Why do some white people adopt foreign babies?
My parents adopted my sister from Eastern Europe because they were horrified by the conditions of the orphanages and the poverty over there. Children are children. You should be grateful that people are willing to take on the huge responsibility of raising a child that is not their own. Why does race and nationality have to play any part of all? Have you adopted anyone?
My parents want to adopt but I don't want them to?
My parents, 47 and 55, want to adopt an infant/young child. I'm concerned that they want to do this for a selfish reason. We have 3 rooms at our house. One for me(I'm 14), one for my sister(She's 21, in the military and hasn't gone to college. She's planning on staying at our house and going to a community college so she can stay close by), and one for my parents. There isn't any more room at my house for another person. I'm sorry, but there honestly isn't. One of my parents make $13,000 a year and we sometimes have to live from paycheck to paycheck, so what makes them think that we can possibly afford home studies, toys, clothing, new furniture,adopting, etc while sending my sister $500 worth of snacks every 2 months? My other parent makes about that much if not less. Both my parents have health issues; my mom has mitral valve prolapse, OCD, depression, and is at risk for diabetes. My dad has diabetes. My dad works 12 hours a day 4 days a week. If we DID adopt, he wouldn't be around much to help take care of it. By the time I'm going to school, he's going to bed. By the time I get home from school, he's up and getting ready for work. My dad only gets certain vacation times throughout the year. My mom works at a school and has a limited amount of days she can take off. I know they'd expect me to help take care of it because they would be my brother/sister but that's not going to happen. It's not my responsibility. Here's the reasons I think they want to adopt. Reason 1:Empty nest syndrome. I'm going to be leaving the house soon. They want to prevent from having no "kids". Reason 2:My mom has even told me that she feels unloved sometimes because her babies are growing up. Reason 3:They think they'll be Good Samaritans if they help out a child in need. Reason 4:People they know are doing it/have done it. I'm not the only one being selfish. They haven't told my sister, family members/friends. They act like my feelings don't matter and aren't considerate of anyone else.
Is adoption indentured servitude?
Or is it like an arranged marraige? The adoptee has no power or choice in a relationship that is instigated by adoptive parents. While there might not be a labor componant, there is a role to be played, that of the good adoptee. And if the relationship is reciprical and familial why does the adoptee often get a major guilt trip for asking quesions about his family, history, and heritage? If there is no 'sentence' and adoptees are always 'free', or at least free at 18 like non-adopted people, why the scorn for wanting to find parents who existed before the adoptive parents came into the adoptee's life? When do adoptees pay off their debt to the APs?
Is adoption the only solution to helping orphans in orphanages?
A friend of mine is active with this group: http://www.sharingfoundation.org/about.h... It's an orphanage in Cambodia that doesn't do adoptions. At least they say that they're committed to the children staying in their own country. The programs they have there are really amazing.