I asked for my girlfriend's hand in marriage and her parent's declined?
So I sat down with both my girlfriend's parents and they completely declined. They said because she makes 5 times as much money that I make that its proprostous to even think about us getting married. I have a small house while she has a 6 bedroom house with a pool and a guest house and a lot of land for a backyard. Meanwhile I don't make as much. They think that I'm just a fling and pretty much laughed in my face. My girlfriend and I talked about marriage for weeks and she feels its important to get their approval. What do I do?
Big fight because I refused to have sex?
Last night my husband asked me to have sex, I had a really long day and was just tired so I said no. He said fine and turned his back on me. I was just going to sleep when he sat up and started shouting abuse at me. He cursed at me and even said our marriage was not working that he deserves sex when he wants it because he works hard. He us very off with me this morning too. But to be honest I have not made much effort to talk to him either. He stormed out of our bedroom when he was finished shouting at me and banged the door. He came back in and to be honest I was crying. He just turned his back on me again and never said anything. What do I do.
Why do narcissists ask you to marry them if they don't mean it?
Because they are compulsive. They do things not thinking about the long term effect/responsibilities that come with that decision.They easily get bored and loyalty is not in their system unless they want to get their ‘highs’ which are only short-lived.My ex narc married his first wife then two yrs later they had a daughter then he discarded them to be with me, he was chasing me non-stop. Successfully ruined my engagement to my fiance and now after two years we had a daughter. Then he cheated on me after I had a baby. I’m taking responsibility with my actions and removed myself from everything he represents.They are following a similar pattern and nothing will ever make them stay in a marriage or relationship. Their children are not even enough to make them stay. At the end, they are compulsive pursuer of something that is shallow, shiny and easy. There is no contentment and no gratitude. That’s not a life I wanted for me and my daughter.Despite his warrant of arrest from his first wife, it didn’t stop my ex narc to cheat on me with another woman. I’ve always told him that karma is a bitch and we need to do more good karma because of his bad choices in the past. Now he is facing another criminal case from me and an adultery case from the husband of the woman he had an affair with. I sent the husband all the evidence I’ve recovered. It’s just chaos.Now 4 months of removing him from me and my daughter’s life, it changed everything. My health improved. No more Cardiologist appointment, no more panic attacks, no more sleepless nights and no abuse.I’m going back on taking care of myself and being the best version of me for my daughter. She deserves a happy and healthy mom. Financially we can’t barely manage but I’m working hard on getting a good paying job and this too will pass.Hugs***
Am i allowed to refuse having sex with my husband?
i read in a book that angels will curse me the whole night if i refuse sex with him. that doesnt seem fair. is it true? i have been married for almost a year now, we have sex almost every night except when im on my period, i like having sex but i dont want it everyday!!can i refuse sex or is that haram?
My HUSBAND asked for Oral sex?
We have been married from a month. I have never performed oral, he has sort of showed interest in oral before trying to do oral to me but I have always stopped him (fearing he would ask me to return the favor), but anyway I don't like it. Yesterday night he came back home after working all day and he was very tired. He for the first time went straight to the point and asked me to perform oral to him, I refused to do it and he got upset. He started saying that as his wife I should please him, then he calmed down and said that he wanted me to try it, he also said that he was not going to ask me for this everyday but only once a week if I did it, but that he could not be happy if his wife did not please him this way. I find this repulsive, how can I tell him that I will not do this because is just gross?
My HUSBAND asked for Oral sex?
We have been married from a month. I have never performed oral, he has sort of showed interest in oral before trying to do oral to me but I have always stopped him (fearing he would ask me to return the favor), but anyway I don't like it. Yesterday night he came back home after working all day and he was very tired. He for the first time went straight to the point and asked me to perform oral to him, I refused to do it and he got upset. He started saying that as his wife I should please him, then he calmed down and said that he wanted me to try it, he also said that he was not going to ask me for this everyday but only once a week if I did it, but that he could not be happy if his wife did not please him this way. I find this repulsive, how can I tell him that I will not do this because is just gross?
Married, want a divorce, husband begging for me to stay...?
I'm sorry but honestly, if he can't stop doing this to you, keeping him won't change things. Nor will he change himself. You should go through with the birth, and then make plans to divorce him. You don't have to be married to him anymore to raise your kids. You can live together if you choose. But if he knows he gets caught cheating again, after a divorce, then he knows the door's right there. And you're kicking him out through it. Right now, he's got the marriage to hold you back from doing that. Finally, I used to believe in 2nd chances. But I definitely do not believe in 3rd chances.
My husband says he needs to find himself?
I would keep working on him about the counseling. It is not fair for him to leave you hanging like this, especially as you are pregnant and experiencing all the physical AND emotional ups and downs that go with that. I don't blame him for being a little freaked out, that's normal. Marriage and children bring lots of changes and they are not all good and some are very scary. His life has quickly (in the big scheme of things) changed from starry-eye love to a wife and two kids and the all that brings. If it was me, I would say he needed to get his butt into counseling either with you or on his own. If he refused, then I would kick him out and make sure everyone he is related to, friends with, works with, knows he was a bum who decided he wasn't sure he loved you after he had a kid and his wife was pregnant with the second. AND refused to take action that might help. Find himself? Tell him to look under a rock, because he behaving like a crawly creature!