What age should you tell the truth about the tooth fairy, and father christmas?
My mom did the same thing with me and she'll eventually be grateful for all the things you did, just as I am. there isn't a way to take it back, but you can tell her that the tooth fairy is a part of you and that you were so blessed to be her tooth fairy. And that the tooth fairy may not be anyone but parents, but that there is a tooth fairy in everyone and that though she's not someone separate, the spirit of tooth fairy is very real...Love and sadness that your baby is growing up. that is basically what my mom told me and it meant the world to me. The magic is always there. I never liked the whole Santa thing because my best friend didn't have much money and Christmas was very limited, whereas from "Santa" my bro and I got a lot. I resented him saying that Santa was mean because my friend was good. at ten, 4th or 5th grade, most everyone will tell her that he isn't real. My brother is that age also. It is so sad to see it go. it is way too young. what has the world come to? I don't know. but same thing is true for father Christmas as is for the TF. He will always be real in the spirit of Christmas. Make sure if you tell her, that she always knows that.
My 9 year old still belives in the tooth fairy.?
the tooth fairy, the easter bunny, santa claus...these are great childhood treats. believing in them make great memories. so i wouldn't burst the bubble just yet. let her hang on to the tooth fairy for a while longer. you don't have to drop a huge amount under her pillow, do you? a quarter would be fine. or even a tiny toy, notebook, stickers from a thrift mart. tell her the tooth fairy wanted to give her something special this time. oh and let her realize the truth by herself. i remember my dad telling me straight out when i was 6 that santa claus wasn't real, and it scarred me for life! lol! anyway, 9 is still young. start to worry when she still believes in these fictitious characters at 12. :)
How do you tell a 10 year old the truth about the tooth fairy, santa, etc?
If you want to tell her, just sit her down and tell her. Maybe she knows, maybe she doesn't. Just tell her that when kids are little, Santa and the Tooth Fairy are stories used to make things more fun for little kids. But as we get older, we are able to understand the other magical things about the holidays (be it spending time with family, the joys of giving to others, religious things, etc.) Don't judge her though. People act like it's no big deal, but I can tell you that for some kids it is. It kind of takes the magic out of the holidays. I was 12 when my friends at school told me there was no Santa and I remember arguing with them at recess. When I got home I asked my mom, and she took me aside and told me the truth. I cried for a while (yes, I was a sensitive child) - and then asked about the Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy - and cried some more. I don't see the big deal in letting her believe a little while longer if she still does. And if she's pretending, what's the harm? It makes things more fun :)
How do I tell my 14 year old daughter the tooth fairy isn't real?
i can not believe how cruel people are being, clearly they are either all too imature or would become aweful parents. i undertaand how hard this can be. unfortunately i am not a mother, but i have pretty much brought my brother up without my parents. he has always asked me about these things and there is no easy way to explain it. i discovered these things at school, and if there is one thing i agree upon, dont let her find out this way, not only is it horrible for her, it makes the other children see her as an easy target, especially at her age. its wonderful she has kept hold of her childhood for so long, unlike most children, and it is also wonderful how she still had her baby teeth until she was 14, your daughter must be very healthy, but now is the time to explain to her about how the tooth fairy is not real. what i did was show my brother the little jewelry box my mum had with our things in it, she had kept our first lock of hair, our first pair of shoes and our teeth in that box, so i let my brother look through it. it also had our first letter's to father christmas inside. Then i just told him while he looked through the stuff. it seemed easier for him to be distracted by it, and he was a little bit upset at first but i reminded him of certain memories and the whole thing didnt matter anymore. i hope you find the right words. =] WW
Is it time I told my 8-year-old, who still believes in the tooth fairy and Father Christmas, the truth?
I agree with you - it's best that the child learns from you.Not because you can bring it to him in a gentler way but because of the way he will be ridiculed at school once other kids get to know about it.Be prepared, however, that a reaction (if your son has been attending public school) would be a question, "You LIED to me all these years?" - it happened to my coworker once she came clean to her son about Santa, Tooth Fairy and other mythical creatures.You will also be wrecked with guilt because you will be singlehandedly severing his mental connection with the childhood. Yes, I would have given you a hug should you live in my area.Just say to him that you need to tell him something important. Start with the difference between small kids and adults. Ask him which group he belongs to - he will say that he's an adult. So, as an adult, his initiation path is to learn that all those creatures is to keep the childhood exciting for small kids, and for him it will stop from this point onwards. Instead, like an adult, he will be getting money so he can get a gift for himself.Make it about empowerment and growth and not about "You won't be my little baby anymore".Also, add that the reason you are coming clean is because other kids might have learned about it a long time ago, so you don't want your child to be ridiculted and made fun of: this is what adults do, they protect one another from harm. And now that you and him are both adults, you have a new relationship too: one based on trust, honesty and no more silly kids stories.
