How do I get my stay at home husband dad to cook and clean

As an Indian male, would you be willing to be a stay home husband/dad, whether in India or abroad, if a prospective wife asks you to be one?

Times are changing, times are tough. Being a dependent parent is a hard thing in relationship. It's an yes and no question.

if you are a stay at home dad (keeping all tat raised eye brows and the point of discussion at every marriage ceremony that happens in your family)
all that your parents money spent on your precious education is a waste of time and their hard earned money. Its also waste of national resource as that engineer or doctor or lawyer or banker could have been someone else.

but,

being a stay at home dad is a great advantage in terms of reaching out and showing your wife your dedication towards the family and strengthening your relationship.

it helps you give your child the relationship it requires with a parent, rather than giving him/her a maid or baby sitter. Or bringing your parents to look after your child (trust me child grown with grandparents is very adamant and irritatingly arrogant) which also complicates issues with mutual parents being a pressure on each other in ways unimaginable (managing in laws is tough job for both mutually in present society, we all agree)

So to be or not be. Is the question now!
yes, if you can manage few raised eye brows and you have a friend circle which knows you better and supports you. Go ahead be a stay at home husband as a parent.

But, try and earn some money through your skills by being a freelancer. Make time for hobbies and excel in them. Be prepared to get few harsh words from relatives and if you and your wife have simple tastes and are happy it is all that matters.
the trend of home schooling a child is also up n coming concept and it is essentially a great thing, saving lot of money on good for nothing schools in India (precisely on an average 60,000per year depending on city you are staying at)
stay at home husband is a great concept, provided there are certain rules that are followed.
1. Let go of your ego.
2. Wife has a respect for the man who stays at home and does never think low of him
3. Going freelance and earn a bit
4. Remember you are not at home on holiday but as a responsible adult sharing your wife's dream

My dad is here for vacation and he keeps insisting that I should do all the household chores and speaks discouragingly that I don't have a job. How can I change him?

You can’t, darling. (I use pet names such as this all the time at home without regard to gender, so please do not think I am trying to be condescending or offensive, OK?)

Many of us are actually seeking to turn back the clock into the mythology of the times not so long ago when a single stream of income could “just naturally” support a whole household.

With all due respect to your father, he probably grew up in a time when nobody had really heard of gender equality or the so-called “glass ceiling” yet, and he’s probably afraid to admit that he has made an emotional connection somewhere between non-traditional roles as he has understood them to exist today, and some form of “immorality.” So is it BECAUSE you don’t have a job that he expects you to do all the household chores? Could it even be that he wants or expects grandchildren out of your marriage?

Perhaps. You will have to decide for yourself, determine as best you can where his “pain point” is or what is bugging him about the issue in the first place, and then just generally decide how to love him through it all. But trying to “change” him is a false assumption. It just won’t work.

I hope this has helped.

Case closed: 09/08/2017