I hate my mom's friend!!!!!!!!!!! Advice?
My mom made this new friend, lets call her Dot. When Dot came to my house for the first time ever, she sat down with my mom and grandparents and had tea together. I was in my room studying for a test on Monday. Anyhow, my mom came into my room about 2 hours later and told me to say "Hi" to Dot. So I got up and went into the living room (where she was). On the way there, I heard her say my name, so I stopped and listened. I heard her say, "Your daughter is not disciplined enough. I do not think that she has depression, she is just being selfish and demanding. She is using depression as a excuse to get what she wants." I didn't listen to the rest of the conversation because I ran into my room crying and started to slice my wrists. :'( 1) Dot never even met me. 2) She doesn't know my horrible childhood and personal problems. 3) Who gives her the right to judge a 13 year old girl that she NEVER MET?! Oh, and during that time, my mom was in the bathroom, so she never heard the conversation. Whenever Dot comes to my house, my grandparents treats her politely, but also somewhat coldly. Any advice? That fact that I tried to kill myself because of Dot is serious, right? My counselor knows about this btw.
I have a friend who doesn't listen to my advice?
i don't think she should go out with him, not anymore, but she really liked him and she wouldn't ask him out, now i'm pretty sure he's just a player, he wouldn't even ask her out. and i'm a really good friend to her, but she's a spoiled brat. her dad is rich, so she gets what she wants, she's never been grounded, even though she almost set her house on fire when i was over and she was playing with matches while i was working on our project, she thinks that because her parents let her have whatever she wants, then she should get whatever she wants from everyone. she also thinks that all of her problems are worse than all of the problems that you have or had... she's just a brat
My friend's relationship problem? Please give advice?
My friend likes this girl and he doesn't know how to say it to her. He's liked her for about 5 weeks now and he has most of his classes with her. He works at the commissary (grocery store) and he bags things and the girl came and requested him to bag her stuff and her mother gave him 10 dollars as a tip. He likes her but is afraid if he tells her then he might get a rejection or he might just loose a friend. So what do you think my friend should do in this situation? Thanks for the help.
How can you help your friend with a problem he doesn't want to talk about?
If you are saying he had once told you but he doesn't want to talk about further, then do one thing take him to a place and make him feel comfortable with you by trying everything if you really want to help your friend. Tell him how much you care for him and tell this one " You don't say a single word you just listen me then you will decide what would you do..??Only you will care for me, always there for me then why not I am for you, why..?? If you will not talk about your problem and you are getting hurt and do you know I can't see you like this, you make me feel as if I mean nothing to you. Okay fine. From today onwards you will not talk to me and will not be there for me even though anything bad happens to me. Because being your friend if I can't make you happy, can't bring smile in your face, can't help you to solve your problem (that too because of you, you don't want to talk about ) then what kind of friend am I, there is no need me. Its because "A friend in need is a friend indeed." and most importantly I am a kind of friend who want to be always with you in every odds in your life and help you get rid of those. Okay now you leave me. I am not fit for you but you are always fit for me. One thing I can do, I can pray for you May GOD solve your problem and keep you happy always. Good bye." If you know the person who is very much closed to your friend, then go to that closed one and talk to him and discuss about your friend's problem. And tell that closed person to talk to your friend, he may be listen to him. Here aim is anyhow your friend's problem should be solved.
How do you help a friend who's having family problems and they need help right at that moment? What can you say?
This is really good that you want to help your friend to cope up with the problem they're going through because you care for them.But the real problem they don't want to open up their family stories in front of you..So you can only just give them moral support,tell them or make them realize whatever may be the sitution or matter you are there beside them . For that you can do this by writing a note or msg that you really care for them and this stressful and sad face of them you can't see anymore .so,being a friend they can freely talk with you.And please make sure that they trust you.. :-)
Is it okay to talk about family problems with friends?
Let me tell you my story:One day my father was very angry on me and scolded me. Definitely, it hurts a lot, and many days later i may have shared to two persons : one, a close friend and another, a best friend that "my father is a very strict person" and expects me to be a better person.Close friend : It's okay yar, forget it. Pitaji hai, tujhe nahi daatenge tere bhale k liye toh kise... (He is your father, if he won't scold you for your betterment, than who would)Best friend : Ye jab hua tab mai kaha tha, miss kar diya \U0001f601 (where was i when this happen with a grin, missed it). Most of the time we are together, either at his home or mine. So we know most of each other life.Remember friend, that in this fast technologically driven life, we may be socially active but are very close to loneliness. And we have a urge to tell all of our daily events to at least one of our close friend. So, no harm in doing that, flow your emotions, ease your heart, but that does not mean that you have to bitch about your loved ones.On one hand you are saying they are your loved ones, then try to pick up positive things about them, no need to bitch about them, matter could be anything, but can be discussed and resolved.If you have felt guilty, it surely tells you have done something incorrect. Don't repeat it and find another way.Best luck and wish that your family issues get resolved and never happen again.
My friend is having family problems and I don`t know how to help him and he won`t talk to an adult. What do I do?
He probably at this stage just needs a solid person to hear him and be there for him. In time he will have the capacity and strength to listen to your advice.I came from a very abusive home and never talked to anyone about it. If I had and they had tried to get me to go to someone else, I would have shut down. It is so incredibly painful and private when this stuff is going on behind closed doors, and it takes a while for the person to be able to do something about it.So just regularly connect with him. Let him know that your home is always available for a meal, a chat, a hug. That you are there no matter what and he can trust you. That counts for more than anything right now. And when he is ready, let him know that there is help out there for this sort of thing and he doesn’t have to go through it alone.
What advice would you give to your married friend who wants to sleep at your place for 3 days because he had problems with his wife?
None. He's your friend looking for a place to crash and get some distance from his wife. It's obvious they've had a huge fight or disagreement, but if he doesn't ask you for advice, don't go sitting on the edge of the couch dispensing it when he's trying to get to sleep.When he's ready he’ll ask you for your advice, and then you can choose to give him your opinion, or ask him questions, whatever you feel is appropriate. He's your friend, and if he's not really a talker, he may just need a friend to hear him out while he goes on a bit of a rant complaining about his wife. Unless you know his wife or know both sides, you're only hearing one side, and you have to be careful not to take his side too much and inadvertently trash his wife. Don't do this drunk either, because you may say something inappropriate or he may, drunk talk isn't healthy or productive. Now, maybe a joint would be better, but after that, I doubt either of you will care about his problems or anyone's problems.Seriously, as his friend, you're only obligation is to support him mentally and emotionally through this, as a friend, nothing more. So if he just needs a place to sort things out, then just enjoy his company and hang out doing guy things, drinking, smoking, punching cows, playing pool, video games, watching porn, whatever floats your boat and doesn't sink the one you're in when you decide to go drunk fishing in the middle of the lake at 3am………….Really, just be there for him and be his friend. Don't worry so much because if he thought you'd say or do something wrong, he wouldn't have come to you for help in the first place.