Am I A Bad Mother, Because My Daughter Choked On A Lego?
Am I a bad mom because my daughter Choked on A Lego the other day? She is 2 years old, i didn't think i had to really worry about her trying to swallow objects. She usually never does any thing like that. but today, she walked up to me, wasn't making any noises, but was obviously choking. she was freaking out, and making choking gestures. i was so scared, i looked in her throat,and saw something lodged. Luckily, i was able to sweep it out with my fingers. It was a big Lego Piece. I was terrified that she could have possibly died. I feel so bad. was this my fault, could i have done some thing to prevent this?
I am a very bad daughter. I sometimes fight with my mother and become so aggressive that I beat her because she is stupid and annoying. Will my karma be bad? How do I improve?
Keep your hands off your mother. Period. There is not one circumstance that justifies your out-of-control rage. You stop. It's that simple. It's something you will never do again.She's "stupid and annoying" to you but you're seeing a lot of the world through eyes of hurt and anger. I don't care about your Karma: there's right now and how to make up for this aggression.You feel badly in many ways and now you're the abuser. To someone who loves and cares for you. You have a fungal infection - get to a doctor. There are treatments to resolve that.The whole ugly/not-ugly thing is so much about how you feel. You're hating on yourself and abusing your mother, which won't even make you feel better.You need to become proud of yourself, of your work, of your kindness to others, of the effort you put out to become the best you possible.You're old enough to take responsibility for how you feel, what you've done and how to get back to feeling confident and good.If you can't do this on your own, get to counseling. Never, never, never indulge your rage. That is something that you must experience horror and shame over. And make amends. Your "stupid and annoying" mother doesn't deserve this, no one does. Not even you.
Pain between mother-daughter type songs?
I also have a very strained relationship with my mum, and I always think of her and our history when I hear 'Because of You' by Kelly Clarkson. And to some extent 'Family Portrait' by Pink. There's also a song by Kellie Pickler called 'I Wonder', about a mother who left her daughter, its not exactly what your looking for, but its a good song about strained mother/daughter relations. While people make millions of songs about bad lovers and friends, there are very few bad mother songs lol. Sucks huh?
Mother talks bad about her husband to teenage daughter?
Sounds like your parents are having some problems that you dont know about. Dont panic however, its normal to have these issues, especially in long term married couples. the reasoning behind it could be anything. From something small, to something major. I have no buisness trying to figure out why, nor would I be succesful in giving you in depth advice, as we dont know the root of the problem. But I have family members like this, and my mother acts this way about me and my brothers. Constantly degrading us behind our backs, will talk about us to anyone that will listen, gets her feelings hurt extremely easy, sometimes it makes absolutely no sense. For years I struggled with this, as did my brothers. they have decided not to talk to her anymore, so they dont. they have no relationship.I made the decision that no matter what, she is my mom, and I want her in my life regardless. So I just deal with it now. it sucks for the most part, and some days are harder then others. But she is my only mother, that cannot be changed, so it is worth dealing with in my book. Maybe your dad has come to a similar conclusion? She is his wife, and he loves her, and to him, she is the only woman he can fathom being with. Problems arise, and he brushes them off, whereas maybe your mother likes to take a direct route to the source of the problem. Your dad has learned to kind of tone that out, and brush it off, whereas your mother holds onto things alot fiercer, and gets alot more animated about things. The good thing is that your mother views you as someone she can trust and vent to, so giving her tidbits of advice, and maybe mentioning a type of therapy for her and him, or even you and her. Or all 3 of you? Helps some folks. (: (Sorry for the speculation, just basing my opinion around my personal experiences.)
I made my mom upset, am I a bad daughter?
