Should I marry my boyfriend for the military benefits?
You need a huge reality check. 1-First of all, he doesn't "choose" an MOS. The military will choose it for him depending of how he does in his test scores and what is available. He might end up in infantry whether he wants it or not. 2- If he has a suspended license, that means that he has more than likely has a criminal record (DUI for example). Because of uneployment, the military has a lot of people interested in joining and they are not as desperate anymore; so they can be picky-choosey about who to enlist. Now, the recruiters for all branches have a BAN on anyone that has any current or previous felony or misdeanor convictions, that means that he cannot join if he has been convited (if they suspended his licence that means that ther has been a conviction already). 3- I'm assuming that he will be an enlisted soldier. If he is joining the military to "repair your finances" you need a wake up call. An entry level soldier only makes about $400 bi -weekly after taxes. No one can repair two people's credit on 12k a year. It will take for him to be about 4-5 years in the military or be deployed to actually see any money at all. 4- Free education? Please 5- Some places that he will go, you cannot with him. Korea for example. Bottom line, if you are not marrying him for love and you are not aware of all the sacrifice you will have to make, do HIM a favor and do not marry him. Good luck
Im 18 and my boyfriend in the navy wants me to marry him. Help?
Hello everyone!. Well, i am an 18 year old senior in high school. I have been dating my current boyfriend for 4 years now. Just this march he left for boot camp for the navy. NOW, i know i would do anything for him. He truly is my world. I want to continue my education after high school and get my degrees in early childhood education. See the problem here is..i already am going crazy with out being with my boyfriend and its only been three weeks. I just got a few of his letters and a phone call and he is so happy with the decisions he is making. Then he furthered to tell me all about how he would give anything in this world for us to step our relationship to the next level (marriage) I would love to marry him and have no real doubts, just a few concerns. He willl be attending 30 weeks of his A school in chicago i believe. I was accepted to a great school in chicago also. Now if we get married am i able to live with him off base? Do we get help paying for housing and school? Do you think this is not a good idea? Any information will be a great help! thank you so much!!
Can I live on Navy base with boyfriend if we have a child together?
No you would not be able to live in military housing just because you have a child together. In order for him to qualify for it w/o you being married, he would have to have custody of the child 50% or more of the year. Living with you wouldn't qualify for that if he is even allowed to do that. When they are single, unless they are E5 or above, or an E4 with more than 4 years in, they are required to live on the ship or in barracks. The only way around it is if they can't stay on the ship & no barracks are available. He would not qualify for BAH (Housing Allowance) either. Your child would need to get an ID, you would need a letter from teh command allowing you to take the child to places on base to get things to support that child. You can shop at the commissary or exchange but only if it is for things for the child. If it isn't then you can't purchase them. You would not be able to the base for delivery of the child. The child isn't covered by Tricare until it is born and registered with DEERS. So you will have to pay for all of that yourself. If it is born out of wedlock, the military may require a paternity test to make sure it is his child. You would also be limited in what information you can get from teh command about the deployments. Some will allow it while others will not. It ranges from command to command. Now if you do get married first you celebrate whatever anniversary you want to. You can even have 2 if you want to, it is your choice. Quite a few couples do have 2 anniversaries and some celebrate 1 and others celebrate both. You would qualify for military housing or BAH for renting out in town. The wait time for housing can range from place to place. There is some places in which it can be 1 year or longer, but other places it won't be. The only time you will be allowed to get base housing is when you are there on his orders. Meaning he is assigned to a command at the base for 6 months or longer. You can then apply, wait and when it is open move in. You can also use all the base amenities. Including medical, child care, exchange, commissary, theater, bowling, gym, etc...
I'm 18,pregnant,& my boyfriend is joining the navy. He wants to get married but how could he want 2 leave me?
UPDATE: I want to thank everyone for all their support, it helped me so much. My fiance is now in the navy and I am supporting him with everything I can. We are getting married right before he starts basic and I will be moving on base with him. He is so thrilled he is becoming a father and we both feel in our hearts that it's a little girl. His mother has now come to terms with hom much we love each other and that we are getting married. Thanks again everyone.
What should you do if your boyfriend doesn’t want you to join the National Guard?
Good comments so far. All dead on.You don’t say how old you are, which definitely comes in to play. I.e. if 7 years was through junior high and high school, then I’d say you’re still discovering who you are, and where the relationship is going to go. In this case, I’d put more weight on the direction you believe you are called to live your life, of which the National Guard might be part of that. It’s a very honorable profession (I was in the Guard for 12 years).If you’re older, though, the first thing I’d recommend is looking at your relationship. My general recommendation to married couples is to put the marriage first — the military is temporary to everyone, but marriage is meant to be forever. First doesn’t always mean getting out if the spouse doesn’t like it or not going in, but it does mean communication, considering the other’s view, reconciling, and being full in together. The military can be highly stressful - it’s a healthy relationship that makes that bearable. Otherwise, you’re risking a lot of pain. Many have divorced because of the stress the military can put on a relationship.That’s for married couples, though. I know sometimes people get married later, but boyfriend-girlfriend relationships are by definition temporary. In this case, the couple is not full in with each other. Frankly I think that’s the harder question.Does he intend to be with you through thick and thin — regardless of what you do? If so, I would reconcile with him your desire to join the military. That process will help you solidify your relationship regardless of what you end up doing. Otherwise, make the call… Just accepting that worst case is he goes. But if he does, just know that commitment no matter what wasn’t there in the first place.Take care, and let us know how it goes.
Can you get benefits in the Navy for common law spouses?
I am getting ready to join the Navy and I do not want to sign any marriage license for me and my boyfriend. We are common law married and I want to know if he can recieve any benefits from the Navy as a spouse and also wether he will be considered a dependent or if I would still be considered a single person.