of all of this is that one in the group chooses to become aggressive with the autistic person, and sometimes the rest follow suit.The solution as far as I’m concerned is to learn to recognise groups that are very cliquey like this, and stay away.Choose a better group, and they do exist. Even pure NT groups often have flat hierarchies and are fair and supportive.Or find a more autistic group, or make one.Don’t stay alone unless you choose to, and don’t give up on humans.
Do women hate guys with Asperger's?
Try thinking of women as individual people instead of one group with one set of emotions. Some people dislike those who have Asperger's. Some don't. People are individuals. From experience though I will say that it can be very uncomfortable to have a guy with poor social skills trying to make a move on me. Often menn with Asperger's might give social cues that come off as creepy or too intense or awkward, and as a woman who's been taught to be wary of men who are trying to pick me up, that can be very scary. I had a classmate who had Asperger's and he would always come talk to me after class and stand much too close and say things quite bluntly, such as "your butt looks really nice in those pants". It was weird and I didn't like it. Eventually when we became friends and he got better at socializing, I told him about this and he was so embarrassed that I had felt uncomfortable. He hadn't intended to be weird or creepy, but he didn't have a solid grasp of social cues and that made it hard for him. That may be an issue for other interactions between women and men with Asperger's and it's unfortunate, but not surprising.