Fear of over flowing toilets?
I have an actual fear of over flowing toilets! I am serious. Like I am not worried about the embarrassment of an over flowing toilet I am just scared of toilets over flowing. Like earlier the toilet clogged up and it was filling up to the top real fast and my heart started pounding and I more wanted to just run away but I quickly plunged it and then I felt better. Sometimes in public bathrooms I will not flish a toilet till after I button and zipped my jeans and then I grab on to the bathroom stall door so I can open it real quick and run out after I flush the toilet in fear of it overflowing. Is this an actual phobia? I used to have dreams of being stuck in side a bathroom that was completely filled with water and drowning. I wonder if this has anything to do with it?
How do you get rid of the toliet seat toppers?
My 4 year old is terrified to go on the toilet without her toilet seat topper. She's scared she's going to fall in. When I try to sit her on it without the topper she clings to me for dear life and screams bloody murder, I have the bruises to prove it lol. I have tried to explain it to her, but she can't let go of the idea that no matter what she's going to fall in, and go down the drain according to her lol. She can put on the topper herself and climb on, which she has been doing since she was potty trained at 2. I mean she's going to school in a year, and I don't think her teacher will allow the topper to join lol. I have taken things away in the past, but this seems a little much just to take it away because she seems genuinely terrified, but any suggestions would help. It reminds me of "look who's talking too" when mikey thought of the toilet as a monster, but she's potty trained lol.
My daughter has toilet-phobia!?!?!?
Ok, this began about 2 months ago. Maybe a little earlier than that even. My 5 year old daughter has developed this insane fear of sitting on the toilet, claims it makes noises, and that it's gonna flush with her on it....BY ITSELF. She goes from calm to manic in approx. 3 seconds...complete with screaming crying, face turns purple from lack of breathing related to this, shaking --all because she will pull down her pants, make me go with her to the toilet, hop up on it, sit at the very edge of it to where if god forbid she actually did pee, it would shoot out on me....for about 2 secs, strains like she's having a BM and says "it won't come out mommy"....and attempts to hop off the toilet. When she has a BM, as soon as she feels that last little strain...to push out the poop( oh boy, what a subject) she attempts to hop off the toilet and makes the biggest MESS --it is horrible. I even took her to the ER and had her cathed over it....for retention. parauresis????
Scared of flushing toilet, might overflow?
I'm watching my uncles house and apparently I accidently clogged the toilet last night and didn't realize it until this morning when I went to the bathroom and tried flushing. It didn't overflow (thank God) but my uncle will kill me if I don't fix it. I used a plunger and pushed 12 times, then added water and pushed 12 more. I'm really scared to flush the toilet because I'm afraid it might overflow or something. Any advice? Please don't tell me to call a plumber because it's too expensive and my uncle comes home early tomorrow morning. Thanks!
How do I potty train a non verbal 3 year old?
I think it would be pretty much the same way you’d train any child, it’s just that the communication approach needs to be differently. Presumably you have worked out ways for your child to tell you s/he is hungry/tired/upset etc… you need to be able to communicate about a new concept, feeling the need to eliminate. If you don’t already use a standard sign language, like ASL, you might want to introduced it, with the word “potty” or similar, while you are using the toilet.
How much should I worry that my 4-year-old is struggling with potty training?
As a kid that was potty trained before 2, I would say that if your child is still unable to control their bladder and sphincter during the day at 4 years old, there could be a medical reason for it.At 4, a child is able to verbalize their physical needs and develop neurological control needed for potty training at different ages. Some of that control is trained, such as if the child doesn’t like feeling wet, put them in regular underwear so they learn to practice control to avoid being wet and poopy. Also, sit them on the potty right after waking up, and after meals. Parenting is not a choice the toddler gets to make, and this is not negotiable. If they don’t want to, that’s too bad. Be creative and find a way to change the ‘don’t want’ into a ‘want’.For example, my child didn’t really have an interest until he turned 3 and his peers at daycare were doing things he wanted to do but wasn’t allowed as a diapered child. Peer pressure is good, but I reinforced training at home by using a bag of M&M’s for a reward system. He was aware that he potty training was like the Olympics where athletes work hard in practice in order to win, and winning was rewarded. When he caught himself in time to get to the potty ( and after he was cleaned up), I let him have 2–3 M&M’s for a gold medal. At first, it was just enough to positively reinforce sitting on the potty 3-5 minutes. Over time, he was rewarded when he left something in it. The M&M’s made it fun for him and I only used 1 big bag. I left it where he could see it on a shelf in a sealed clear jar near his potty. He trained in 3 days and was consistent in a week.Yes, he was pressured into training. The adults in his life made it fun and exciting for him to want to participate, and yes we had had some pushback. As the parent though, it was non-negotiable.For some parents, it is hard to let their children move out of diapers. It means independence away from the caregiver and loss of being needed, if just a little bit.If this is a matter of the child simply not wanting to use the toilet, you have to get creative as a parent and get them to want to use it. At 4 years old, your child should definitely be potty trained.
