16 And Dad Keeps Threatening To Send Me To Correctional School

Why does my mother keep threatening to kick me out over minor mistakes and disagreements?

First of all, you are very good to understand that the argument is pointless and there is no reason to overreact. You don’t say how old you are, now. That might have much to do with the answers.But, to keep right on track, I will say that some people fall into the same habits and unfortunately, the threats of retribution can fall in that category. She has used the threat so often that it has become habit. We all know that legally, she couldn’t kick out a 9 year old. But if you are now over 18, it could be a possibility.My only suggestion is to try to talk to her in a non-threatening way. Pick some time when there is quiet and no argument between the two of you. Just tell her, “Mom, can we talk about something that has bothered me?” When you start talking, use the “I” statements. Do not use the “you” statements. If you start the conversation with, “Why are you always telling me that…” or “You always…” then you are going to meet resistance and defensive behavior. If you say, “Many times when I hear the statements about kicking me out, I feel unworthy. I feel like I have no right to be here. I feel that I am a disappointment to you. I feel that I am not worthy of love.”Choose whatever you feel. I am sure that those statements make you feel at least a few of the things I have said. If not, then tell her exactly what those words do make you feel.Hopefully, it will reach your mother that her words are having a dark affect on you.If you continue to receive these words, then keep your calm resolve. Do not escalate the situations. Make your plans and goals and decide how and when you will be able to live on your own. If you are only 15, well, it will be awhile. Keep calm. Don’t get into trouble and work hard toward the goal of going to college or entering the career field of your choice so that you can live independently.Remember, you can’t change other people. You can’t make them behave like you want. You only have control over what you do. You CAN control your own words and actions. You don’t own her behavior but you do own yours so think carefully how you will act or react.

My dad keeps threatening to section me for no reason. Can he do that?

Not in Canada. However, he would be considered your legal guardian and could go to court to get permission to  have you accessed by a psychiatrist if you refused to go voluntarily and he insisted.I would advise you speak to a trusted adult about this situation both to assess whether or not "for no good reason" is a valid point and to ensure you are safe in your home. I suggest you do that before calling the authorities unless you feel you are in imminent danger.If he was both stupid and evil he could secretly drug you (considered administering a noxious substance -clearly illegal and a form of assault) and take you to a hospital claiming you had tried to commit suicide. It is likely you would be held for up to 72 hours in a psychiatric ward for assessment regardless of what you told the doctor upon regaining consciousness. However, if you told the doctors that he had done this to you  during your assessment, an investigation would begin to determine whether it was safe for you to return homeIf that happened or if you feel that you are in any sort of danger you could call the Children's Aid Society and or police for protection. If you were evil and clever you could falsely accuse your father of wrongdoing and he would be investigated by the police and the Children's Aid Society.The safety of a minor trumps the assertions of the accused guardian.If he is truly threatening to have you "sectioned" or committed for no reason you could reply that you would simply make his life a living hell as a result of what you told the doctors when he went through with his threat.I think this is an appropriate response only if you are sure it would not escalate the situation to the point your father would harm you. I am going to repeat a previous point because I feel it is very important.I would advise you speak to a trusted adult about this situation both to assess whether or not "for no good reason" is a valid point and to ensure you are safe in your home. I suggest you do that before calling the authorities unless you feel you are in imminent danger.

My mother is threatening to take me out of school. Is she allowed to?

That depends. Are you in the US? If you are and simce you are under 18, yes, your parents have the authority to decide which school you attend. Does she pay tuition for the arts school? Are you getting treatmemt for your mental instability?Whether your mothet CAN change your schools and whether she should are two different questions, and the answer to the second question depends on the totality of corcumstances which you really didn’t provide. If your behavior is really an issue and other methods of discipline haven’t worked, perhaps your mother is hoping that the threat of losing a school you prefer might motivate you to change your behavior. School isn’t the only or even the most important education in life. Good character is necessary in whatever you pursue in life, and if you are rebellious against authority, it will be harmful long term to yourself and those around you. A strong deterrent against bad behavior is necessary, and this is one reason why children, even teenagers, still need parents. Additionally, your mother gave you life and has cared for you for 16 years. Of course she isn’t perfect. None of us are. But she is deserving of your obedience and respect. The best way to avoid serious consequences when you know your behavior has been bad is to admit it, apologize for it, and do whatever you can to make it right. Perhaps then your mother will see that you are maturing and that you should be able to continue attending the school you like.

I am 15 and always threatened. How do I deal with a verbally and emotionally abusive father?

I'm 17 and still am verbally and emotionally abused on the daily. I came to a realization that my mother only does it to make herself feel better. My father was sent to prison for abuse and rape of his own children, my mother resented him for it. My mother took up alcohol and became angry because she held it in. My dad hung my dog because it got into food, then he said he was in control of life because he supposedly did mouth to mouth and brought her back. Told the cops if they took my sisters and me away he'd make more children for the purpose of chores, etc. Right when he was sentenced my mom began beating our animals as he did. She threw a lamp at my 16 year old sister just because she went to a party with drinking, the lamp pulled back because the cord and cut a hole in the dresser. I still wonder today if it hadn't been for the cord if my sister would still be alive. We went to this abandoned place up the street when we felt unsafe. It had been abandoned for a few years and as soon as we used it for a safe place someone baught it and we were left with no place to go for safety. My mom repeatedly told us to call child services and if we did we'd all get separated with different names and we'd never see each other again, of course we'd never do that. As of today I still don't know if that's how it is. My oldest sister eventually moved out because one of my sister's came at her with a knife. The same sister my mother admires today, with several DUIs. She has no problem putting other people's lives in danger. The same sister that hit me with a rubber mallet repeatedly to where I had over twenty circle bruises and that same night stabbed me with a piece of glass. My mom later that night said well obviously you made her mad, you probably deserved it. My mother also blames me for almost every problem she faces but I'd seek a school councilor or grandparent if I were to go back.