Advice for moving across the country, alone?
I am 22 and have a boyfriend of 1.5 years. I am a hotel manager and have recently received a job offer to move across the country and manage 2 hotels. The job is in California (I have lived in California when I was 20) and I have always wanted to go back and live in California. Now I have the opportunity but there is so many thoughts going through my head. First Off, my boyfriend would NEVER relocate. I haven't told him about the offer but I always tell him my dream of moving to California. He always says that he will never leave Florida or his parents. I do love him, but I feel like even if he did not want to go I would go alone. The thought of even telling him that breaks my heart. And the thought of going to California excites and scares me! I do not want to break up but...I can't let him ruin my dreams! I feel like if i turn this offer down I will regret it forever. How can i approach him with this sticky situation??
How hard is it to move to another country? What advice would you give?
It’s a very wide question.The answer lies mostly within you.It’s partly in the place you seek, its entry requirements. Countries tend to be nicer to people who have most to offer. But leaving that aside.It’s mostly about you - what are you looking for? What climate? How you will you make a living? What culture do you like? Preferred languages? Personal wealth (you can move to London, but you won’t have a great time on minimum wage). Do you have a family? Will they move? How far are you prepared to go from the ones you leave behind?After that, draw up a list of places that are available to you. Then pick one.After that, I think it’s psychology. If you’re moving, move with your whole heart. Yes things will be different, and sometimes frustrating, but unless you can start a business that helps make them better, chances are you’re stuck with whatever you dislike. Always remember, you wanted to move.But the very beginning, before everything, is, why do you want to move? You know the saying, the grass is greener? It can be, but sometimes not.People can move from the unhappiness of their own country only to find it’s followed them to their new place. It was never the place you came from, it was within you.If you’re moving for the right reasons, and you plan well, I think that gives you the best chance of success.
What is some good advice for a country boy moving into the big city?
Pay attention to gun laws so you don’t spend a year in jail or eight in prison.City folk have no first hand experience with firearms leading to distorted views based on news reports and Hollywood entertainment. News media gun violence coverage is extremely disproportionate to real life incidence because it’s shocking and puts more eyeballs in front of advertising. It neglects to mention most of the victims are criminals. Due to its urban location, Hollywood has the same perspective it spreads via propaganda as outlined in the Entertainment Industries Council Gun Violence Depiction Book.Emphasize that wielding a firearm in selfdefense may ironically increase one’s risk of death or injury by increasing the likelihood that the assailant will use his or her own weapon.Consider having a character use a gun in what he/she believes is self-defense only to be charged with murder or manslaughter because it’s determined that excessive or unjustified lethal force was deployed.This leads to strict laws which are continuously changing. You must monitor state legislature and city council activity to avoid becoming a criminal. In California, you must reregister your registered guns via a government web site when they’re reclassified. Transporting a gun you failed to reregister or neglecting to lock its case with the right database entry is punishable by eight years in prison, the same as rape without aggravating circumstances like a minor victim. City councils pass similar local laws banning specific guns and magazines punishable by 6–12 months in jail, although each day of possession can be a separate offense.With demographics precluding fighting this at the state and local level, you must act nationally. Contribute to winnable Republican campaigns for federal offices. We must keep the Presidency and Senate to continue seating Constitutional Originalist judges who’ll overturn these laws, and retake the House to enable legislative action.Democrats who don’t like the things which go with that can get in line with 42 of 50 states, stop supporting gun control, and remove it from the party platform before we have a 6–3 Republican Supreme Court majority which endures for decades. With 85 year old Justice Ginsburg nearing the end of her life, that must happen soon.
What is some advice on moving to another country? Is there something fundamental I should know?
