Is being a only child bad?
so im 15 and ive been lonley my whole life and only child no cousins well i do but they arent even in my age rage there all like 30 not cool when i go on vacation everything is akward for me like its kinda depressing of course SOMETIMES its okay being a only child i mean cuz theres no sharing room or nothing but i feel that if i had an older sibling they could give me soo much advice that i need from there exprience beacuse for me these next teenager years are very hard will i suffer a lack of social skills soon or later in life i mean my kids wont have any uncles or aunts this really sucks what can i do to have more fun i try to hang out with my friends but they eventually have to leave which sucks cuz afterwards im by myself again im the only child i know everyone i know has siblings and TONS and LOTS OF cousins there uncles are cool with them they ALWAYS brag about how there uncles or aunts buy them soo much stuff and take them places or how there brothers or sisters take to cool parties or even take them where ever they want what and im just mr loner all of my family is over 35 :( what can i do
Is being a only child hard?
It was hard on me. I was very jealous of my friends who had siblings. Though they may have fought some, more often then not they seemed to be really happy to have each other. Even now, as an adult, I realize that friends come and go. I do wish I had a sibling that I could talk to and spend time with, assuming we would've got along. I'm also sad that I will never have nieces or nephews, and that I will never be called "Aunt". My kids will never have any aunts or uncles, or cousins to play with. That was the driving force behind having my second son, who is now almost 4 weeks old. My first son, who is 3, already loves and adores him. He even already talks about the baby growing up and playing with him. I know most people who are only children were never bothered by it, but for some reason I was. Even when I was surrounded by friends. Your daughter being 8 probably doesn't care, and probably won't when she is older. If you tried for another and was unsuccessful then it just wasn't meant to be. Don't worry too much about it. Though those things are sad when I'm thinking about them, I rarely ever do. I have a full life regardless.
Do you hate being an only child?
My son (only child) has asked me to write this message for him. "I like being an only child. Sometimes it is a little lonely, but I make friends easy and the best part is that I don't have to share a room!" I also get to go to very good schools. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have a brother or sister, but usually I end up changing my mind and like being an only child the best" (Only slightly edited by me! *smile* - have a great day!)
How do you feel about being an only child?
Just curious. I'm an only child and it gets boring a lot. And for some weird, bizarre, totally illogical reason (okay maybe I'm overreacting here, sorry) some people think only children get everything just because we don't have siblings?? So just wondering how you guys feel about being an only child, and do you wish you had siblings?
Would you really hate being an only child?
I'm an only child. My mother is Asian (like, she grew up in Asia), my dad's American. That plays a huge role in why I'm not spoiled rotten-- in Asia they have very different values. I am spoiled though. I got an iPod at age 12 (we were spending 3 hours in a car to and from violin lessons) and a laptop at age 13 (I had 3 school projects all at the same time, due within a week of each other, the entire school year. I spend 8 hours a day on the computer on weekends doing school), I get almost everything I ask for, as long I have a good reason why I need it or sometimes, if I pay for it (that's why I don't have a job; my mom will tell me what i can and can't do with my money). I was never really lonely; I was a busy kid. I also was insanely creative and could make games to play by myself. Looking back, I do wish i could have a little sister, but with no more than a 4 or 5 year age difference. My best friend and her sister are 7 years apart and they get along about as well as oil and water. But overall, I like being the only child.
Pro's and con's of being an only child?
I am an only child. Growing up I loved it. I wasn't spoiled (we didn't have a lot of money), but I always felt like it was just me, Mom, and Dad. I never had to share their affection with anyone else. Now that I am an adult (36 years old), I can see where I missed out. I'm not a very sociable person. I would usually rather be alone than hang out with other people. And I've been like that all my life. I see my parents and parents-in-law interact with their siblings, and I'm honestly a little jealous. I don't have any relationships like that in my life. I didn't want to have just one child. I think the sibling relationship is amazing. I love watching my 3 girls interact. Even though they get on one another's nerves every once in a while, they truly love each other with all their hearts. It's beautiful! :-)
Is it good to only have one child?
For some people having one child is good. For some children, being an only child is good. For some people, having no child is good. For some people, having many children is good. I think what matters in raising an only child is that an only child is raised with the awareness that s/he isn't just an only child but is also part of a larger universe of family, friends, community and planet; that there is a sense of giving to others, receiving from others, belonging with others, and being part of a larger universe. I don't really know why I feel this way except for seeing families with just one child. When that child feels s/he is at the center of the parents' universe and is not connected to others via a sense of belonging to something bigger -- well, I think that only children can feel lonely without some very deep connections outside of the nuclear family. I have seen only children doing very well, for example, when connected to music (and excelling at playing a musical instrument in an ensemble), and religion (and being committed to educating others about religion). I have seen that parents of one child can lack perspective because they have a data set of one. But the fact that they have one child can be good when they recognize there is more to know about children and they ask relatives, friends (and now, Quora!) whenever they have a question. Having one child allows that child to have parental focus which is not divided by siblings' needs for parental attention. And one doesn't cost as much financially as two, or three, or more. Having one child with no siblings can be more demanding in terms of attention for parents, as siblings often play with each other; an only child at home usually is with an adult for a greater amount of time than a child with siblings, or s/he is alone. And being an only child means you never have to fight with a sibling or have rivalries, jealousy or envy of a sibling. There is no basis for comparison. That can be very good for parents --
Pros/cons of being an only child?
Hi. I'm an only child and a mother of one 19month old girl (though i do plan on having more children). I never had a problem being an only child, you don't know what you're missing if you've never had siblings. There are pro's and con's to both being an only child and having siblings. The advice I offer to you is that you should have another baby if you and your husband want to, don't do it for your child. Your child will be fine either way, as long as she has loving parents. I have no idea what your extended family is like, but if you decide not to get pregnant, make an effort for your daughter to develop relationships with other family members, cousins, etc. so that her family can extend beyond you and your husband. I was very close with my grandparents and that, in part, made up for for the fact that my very immediate family was small.
What does it feel like to be an only child?
Being a single child has it's own good and bad aspects:Good:We share stuff more easily with others than ones with siblings do, because we've never had to fight for anything when we grew up.We are the nicest people in any friends squad, because we have honestly never thought of any evil pranks.Others think we're irresponsible since we're doted upon by parents. That's not true at all. We're actually more responsible because we've spent most of our time with adults and hence we're more mature than we should be, for our age.We're the kind of people who are extremely happy when they're left alone (not "lonely", there's a difference). Because we've grown up pretty much by ourselves so that's our comfort zone.Never had to fight for remote. Never had to share a room. Never had to call dibs for shotgun. Never had to give some of our chocolate. :DEveryone knows and calls us by our name and not as someone else's sister or brother. (boy, that must be annoying!) Cousins love us more because we take care of them like they're our real siblings and shower them with all the love. For them it's like having a sibling without the bad aspects.No matter what happens and how badly we screw up, our parents have no option but to forgive us. xDBad:Never had that one person to share things with, everyday. No one to fight with, no one to watch cartoons with. It's just us and ourselves all the time, so it gets monotonous and boring sometimes.It kind of gets really lonely sometimes. So we find multiple ways to entertain ourselves: escape into books, movies, TV shows.People think we're so full of ourselves. Which is annoying as hell and completely false.Receiving that "sympathy" look from random strangers when they get to know that you're your parents' only child. ARGHHHHWe're awkward in social situations because hello, too many people! Totally not our comfort zone.Worse is when we're left alone at home. Every distant sound screams like a ghost wanting to kill us.There are times when we wish that we had a sibling, but then there are other times when we're extremely glad that we don't. xD