Why Does My Mom Get So Angry

Why does my mom get angry over the little things?

I'm a girl with a mom who has a bad temper.
Here's the scoop:
I feel like I've looked everywhere for
my mom's "special" hot sauce, well literally too long to be looking for some s****y sauce that wasn't itself going to show up in the cabinet.


So then i gave up and gave her a quick alternative.
she said no this wasn't the right one.

i then nicely explained to her that it wasn't in the place
that she put it and then i said "why don't you go
look for it yourself ."

I guess that was a BIG mistake , because that's when
she yelled at me saying something about how
she "does everything for me and buys me all this s**t"
all the while she's rummaging through the cabinet
that i had just inspected. still no sauce.

and then after that she elbowed me in my chest.
i don't even know why she treats me this way.

but i don't think she's being, whats the word...uh... reasonable.

I don't think she even cares about anything i do for her.
i even apologized and everything.

she got so pissed over a bottle of hot sauce.
who in their right mind does that!?

truth is now I don't care if she found it or not,
I'm so scared to talk to her and leaving my room is not an option.

But this wasn't the only time she got angry. It's kinda hard to communicate with her all bitchy and mean. why does she do this?should i let it blow over or should i tell her how i feel? what can i do, HELP!!!she is so scary.

Why does my mom get angry over every little thing?

What's going on in her life?

Is she a single parent? If so, she's probably exhausted and short-tempered.
Does she work? If so, she's probably exhausted and short-tempered.
Is she having relationship problems with a significant other?
Is she worried about you or a sibling?
Is she having health issues?

Think of her as another person who is short-tempered, not just as your mother.

Can you do little things to show her you're noticing that she's having a hard time and you want to help? Parents carry so much responsibility. It's nice when the kids mature enough to realize that and start to voluntarily help out. Forget about mandatory chores, start doing stuff because you see it needs to be done. Trash, dishes, your room if that upsets her ... Don't wait for her to hound you about necessary things like homework.

How long has it been since you've hugged her? SInce you guys have just sat and talked? If you can make time to connect with her, that will improve your relationship because she will feel more attached. Ask her questions about when you were little, go through pictures from your childhood. Mothers love their children, but they don't always feel attached. More attached = happier = nicer.

One thing's for sure, she doesn't like being short-tempered, and she probably feels awful when she does it, but then something else happens and she snaps again.

She's lucky to have a child that notices that she's having a hard time.

Why does my Mom get mad at me so easily?

It happens almost every day for years. I am a 14 year old girl who makes her mother mad for the small things. Today I came home from playing basketball with friends and I went to grab some food and milk. The milk smelled disgusting and when I told my mom, she said to taste it. I didnt want to, so I told her I didnt want to drink bad milk. She kept saying to drink it, I kept refusing. She started yelling at me. I spilled like two drops of milk on the counter and went to get paper towels. My mom started calling me lazy and careless. i cleaned it up walked to the table and she said: You can't do anything right. I broke down inside. I hated it when she said things like that. So I sat there eating trying to hold back tears as my mom lectured me about how I am lazy and how I dont care about her and how I always want things my way.

Now before you think the wrong thing, my mom isnt a bad person. Shes a very caring and loving mother, but when she gets mad, her words hurt bad.

My mom only gets really mad at me if I dont do what she wants. If I dont wear the shoes she wanted me to wear, i get a lecture and maybe a grounding for a day. If I dont wash a dirty dish, I get the your lazy and careless, and maybe a grounding for a week. If I dont do chores or I wait to be told, I get a big.lecture, the hurtful words, and a grounding for a week.

It may seem stupid, but Im a sensitive person. This has been going on for years. Sometimes she asks me, is there something wrong with you? Maybe she is right. I think that I am the reason to my moms anger. I am the reason why she is so tired every day, why she yells at me all the time. When she says I am lazy, careless, not smart, and greedy, its like I get a scar on my brain. She has convinced me into thinking that I am some sorr of monster.

I used to think I could change. But Now I feel stupid for telling myself that lie. I feel like nothing will ever happen. Ive prayed to God many times. He has reached out, but I must have ignored his call.

Why does my mom get mad so easily?

My mom has some valid reasons to be upset, but I have little respect for the way she handles her anger. Since I was little, I've always had memories of her shouting at me, cursing at me, and just, overall, hurting me.

She homeschooled me in the summer and whenever I would ask for help, she'd start screaming at me if I didn't understand the first time she showed me how to do a problem.

When that kind of stuff happens (which it rarely does as I don't really go to her with anything I need help with or talk to her - she's always working), I don't really react unless she threatens to leave our family. That's just so horrible and unnecessary, especially if an argument arises over a freaking career choice or some chores that weren't finished.

It wouldn't be such a problem if my mom didn't just shout then stop. But she gets mad in a way that she reinstates her argument over and over very loudly, mostly because she wants the last word. Then, after we've already left the room, she shouts new arrangements of her argument as they come to her periodically.

We're at fault too - oftentimes we talk back to her. It's just I can't stand to submit to her disrespectful, angry rules. I especially hate her because when she gets really mad, she threatens to leave us and claims she "doesn't need us". I really, really hate that.

I know my mom came from a dysfunctional family with parents that fought often until her dad left, plus she works all day.

What do I do?

Why does my mom get mad over little things?

I was in the living room on my laptop and my older brother was in the kitchen cooking fries (she was planning on cooking them with dinner tonight). I had NO idea he was doing this when it was happening but I smelled something, went into the kitchen and told him mom was planning on making those. Mind you, we had other fries (different kind). The fries my mom was planning on cooking were the ones my brother had cooked (the last bit of them). When I told her what happened, just to spare her the heart attack she'd have finding them herself, she got so angry. I told her I didn't know what he was doing until after the fact as I wasn't facing the kitchen. I told her that it really wasn't that bad considering there were other fries (I said it as nice as possible) and she said "yes it is". She then went on to have a pity party yelling at me telling me it was "my fault" (my brother also kept saying it was my fault even though HE DID IT) that he did this. I literally had no idea. HE'S the one who cooked them!! I know it's best to just let this go but this type of stuff happens too much and I always take the blame for stuff and I'm sick of it. So I explained my situation and she was being close-minded (as always) and just shut me off and told me to get out of her room. I tried to be open-minded and maybe see it from her point of view but, if I'm gonna be honest, they're just french fries and we had another bag of them and it's a really childish thing to be mad about. Am I wrong??

Why do I always get so angry when my mom asks me if I’m okay after small injuries?

So I’m a sixteen year old girl, and I am a little clumsy. I have been known to stumble and fall, bump into things and knock them over, and do other stupid stuff that usually sound loud but aren’t actually that bad. Every time I do something like this my mom always asks “are you okay?” in a very conceneded voice. Now, I don’t know why, but those words fill me with such uncontrollable, albeit momentary, rage. It’s only when she specifically asks, and it’s only after really small bumps and stuff that happen often. I don’t know why I get so angry, I normally laugh off those little stumbles and I don’t usually get embarassed, yet when she asks I get so unbelievably angry it’s like some rage god takes me over for a hot second and I’m not myself. Usually I just respond with a grumble and move on but sometimes I can’t stop myself before I snap at her that yes, I am okay. And I want to stop this habit, because I know it’s stupid, but I also feel like the best way of doing that is understanding. Why do I do this, is there some deep rooted psychological reason? Listen. I get how this sounds, but I need to know.