I have changed my place of living twice plus had to live for 3-6 months in other countries for work - so I hope some of my experience you will find useful.A lot depends when in your career you decide to move, how different is the country culturally, how far is it, are you single or not etc.1) You will feel lonely and making friends will take time.I moved from my home country to pursue my studies when I was 18. It was a neighbour country, with similar culture and language. However, even there I felt quite lonely for quite a while. It took a while to make new friends (1-2 years) and even longer (3-5 years) to build the network that would help me grow professionally. My second move was a year ago, 15 from my first one. Very different country, different culture, language etc. I'm a seasoned professional now. But the same challenges are here again - even to a larger degree. International environment, a lot of expats like me seeking contact, but they all become "temporary friends" - they all leave sooner or later.2) Learn the language of the country you want to move to.Better start doing so before you move. It will help you understand the country, the people, build relations, feel more secure.3) Invest time into maintaining relations with your old friendsInvite them to visit you. Ask them to bring their friends. You wont' believe how happy you will be to see the people who even were not your close friends.4) Keep regular contact with your family.They will be your anchor, island of stability and support in the storm of the first months/years after relocation5) Travel a lot in the new countryThis is the way to enjoy your new experience to the full. I regret I had not much money as a student to see the country I moved into. Later I had much less time and energy for that6) Shift focus of following the news - from your home country to the new country.Don't get stuck in your past, get to know your new home!Hope this helps! Wish you to enjoy your new experience!
Moving to a different country alone?
I really want to move to a different country but I have never lived on my own. When I think about leaving my family and friends, being on my own in a totally different country, basicaly starting from zero I get really scared. I would like to hear other people experiences who moved out of their country alone or some advice how to prepare myself and how to start a "new life".
My boyfriend is moving across the country, any advice?
My boyfriend and I have only been dating for about 5 months. A few days ago he left to go work on a farm across the country about 2,000 miles away. He is only going there for a month for now, but he is talking about moving there to work all year round. He is sick of where we live now and has been wanting to get out for a very long time. Our relationship has been long distance the whole time, but only about 3 hours away from each other. I'm in school right now and won't be done for another 2-3 years. As a student it would be very difficult for me to find time and money to visit him. I won't transfer and move out there with him at this time because like I said we've only been dating for a few months and I'd be leaving my entire family. I've jokingly said that I'm going to move with him, but he quickly responds with "you need to finish school." He said that if he plans on moving, he'd come back here shortly to pick up his belongings, but never mentions anything about seeing me. So I guess what I'm getting at is, 1. with the above response he gives me, do you think he actually cares about me finishing school, or do you think he is just using that as an excuse to get away from me. 2. Do you think that a relationship this far apart will even last? 3. Should I even try, or should I just end it. This is his dream and I really feel like I'd be holding him back, or tying him down if I asked him to stay in a relationship with me. Any advice will be helpful. Personal experience, or just opinions would really help. Thank you.
Advice for moving to belize?
Moved down here with my wife and kids two years ago and it is a great place to live. Overall, good weather, great people and a slower pace of life. Also, my wife is "white" and I am "black" (whatever those terms mean??) so we have "mixed" children as well. We love the fact that we do not have to talk about white and black that much down here since our kids look like everyone else - they fit right in. One more point - it is relatively easy to get permanent resident status here. We got that status a little over a year after coming here and now we can stay in the country as long as we like. Sweet deal. This is all to say come on down and have a great time.
Can i move out of the country while I have a DUI and not finishing classes?
If you leave without completing the terms of your probation, your probation will be revoked and a warrant will be issued for your arrest which will be waiting for you should you ever wish to reenter the U.S. If your plan is to leave and NEVER come back, this will not have much effect upon you.
My girlfriend is moving out of the country, how should I cope with this?
That’s a toughy mate. Is she moving out there for good? As it sounds like she is. Look there are ways to cope with this, and I gladly tell you. But to tell you frankly the truth, if she is moving out there for good, and there are no plans somewhere in the future of you or her moving closer together, the chance that your relationship might end, is pretty high. I am not saying it isn’t possible for this to work out, as there are many stories of people living for months away from each other, coming together and living happily ever after... But, if there is no end point where you two end up together again… I don’t know man. While Skype chats might help to some exact, it simply can’t replace in person closeness. And it’s exactly that which drives many long-distance relationships to an end. After a while this will come to hurt just too much that either one, or both of you will conclude that as much as you love this person, the pain of having to miss him/her and not being able to have this in person contact with that person anymore, just doesn’t work.If you want this to work, you both need a date where you end up together again. Else, and I am speaking out of my own experience of course, it just doesn’t work and it’s time for you to slowly let her go.