My best friend just came out to me as a lesbian. What should I do?
With all due respect, this is about her, and it has nothing to do with you. Be a good friend and support the path she's taking.One of my dearest friends made it clear that she was attracted to me. I told her that I loved her but, not in that way.We're still best friends, and we have been for fifty-three years.You know one thing about her that you didn't know before. You know that she's identifying as a lesbian.I hope you understand that #1 is all you know.This can go in a few different ways.The two of you go on being best friends forever.If she is attracted to you sexually, and I highly doubt it, talk to her like I did with my friend, and then both of you go on with your lives as best friends.You continue as you are, attributing feelings to her which she may or may not have, you get so worked up and walk away.I'm obviously much older than you. Please listen to me.After all these years, with all the memories, special events and moments that you've shared, your friend telling you that she's a lesbian is at the bottom of list.I'm sure that she wants the best for you. Why wouldn't she?I'm equally sure that you want the best for her. Why wouldn't you?If you feel that you must talk to her about this, do it with an open heart and an open mind. My advice is to acknowledge how lucky you are. You have a best friend, and she's gay. Imagine all the things you get to learn about each other as you go through life.I know how lucky I am to have my dear friend. I hope you'll feel the same way about yours.
Do you have any friends you think of as freaks?
Yes I have one freaky friend and she is my best friend. Freaks are fun people.
How should my friend tell her mom that she is a lesbian?
This will really depend on a lot of things such as her living situation and comfort level. She will know when the time is right if it ever comes at all. It could be really tough on her for a while after she comes out. I told my mom by telling her I was in love with someone but that I was nervous about how she would feel about it. She eventually asked if it was a woman and I told her it was and how happy she made me. I do have a close relationship with my mom but she's never been accepting of lesbians. She said "You're my daughter and you deserve to be happy and I will always love you no matter what." On the other hand when my father found out he was really upset. It took months for him to start to come around and I couldn't be around him for a while. She will be living with her parents so she won't have a choice and is still young. Personally, I think she should wait. It took me 10 years. Good luck to your friend.
I think my friend is freaking lesbian, should I stay friends with her?
That happened to my wife a couple of years back; I was away and her friend came over to keep her company, my wife knew that her friend swung both ways but she like you had no desire. Anyway they went out to a club and came back and drank even more; basically my wife got seduced and drank from the hairy cup. Next day what’s that saying, ‘awkward’ to put it mildly. It’s mixed my wife up considerably now, because before this happened she never thought she would or could enjoy it but she did. I am not upset, simply because it was with other women, for some reason, cheating with a woman seems erotic rather than anything else.
I think my teenage daughter is a lesbian?
People have there own choices. Everyone is different and if she wants to be a lesbian you shoudn't stop or look down on her. She is your daughter and everyone is different. I think you should be alert, as its the same as a guy coming and having sex with your daughter. Just because there the same sex you shoudn't be cautious, you need to be. keep a close ey on them and if anything like that happens again you should talk to your daughter and confront her, even if shes not. It best to have asked than to have made the mistake and not. She may need a mothers love to help her. It real comes down to you. You know your daughter and can only do right by her. Other people can only advice you! Good luck
Hi im 13 im a lesbian should i tell my mum?
At 13 you feel like you know yourself and the world. I am 26 and one thing I have learnt is I dont know myself or the world. You have (believe it or not) just entered your teenage years and the world has changed A LOT recently, more than you relalise. It is 100% normal to question every part of your life. So maybe you are a lesbian, maybe you are bi, maybe you are experiencing exploration of your own sexuality. You will find out the answer in time. Whatever you do, the most important thing is to be 100% honest with yourself. Telling your mum you are a lesbian is a big move, and it is important that if you chose tell her, it is when you are 100% comofrortable to do so in your own mind and the idea of telling feels comfortable too. If either of those feel uncomfortable, thing why that is and what that means to you about yourself. Ultimately, your mum will always love you no matter what could ever happen. Love is love.
Should I let my daughter sleep over her gay friends house?
Whether he is gay or not plays no part in this decision. If you trust your daughter enough its fine. Even if someothing did happen between them would that matter?? Think about when yuo were a kid, when was the first time you or someone you know fooled around. Anyways, if your sure hes a good kid, and your daughter is trustworthy then theres no reason why they shouldnt do a sleepover. If still uncertain, have them sleepover at your house first while you are home?
Is My Daughter a Lesbian?
I suspect that my 16-year-old daughter might be a lesbian. One day i found her notebook on the floor and i was raising it up and then i noticed in an open page a text which read her name <3 a girl's name. Under it she had written: "I love U <3". And on some other pages she had written the same girl's name of the heart within. I wasn't expecting this, even though I have wondered that she always attaches a lot of pictures and posters of celebrity girls in every corner of her room. And she cuts paper hearts and puts them next to some these pictures.. She never speaks to me about boys or her crushes. Whenever i ask her that is there in her school any cute boy/boys she never answers or she says: "Nope." Her best friend's mom told me how her daughter always speaks about boys and crushes to her so openly. Why my daughter never speaks these kinds of things to me? When on TV someone is gay and i say that he/she must be gay and kind of stuff, she always says: "Why you always have to mention about that?" or "So what if he/she is? What does it matter?" I'm not a homophobic, but it seems a little shocking if she's one of them.. She loves kids and says that she wants kids in the future but she never mentions anything about men or like that. While watching TV i say to her: "How handsome he is, isn't?" And she says nothing or she mumbles: "Umm.. I dunno.." But when i say to her: "Wow she's so beautiful and gorgeous." She shyly says: "Umm.. yes she is.." Once when she and her best friend was in her room at our house, i heard that they discussed about her best friend's crushes on boys. And then her best friend asked her: "So, what about "her"? Did you see her at school today?" My daughter answered merrily: "Uhh, yes i did!" And her friend said: "So you were lucky today." And my daughter said: "Yes i was! I'm so happy now." So what you guys think? Is she really a lesbian? Should i ask her about it directly? Or is this just a phase? I really hope so..
Should I come out to my slightly homophobic friend?
Kinda having a dilemma here. So a few years ago I used to really like one of my best friends, in fact, she was the reason I realized I wasn't straight, & the way she acted around me I didn't think she was either. Then last year, she said something that kinda pissed me off, like "I love gay guys, they're so funny, but if one of my friends ever came out as lesbian or bi I wouldn't be friends with them anymore because I wouldn't want them to be into me." (pathetic & immature, I know) but now I finally feel ready to tell her & another of my really close friends since i've known them for like 6+ years & it's probably about time, but idk how my friend will react. A part of me still thinks she might be into girls & just not realize it because of the way we still act around eachother (I get the feelinh sometimes people actually think we're together) & I keep telling myself that one of my best friends wouldn't ditch me because of my sexuality, but I honestly don't know. How should I tell her if I do?
Should i allow my teenage daughter to have a sleepover with boys?
Hi. So it is my teenage daughter's 1th birthday in two weeks, and we are letting her have a sleepover. However the majority of her friends are male and she want's too invite these to stay the night. She has a boyfriend and has already explained to me that she won't invite him- i know that she has done nothing more with kiss. I am quite confused what to do in this situation, as it's not my daughters fault that all her friends are lads. (They are 15 years old) She wants to invite four girls and three lads, the lads and girls have never met and the lads all have girlfriends(who will not be attending the sleepover) So my daughter has tried to assure me that, nothing 'dodgy' will go on. They will be sleeping downstairs in the front room, and me and my husband will be upstairs the whole night. Should we allow this to go forward?