Let me start off my saying I have a good life. My parents are good parents. My dad is paying for my college. I work hard in school. I have a 4.0 gpa, I'm a student mentor, and I am in the honor society. Sometimes I feel like my parents don't care. My dad is great but he's not the kind to say I love you. I can't recall him ever saying that. He also isn't the type to say I'm proud of you. My mom does say I love you and I'm proud of you sometimes. All I want is for my dad to say he's proud but I know he won't. I got inducted into the honors society last week. My parents didn't come. They live 2 hours away. I told them weeks in advance and they said they'll think about it. I assumed they didn't want to make the drive. All the induction, lots of parents were there and I was upset. I am the new vp of the society. I told them how I felt and they said ohh you should of told us!!! I got the idea that they just didn't want to come. I was talking on the phone the other day to my dad asking when can I have the car. He said he didn't know, then he asked when grades came out. All summer he had been asking when do you want to take your car and now I feel like he's changed his mind. They know that I pratically kill myself to get A's and I felt as if I was being treated like a child. I understand that he bought me the car, so it's not techically mine. Im just upset that me changed his mind so suddenly. I just feel like they don't care. I just want to hear my dad say it. I feel wrong though, like a spoiled brat. I just feel like others peoples parents are so proud of them and mine aren't. I just want to her my dad say it. Am I wrong? I feel wrong.
I am a very bad daughter I have cheated my mom because I don't want to hurt her with the truth but now I cannot hide it anymore what should I do?
Do’t hide the truth. Share the truth with her.Share the circumstances which led you to the cheating. I’m sure she’ll understand. It’s not good to hide truth from her.She’s your mother and she must’ve sacrificed so many things for you. She deserves the truth. It’s better you tell her, apologize to her and promise you wouldn’t do anything again and keep the promise.It’s nothing better in the world than realizing your mistakes. As you’ve realized your mother will surely forgive you.My mom always says “Only those improve who realize and act upon their mistakes”.Hope you tell her soon and be happy.
My wife is a bad mother. What should I do?
Hmmmm....maybe she is at a loss too. I mean, if her son is acting up really badly she may feel it is her fault. She may have depression or low self esteem. It is unfortunate that this is happening. You should talk to her about her drinking and the smoking. It is endangering your daughters and your son. If she won't talk to you, seek help from a counselor (there are free counseling services-if you are not opposed to going to a church, they are free, generally speaking). You should get her family to talk to her too. And get the boy some help, maybe even a school counselor. You have many options. I know it would be hard, but you could call his school very early in the morning (they are usually in the office by 7:30am at the high school my sister attends) and talk to a counselor, or at least leave a message. Being a parent is hard, and it is nice to see that you are making efforts to help your step son. Any man can make a baby, but you are stepping up and being a father to him even if you aren't biological. Kudos to you. Good luck, I am very sorry that this is happening. :(
Am I a bad daughter for not loving my mom anymore? As a person she is arrogant, dogmatic, paranoid, pretentious, overprotective, vengeful, unreasonable, competitive, and entitled, but she loves.
First off you are not a bad daughter. You are probably a confused daughter, and a temporary angry daughter but you are not a bad daughter. You can say that you don’t love your mom but deed down that’s not how you truly feel. At least not for a long period of time. Your mother carried you for 9 months, adjust her eating habits either by choice or by nature just to care for you. Your mother protected and guide you through this world.In your question you list so many contrasts and all that lead to her being a loving mother. She’s not paranoid because she was born like that or because she wants to be paranoid. She’s paranoid from the first cold that you had as a baby and you were vomiting and she wants you to be alive but was so scared of something is wrong to your child. She’s paranoid because you were so tiny and looks like you’d easily be squished, but she wanted to protect you.There are some other qualities that you mention, well you have to remember before she was your mom she was her with her own personality. That part you can’t change just like if you have your own qualities that your mom can’t change.Be mad at your mother, bicker, argue, takes sometimes off, but never say you hate her. Because you never know when is her last day. Love and appreciate your mother. You as a woman you can be a mom if you choose to, and you’ll see how it’s like to love and protect a kid. That day you’ll realize how much your mother loves you.Moms are awesome.