How do people react when they find out you were adopted?
I have always known that I was adopted. Mine was a closed adoption. My birth parents were teenagers when I was born. I never really knew what it meant to be adopted until I was much older and I read in a book how babies were created.When people find out that I am adopted, there are a few types of reactions I have seen over the years:I’m looked upon with pity which is often followed by stupid questions. “Oh, you were adopted? Who are your real parents?” or “Oh, I never knew!” “Why did they give you up? Was there something wrong with you?” Hmmm….I was just wondering the same thing about you…what the hell is wrong with YOU?!!I’m thought of as some type of freak. “OMG, I never knew you were adopted!” Like yeah, dude. I was born on Mars!I’m like the novelty news item of the day. “Hey, did you know that Lora was ADOPTED?? Who would have thought?” Gee, I’m sorry. I didn’t know how to break the news to you. Do you feel better now that you know? I guess I should have had it tattooed on my forehead so there wouldn’t be any surprises!And my personal favorite, “You are adopted?? How bizarre is that? My cousin’s ex-mother-in-law’s uncle was adopted. He was bipolar and would do the weirdest things.”And there you have it folks…all of the wacky/tacky things you can say about adopted people right here on Quora!
Wife wants to give baby up for adoption?
I usually agree with Philippa, Char, and Baby Boomer, but not this time. I've never been raped but I know a little about the trauma it can cause -- lifelong trauma. To have a daily reminder of that brutal act would be too much for me to deal with. I am assuming your wife wasn't able to have an abortion as she found out she was pregnant too late to do anything about it, but maybe she chose not to abort because of personal beliefs. Either way, that's of no consequence because it's too late now anyway. I don't think you're a bad guy for knowing you couldn't love this child. I can't blame you at all for that. Unfortunately, yes, the rapist may have rights to the child (depending on the state in which you live). However, if he wants to raise the child and you and your wife don't, that is an option. Your wife can terminate her parental rights freely and let the rapist have the child. He will have to prove it's his child and since there's a statute of limitations on rape (5 years in most states), he could be tried and convicted if your wife presses charges. In that case, the child would be available for adoption by someone else. Your wife doesn't have to remain a part of this child's life. She can terminate her parental rights and never see the baby after it has been born. If I may give a piece of advice though: it would be nice if your wife wrote down a complete medical history of herself and her immediate family so that the child will at least have that in the future. I know that you feel as if neither of you can love this baby, but you don't have to love it to be kind. Providing a medical history is a kind thing to do, especially if there is a history of heart disease, cancer, or some other disease that the child should be aware of in the future. It's not the baby's fault it was conceived; it was just a horrible, tragic act by an awful person that made it happen. A few pictures of herself and a letter to the baby (for when it grows up) would be helpful, also. Many adopted people grow up wondering who they look like -- do they share facial features with their mother, for example. A letter explaining why she felt that she couldn't raise the child herself will answer questions the child has down the road. Best wishes for you.
Baby wont make eye contact while drinking bottle?
Ok. We have a baby here that is now 8 1/2months old. This baby has great social skills, loves people, has met all the milestones that should be met by this age, however will NOT make eye contact when being held to have a bottle. Has anyone had this problem or have any suggestions? This is not our birth baby, and this wee one had many moves in the first 5 months of life. I am concerned by this. I do everything, but this baby will NOT look at me when at the bottle....
How do you adopt your goddaughter?
You'd have to sign a lot of papers and talk to a social worker and get your friend to sign a lot of papers. You are very nice to want to adopt the baby and it might be best if you adopt her now. I know it's wrong, but right now she is not safe. If her Mom was just raped, she could be hurt by the same person. Talk to the social services in your area to get custody of a baby that needs you now more than ever. God bless your sole for wanting to help such a suffering baby girl. Good luck! ~Taylor
Got a girl pergenet!;I'm 16!! Abortion? What do i do? 10 points!?
So Im 16 and in 9 months i still going to be 16. Anyways about maybe 2 month ago me and a good friend of mine were a little outtA control Hpynotiq ahha well anyways now she's telling me she's pregnet with my baby She is pregnet. pretty sure its mine. she doesnt really mess around Well anyways now she wants me to decide by the end of the month If she should keep it or not idk what to do Money is not an issue. I Cant tell my parents.> they Trust me to much >Captain of my Varsity soccer team, President of student council, President of the spainsh club, Captain of the Varsity Tennis team, Run my School store, and Vice President of DECA Im a Junior In High school She's a Senior. like im still young but i dont wanna kill a unborn child. What should i do>>?