My 6-year old is afraid of going to the bathroom by herself because she thinks there are monsters. What can I do to help her?
Be gentle, and curious. Ask your daughter as many questions as you can think of about the monsters. Your goal is to to exhaust her imagination. This may be hard to do! In particular, her imagination of these monsters is probably a lot greater than yours so you may have to work hard to think of really good questions for her about these monsters. You will likely be exhausted before she is, but you can handle it; keep going.What do they look like? Where do they come from? What do they do when they are not doing the things your imagining them doing? How do they elude your perception? Where are they right now? Do they go house to house? Are they in other people's houses? Have you ever actually seen them? What do they smell like? Or what do you think they would smell like? Should you be concerned for yourself???…You're going through all the question words, all the senses, etc., working your way gradually up to “Why?” Why do the monsters do what they do? Why do they bother your daughter and not you? Do they bother anyone else? Why?… Turn yourself into that wonderfully pestering kid who asks “Why? Why? Why?” all the time.Eventually, when you have got a very detailed picture of these monsters, first try to connect any dots you may be able to connect. Is your daughter trying -presumably unconsciously - to communicate something to you through her fear that she cannot communicate directly, e.g., some sort of abuse. This is very unlikely, but it is not out of the question. Don't go reading into her story, but look for obvious warning signs. If you have any doubt, seek professional help.Assuming you have no such concern, continue to engage your daughter when the subject comes up. Hopefully, you will have built sufficient trust with her that she is more relaxed and open with you (and herself). She may even look forward to discussing her fear with you, although I wouldn't count on it.At this point, keep listening. Ask more questions, and critically, let your daughter know that you have no awareness of these monsters. You cannot see them, hear them, smell them, etc. You can kind of imagine them, based on what she's told you, but even that is a challenge because they are not real to you. You are not judging here, which she should get from all of the time you put into asking her about them. You're just sharing your experience of not being aware of them.This should help her gradually let go of her fear of these monsters.
Automatic toilets scare me. Am I alone?
What you need to do is 'desensitize' yourself to these 'self-flushing toilets.' I have a similar phobia about 'strange toilets' but only when I am moving my bowels, not going pee ... but the toilets that 'self flush' ALWAYS startle and upset me, too. To do this 'desensitization' you'll need to go into the 'stall' when you don't NEED to go ... just drop your pants, squat, stay that way for five seconds at first, then rise and pull up your pants. After a week, do your 'squatting' for ten seconds. Since you aren't actually 'going' you don't need to have ANY interaction with those 'strong minded toilets' ... and you are then 'free' to let them do whatever they want to do. Some should be 'regular flush' and some should have the 'buttons' to push, and some should be 'self flushing.' You may even try 'talking' to the toilets (not too loud, or people will think you are insane) ... tell them that you 'appreciate them' and hope that you can 'become friends' ... that you know you must always be the one to 'visit' but that you understand their 'disability' ... make it 'fun and a bit funny' when you talk to the toilets, and you'll soon be able to 'go' whenever you want to, without the 'startlement' and 'fear' you now feel. And DO NOT BE EMBARRASSED. People have all kinds of 'weird' phobias, and many have a phobia about 'toilets' that aren't in their homes. HOME is 'safe' for you, so the 'toilet' is also 'safe' ... when you are outside your home, it's 'not safe' ... so the toilet isn't 'safe' and one that flushes itself (especially those that flush suddenly while you are still going) is very frightening. In the end, though, a toilet is just a toilet, but by 'making friends' with the toilets you use (and you can do this with EVERY new toilet you meet for as long as you need to do it) you'll feel safer ... and when you feel safer, you don't 'startle' as easily, and you don't 'fear' the act of 'getting undressed' in a 'public place' ... and a stall, even with the door locked, is still very 'public' to many of us. Just do this 'exercise' and soon you'll be 'more normal' ... by the way, in our apartment, I don't call it the bathroom ... I call it the Throne Room, and I 'sit on the throne' ... which makes it a lot easier to 'go' ... so you are not 'weird' ... but I am!
2 1/2 yr. old with potty fear.?
Try having her urinate into a diaper while sitting there. After that success a couple of times, see if she'll let you cut a hole in in a fresh diaper for the next time, or even have her help you cut a hole in one. If she insists on just making a pinhole, go with the flow! (yep, pun intended!) Just work with her to make it bigger next time, etc. That might help her become accustomed to not sitting in the wetness, which she has probably become accustomed to, and it will help put the pee where you want it. And of course give her lots of praise on each success.