How can I stop a girl from thinking I'm a creep after I already came off as a creep?
First - does she think you're a creep, or were you being a creep?Are we talking sitting in a tree outside her window naked….or talking shit behind her back … or being a bit stalky / obvious while looking for ways to profess your undying affection?Or were you at that kid that kept dead birds in their desk all through elementary school - and now finds that may have tainted the dating pool?Is it a misunderstanding?Second - it really depends on what you are willing to do, and what she is willing to accept.The key is honesty, time and friends… if she's shut you out - move along completely until an opportunity presents it self to briefly, honestly and sincerely apologize - without sounding like a boy band song.Don't force it, let her loosen up and control the pace -Show her friends that you are not like the old man on Family Guy if the opportunity naturally presents itself.Than give it time.It may never be fixed … but it will sink into the back of her mind - eventually.Edit:Read the anonymous post - sounds like your offense is you Houdini’ed for a bit - and took a hit for it? Is that it? If so may be more in the aloof or jerk category, than the creep carergoryIs this a romantic interest? It's clearly someone whose opinion of you matters -If so, friends opinions of you can help warm things up - and attention, in small bursts, can do wonders.If you are working together or alone - focus your attention (think of a spotlight) to be warm, make her feel special… be genuine.Be engaging and supportive without being a kiss ass. Let the good outweigh the bad, it's not an immediate fix…She probally thinks you are playing games or being coy - people are allowed to be busy… she has to change her mind - you have to work to remain on it.Friends opinions matter, being genuine matters more..Just be yourself - cliche ; but there really isn't anything artificial you can do
Am i a creep? what is this?
not going to happen, she labeled you a creep. it will take time to become friends with a girl who has already gave you this name. for starters you just met her so give her some breathing room, woman do not like the man who is too forward to quick. it gives them the creeps, see where the name comes in to play. it makes them feel uncomfortable when any guy just comes up and wants to know all about them right away. you need to slow down and save some of this the next time you meet, very casual a simple hello at first, the next day introduce yourself, day after small conversation lasting for no more then 5 to 10 minutes, etc... etc... once they get to know you for not being a creep, it is then you will make some good (girl) friends. good luck, and remember to go slowly. (do not tell them all about you right away) listen to what she has to say and respond to her questions. you will find this somewhat more interesting. easy there tiger, lol, again good luck.
What was the weirdest thing a creep did to get into your pants or get at you?
Yes, finally! I’ve been waiting for a question like this so I could whip this story out of the archives.This happened to a friend of mine but I was present when this happened so I guess it counts.Many many years ago a very good friend of mine was in my side of town on holiday. As are all well laid out plans amongst friends who love to drink, we head to the nearest pub. A few beers in and we head to the loo to relieve our tiny bladders.I’m sure most if not all guys will attest to this, in the men’s restroom the cardinal rule is the one urinal rule.Here’s a graphic to explain it for all you heathens that are not aware.My friend and I despite all those beers, most certainly adhered to those rules.We carry on about our business, chatting and recounting funny high school stories when Mr. Richard* arrives. Now, bear in mind that there are probably another 6 or 7 urinals next to us. Yes, this is going exactly where you think this is going.Mr. Richard positions himself right between the two of us. I suddenly feel super conscious and tense up at this moment and I did that weird thing where I try to cover my penis by awkwardly holding the end of my shirt over it. I can’t be the only one that does this when someone breaks the rules.I digress.While I’m fumbling with my shirt forcefield, it’s at this point where Mr. Richard proceeds to peer over the urinal and look right at my friends penis and then at the top of his lungs proclaim, “NICE DICK!”.For me, pee that once flowed like the river Nile now dried up like the Sahara.My friend on the other hand, without missing a beat said, “Thanks! I like it too!” He then zipped up and walked out like the guy had just complimented his shirt.When I met my friend outside he admitted that he was freaked out but decided best to stay calm in case the guy flipped out.Touché my friend. Touché. You didn’t wash your hands though. Now go back in there.*name changed for comedic purposes
As a man, what things do women do that creep you out?
Saying things like “men are idiots/douchebags/narcissists/creeps". I don't go around saying “women are whores/sluts/bitches/psychos" and if I did it would be just as bad. It's distasteful and insulting and especially so without some specifying modifier.Addendum to the above —I loathe when you respond “not all men are like that" and the woman gets incredibly pissed and acts like you've said something insulting. Then she'll say something like “I KNOW not all men. That's not the point.” — how's this, then don't fucking start the sentence with “Men" instead start it with “some men" or “many men". It's not that hard.Threatening to sleep/blow/do whatever with someone else to try to get us to say “oh, not him, ME". That is SO unattractive it has ruined many a good night. It sounds like your standards are garbage and that's no good.Insanely attracted to money. I was having a really good night hanging out with a bartender friend when someone said they won the 10k lottery. She dropped everything and started hardcore flirting/ touching his arm/making plans with him to go on vacation. She had a long-term boyfriend. It really screwed up how I view some women honestly, because it was disgusting.The woman who thinks you're being a chauvinist by driving on the date, pulling out her chair, paying for the meal, or doing other traditional man things. It's called being raised with those values — it's not a sign of my oppressing you, and the fact that it's enough of a problem that you need to throw an attitude doesn't mean you’re progressive, it means you're an ass.The women who bring nothing to the table but expect a guy with a good job, good house, nice car, etc. Sure, I want to be ABLE to take care of a woman, but I don't want to HAVE to. If your contribution is working a part time job and trying to find yourself while I have to deal with all the adult responsibilities, I'm out.