What do I tell my kid when she asks what the tooth fairy does with her teeth?
My five year old daughter already knows that fairies (in general), ogres, genies, superheroes, talking animals and witches do not exist. She loves fairy tales and cartoons and she at first asked about those entities. At all times she was told the difference between reality and fiction.Her Mom and I are still going on with Santa Claus, perhaps not to be too rationalist on the poor child... that would be the sole exception.Our daughter doesn't seem at all to be frustrated by the fact that her fantasy world is reduced to Santa. So I guess it doesn't really matter much what you tell your kids about the Tooth Fairy. They can take it.Addenda: After my daughter began losing her teeth and finding each time a few chocolate coins under the pillow she believes in the Tooth Fairy. So now they are two, with Santa. But I solemnly swear that those two are and will be the limit…
What age do you tell the kids there is no Tooth Fairy?
This is why parents shouldn t ever start this stupid junk in the first place. I never got my kid to believe that crap, THEREFORE his holidays weren't "RUINED" and the feeling will always be the same for him. Whereas NONE of those things are EVER the same after learning the truth about santa, the easter bunny etc, which is all bunch of pagan none sense anyway. I don't see him going off and having a shooting spree because he was denied being told a lie and deceived in his early childhood so he could get a big let down as he got older. I adjusted after learning the truth at the age of 11, but those things were never the same for me again.I would have rather know the truth from the start. Just tell her.
My nine year old is asking me if the Easter Bunny/Tooth Fairy, etc. exist, do I tell her the truth?
If you feel she is not ready to hear the truth - my answer is don't. Let her be a child for as long as is possible - my ten, nearly 11 year old daughter, has doubts, but still believes - childhood is too short these days as it is.... My son was about 7 (now 16) - and I cried because of the loss of inocence and wonder in magic. My 7 year old daughter - relishes in the magic and yes my 16 year old still helps the magic to stay alive along as possible for my girls. Your daughter will decide when she is ready and not before. Why destroy the things that truly keep childhood magical. As you are aware to tell can have long lasting repercussions emotionally. She will let you know in no uncertain terms when she is ready not to believe. Some of the questions, she has are probably more for reasurrance in their existance, that they are truly real!!
Parents, does your child still believe in the Tooth-Fairy?
My daughters both believed until they entered middle school (or at least they couldn't seem to figure out how the money got under their pillows). Both are very light sleepers and they would have their teeth so far under their pillows that I would drive myself crazy trying to find it. Most kids realize it at 7-9 years old (same with Santa and the Easter Bunny), but if you let them enter middle school still believing, you're setting them up for teasing or a shocking blow. Best to tell the truth before then, Or, you could do what I did and leave the tooth out (it was so late by the time they were both out cold), that my youngest daughter found her tooth, cried her eyes out and I had to spill my guts. Once she knew, I told her I would still play TF, and she drove herself nuts trying to catch me taking the tooth and leaving the money. She never caught me and now we laugh about it. She lost her last tooth when she was 12. A lot of parents think it's lying to their children, but I looked at it as developing their imagination and sense of fantasy. I didn't want my children growing up too fast. There has to be something to conqure the fears and the boogy man. Santa, the tooth fairy and the Easter Bunny do that until they are old enough to process and understand the difference between reality and fantasy. Now they carry on the tradition with their little cousin and have a ton of fun doing it.
What do you say when your child asks if the tooth fairy is real?
We never pretended any of them were real. We don't celebrate Christmas, as our religion has plenty enough holidays without incorporating those of others. So here are your answers: What age did you tell your child they werent real? We always taught our child that Santa, the Easter bunny, tooth fairy, etc, were like any other belief - it's up to the person whether they believe, and it's inappropriate of us to say otherwise. Did your child find out on their own from someone else? She always knew. o r do you keep everything alive and continue on telling your child its real? Our holidays are plenty "alive." and how many of you still mark 'From Santa' on your christmas gifts? We don't exchange Christmas gifts. Now, to turn your question around. You stated: but than again you have that one kid that makes them upset by telling them that all of it is not real. Our child had to spend her younger years dealing with people who assumed she believed in something that doesn't exist, or who told her "Santa isn't bringing you anything" because we don't celebrate Christmas. She was also told she must be a bad girl, because Santa visits "all" good children. Hurt works both ways. All the best.