How to deal with my parents who use double standards with my siblings?
As a family lawyer[1], I know every family has some issues in it and the behavior discriminations can be due to many different causes. So first you should find out the root cause of the issue and this can only be achieved with a detailed discussion. have a table talk with your parents. But before this prepare your discussion in points. You can write down all the points to be discussed on a paper. discuss your points one by one. Be polite during the discussion especially if you have to deal with a step parent. in case of a stepparent, it’s a high chance that your stepparent will try to make you angry and loud during the discussion to wind up the discussion and to turn it into his/her favor. Don’t accuse them harshly or don’t shout on them, even if they are wrong. Keep calm and listen their points / answers to your questions. put yourself in their shoes. Try to solve your issue with discussion. Your politeness will change and improve their behavior towards you, and they will understand you. and you will find that most of your misunderstandings will be cleared.Footnotes[1] Attorney Profile - Family Immigration Associates LLC
How To Deal With Discipining Double-Standard In Mixed Family?
I think that you should be using both disciplinary techniques. Groundings and taking privileges away are appropriate for the ages but they're getting to be too old for spankings. As they get older, both the parents and kids should mature; spankings are for 8 and under. But before you dish out punishment, both of you have a sit down with the child and explain what they did wrong and tell them why you're doing what you're doing. I agree with you that saying "i'm disappointed in you" isn't going to do a whole lot. But having a talk with the child before giving out a grounding or taking something away is what should be done. It'll reinforce what you're trying to get across, that what they did isn't acceptable and that unacceptable things comes with consequences.
Asian parents vs White parents (double standard)?
Growing up Asian I always wondered about how our parents raised us. Read below: WHITE PARENT: Dad wants his son to be a Football jock , however, the son is interested in Ballet instead. So the dad gets angry at his son and yells at him. The son is forced to play football to please father and is unhappy with his decision. Although he is far more talented and loves Ballet, dad wants to raise a football jock and not a sissy Ballet dancer. ASIAN PARENT: Parents want their child to be a doctor, engineer, or lawyer, however, the child is a talented artist offered a scholorship. The child dreams of a career in art and follow their passion. However, parents get angy and threaten to disown him and say "Do you want to be poor all you life?" So the asian kid pursues a career he is not interested in or skilled at. Why is it that whites are considered to be abusive and psycho when they want their kids to be jocks, but Asian parents are not for doing the same thing to their child?
What are the worst examples of hypocrisy and/or double standard you've seen/experienced in your family?
Things have changed greatly in the US since I was a teen-I graduated from high school in 1960.I earned a free ride for my first year of college but my father, a ultra conservative man, felt it was not appropriate for me to take the scholarship as a man with a family to support will need it more”.It made no difference that I had excelled in high school or that I had my own goals, in his mind he assumed I’d soon get married and money spent in college would be wasted.As a young woman in the business world in the 1970s it was not uncommon for me to be paid less than a man that I trained to do the job. That’s why I finally went to a union job where equal pay was based on seniority not gender.Ive fought for equality since I was 17 and before I even knew the word as it relates to gender, race, culture or religion.Things sure have changed.
These annoying double standards between kids and adults...why do they still exist?
Why is it okay for parents to pick on their kids and say rude comments occasionally (for example, their weight) , but if the child were to make good comebacks, then it's taboo. This standard also goes to adults being mean to kids, but kids can't do it back. Like on The Proud Family, Suga Mama is mean to Oscar and constantly puts him down, but if Oscar is mean back, he gets injured and he's automatically the bad guy. At school, kids are allowed to pick on EACH OTHER and get away with it, but if kids were to pick on teachers, they either get suspended for 5 to 30 days. It's unfair. There are some teachers who deserve the bullying anyway. If a daughter were to turn 18, the parents would still treat her like she's 11, but if a son were to turn 18, then he's free. WTF. I'll admit that there are some adults who don't deserve the disrespect that some kids give them. Those adults are the only ones that I will respect, not the adults who constantly insult kids.
Why do parents exhibit hypocrisy and double standards?
I have known parents like this, but I am fortunate they weren't mine. I have chosen to follow their example with my now-17-year-old and it has turned out very well. What I believe is happening here is that your parents believe in a strong hierarchy structure of families. They are at the top and you are decidedly at the bottom. You are not only not-equal ... you are and always will be less-than. Now, of course parents are the head of the house and they are not equals with their children; they are leaders and the decision-makers. But there's a wonderful middle ground where parents head the family, but realize the child is a fully-formed person in their own right - and that what the parent considers the kid's childhood, will one day be an independent adult's memory of their childhood-past. Your parents should in fact be modeling "parents are not perfect" (which does not diminish their authority in any way) and the corollary of that is "kids are not perfect." Both generations should be working as hard as they can to improve themselves and do the right thing. Both generations should also be willing to forgive the natural human failings of the other. But some parents don't seem to understand that leadership is not the same as being a different class of person, in their minds the child is second-class and always will be. My advice is to show them you are willing to listen to their direction and do not expect them to be perfect. But find a way to firmly, gently insist on being treated with respect. Do this with no anger or self-centeredness; it is your human right. You can teach your parents to accept you as a distinct individual, but it might take a while.
How can I increase awareness about double standards against men in society?
Whenever you encounter something that feels like something a man should or shouldn't do, compare that to what a woman shouldn't or should do in that situation. Then, try to reason how this standard came to be, while keeping in mind that it might not be relevant any longer. It's harder then it seems. Everyone has seen some standards that they think should be corrected, but there are always some you miss. A person might find it morally wrong that a father in a divorce doesn't have the same standing in a trial, and yet assume there is no such thing as a woman raping a man. One last point: any unbalance in gender issues tends to negatively affect both genders in some ways. For example: in some cultures, women are expected to be housewives at home while the men go and earn income for the family. Not only does make it difficult for women to enter the job market, but it also makes it difficult for men to be stay-at-home-husbands.
What is the difference between hypocrisy, double standard and irony? What are some examples?
IronyPrime Minister of Pakistan, Imran Khan, claiming he will teach[1] the Indian government, how to treat minorities[2]._______A person who smokes three packs of cigarettes each day, has a poster in his room which says: 'For more information on lung cancer, keep smoking'.Double StandardsYou love puppies and kittens: Aww, such a sweetheart you are.You love cows: You are fascist, extremist and backward._______Man talks about his sexual prowess: He is a legend.Woman talks about her sexual fantasies: She is just a slut._______Husband hitting wife: He is a monster. Someone please call the police and get him jailed.Wife hitting husband: He must have done something. He deserves it.HypocrisyAn 'intellectual' person thinks India is unsafe for a particular religious group. When this religious group starts facing ethnic cleansing in another country, he thinks India is the best country to welcome them._______A woman claims she supports gender equality, but doesn't want a girl child, supports prenatal sex determination, and thinks her son is entitled to a hefty dowry.(I have seen dozens like these)_______At a restaurant, a girl starts ranting against men. She claims to be independent & feminist. When the bill comes, she doesn't even look at it and just walks out, leaving the boys to pay.(real incident)Footnotes[1] Will ‘show Modi govt how to treat minorities’, says Pakistan PM Imran Khan[2] Religious minorities experiencing genocide in Pakistan: Scholar