My crush thinks I'm a creep but I've done nothing wrong. How do I get to know her more despite my situation?
I’m sorry to say, but she is probably right, even if you don’t realize it.Looking at your comment, she clearly rejected you over a year ago, and you are still pursuing her.Looking trough your question history, it’s 2 months old, and filled with questions alternating between “how do I get this girl I’m kinda interested in to like me” and “how do I deal with missing my ex”. Mixed in with those is one about how you like over 100 girls, how to deal with liking someone on quora and how to force girls to like nice guys instead of bad, “exciting”, ones.It also includes a question about how to deal with your aspergers.I don’t know you personally, so I could be (and hope I am) wrong about this, but it gives the impression that you are trying to go after a whole slew of different girls at the same time (or with very small amounts of time between), approach them without being able to read their social cues (or being aware of what cues you yourself are giving off, due to your aspergers), and then continue pursuing them long after they have made it very clear that they are not interested, and even after it’s gone so far that other people feel forced to intervene and tell you to knock it off (the people telling you she thinks you’re a creep).You also admit to being socially awkward, which means you might very well not realize when you are acting creepy.Acting that way, you may very well have lost your chance with her forever, but if you want to have ANY chance at all, you would need to back off and stop doing the things that lead her to thinking you’re a creep in the first place.MAYBE, if you’re really lucky, and you really do change, she might eventually remove that label from you, and if you’re even luckier, you might be able to get a fresh start at that point. That would take a long time though.It might help if you start of by apologizing to her for the way you’ve been acting (if you do see anything wrong in it - don’t lie, or she will probably be able to tell, and make the situation worse), but I’m an aspie myself and could be wrong about that.
Am I a creep?
It's kind of sad, but sounds like a normal infatuation. We all get them. We think the world of the person during that magical time. Two months sounds OK, it might have lasted a little longer if you had contact. Unfortunately in this age, people in the infatuation stage screw up their perspective by consummating the relationship before real love begins. It sounds perfectly human, normal, and healthy. Too bad you made promises, but that's pretty normal too, just a learning experience. It's nice that you wish you had thought better.For her, this is also normal and human and healthy. Maybe this experience with you will save her in the future from a REAL creep. She's a person and not made of glass. We all get dumped and we all dump.A big concern would be if she spent an exorbidant amount of money to keep up this "dating" in the hopes it would pan out. It would still be OK, but be careful about that in future long distance relationships.
Am I a creep?????????????
What you're feeling is normal and I'm glad that you aren't pursuing, but the first step towards doing is "thinking." I know that teens are dressing more and more provocative these days (not gonna get on a soap box) but avoid places and magazines where they hang out. I don't care what they look like, teens of any age are to be mentored by older men and women not sought after as romantic partners.At your age, you and them are a mental continent away and have very little to offer one another in the long run. Look for a woman around you own age with the same looks (they do exist!) My wife and I look very young, but somehow found each other, and are a great match.Good luck!
Define what a creep is...?
Alright girls I need some help here... I had a small little crush on this girl I know. Nothing all that big just one of those things you get for like a week or two maybe and then it goes away. Anyway she must have been able to pick up on it, and she started spreading rumors. Since I was trying to defuse the situation I thought it would help to just more or less pretend she didn't exist, so that she might get the hint. I deleted her off social networking sites (MySpace, and Facebook), and refused to make any eye contact with her. Next thing I know, she starts spreading a rumor that I am a creeper. So know I am really confused, I thought someone who was a creeper was that old guy in the bar who hits on girls 30 years younger than him, or a guy who is more or less a stalker and just won't take the hint that a girl just isn't that interested in him? So, wouldn't I be the exact opposite of that? Maybe she's just embarrassed that she spread the rumor that I like her, and then she just looks like a fool, and so she wants to try and vilify me? IDK, a girls mind can be a very confusing/ scary thing.
Am i a creep?
You're not a creep for asking to paint someone when they gave you no indication that it made them uncomfortable.That said, women don't owe you their time just because you are a "nice guy"Now, moving on from that issue.It's very difficult to be bisexual in society because a person feels excluded from both queer and straight communities. I don't know if you know this, but bisexual people have the highest suicide rate of any sexual orientation.Depression and anxiety can be debilitating and you deserve to get professional help. There are many ways to do this including speaking to your primary care provider, a counselor, a social worker, or going to group therapy sessions. If finances are an issue, there are ways around this like community programs and private practitioners who work on a sliding scale or do pro bono work.If you're looking for more resources or need someone to talk to, I highly recommend psych-resources.tumblr.comIf you feel that you're an immediate danger to yourself or others you shouldcall a crisis linego to your local ERor call 9-1-1
What is a creep?
According to etymology which is the history of words the noun creep is:creep (n.)"a creeping motion," 1818, from creep (v.). Meaning "despicable person" is 1935, American English slang, perhaps from earlier sense of "sneak thief" (1914). Creeper "a gilded rascal" is recorded from c. 1600, and the word also was used of certain classes of thieves, especially those who robbed customers in brothels. The creeps "a feeling of dread or revulsion" first attested 1849, in Dickens.The Urban Dictionary defines creep as:creep1950's word used by women to describe an undesirable man.“He is such a creep. Who would want to go out with him?”