Why is my wife treating me bad after giving birth?
I understand your problem, all to well. My wife and I just had a baby and within two weeks she ran off and took the baby to her parents home which is about 100 miles away. Also filed a restraining order against me so that I could not go near any of them, herself, or her parents. Obviously I can't see the child if she restricts all my phone calls. On top of all this she filed for a divorce. My wife hasn't worked in a long time, so I have taken care of her the same ways. She has a good profession, but didn't want to go back to work after the baby was born, and thank goodness, I also have a good profession, so we can do that. However, I have found that the courts are not in to much of a hurry to do anything...even though i believe it to be PPD. which is really sad, because is she hurts the baby, or herself, I don't know what I'll do. I have tried contacting her friends, her doctors, everyone I can, to see if they could talk to her about it, and they all believe what she told them, that I was abusive to her. Complete nonsense. I've learned that the fathers are up the creek without a paddle when this happens. It's a terrible situation. She also has alot of problems with my parents, as there was tension in the beginning of our marriage between the two of them. I think that any judge that sees what is going on here will immediately order a psych evaluation, and I have requested a paternity test also. My wife started acting out in the first couple of weeks, crying in the middle of the night, throwing a fit when she couldn't find something she was looking for, stuff like that, but honestly i thought it was probably just hormones regulating. I never in a million years thought it would get to this point. She has had what I believed an unhealthy relationship with her parents, but I have never seen her act this way. I have an attorney and we are going strong on this, but still... Any suggestions anyone has are welcomed.
Am I a bad mother for not celebrating my child's birthday?
If you mean celebrating the first 2 birthdays, no. But by 3, if you’re in a culture that celebrates birthdays, most kids are aware of age and the passage of time. By 4 they may be aware of other kids birthday’s being celebrated. By 5 it would be unlikely that they don’t know.If by celebrating you mean a huge party costing hundreds of dollars, that’s not necessary. Most kids will be happy with a small gathering of friends. But some kids might like a huge bash. It’s up to the parents to negotiate what’s doable.If by celebrating you mean making the day special with some gifts, special attention and perhaps cake, then it will leave scars if you never celebrate the child’s birthday. A birthday celebration says, “You’re special to me. It’s worth it to me to celebrate the day you entered our lives.” I think that message can get lost in all the hoopla! But if a child’s birthday is never celebrated, that’s the question that will nag at them. It won’t be “Why did I never get gifts or cake?” It will be “Why didn’t may parents care about me? Why couldn’t they take some time out of their lives once a year to show that I mattered to them?”
I'm a single mom. What life advice should I give my son to ensure he is prepared and becomes a great man?
There is a whole bunch that some young men seem to miss. Bless you for being concerned that your son becomes a good man. Here goes…there’s quite a list.Education will get you farther than bravado. Encourage him to at least finish high school.Everyone has to pay their dues. He’s not going to be running the company he just got hired to in six months, most likely. He’ll have to take his turn cleaning toilets and taking out trash.Real men respect authority. That means bosses, supervisors, you, police, firefighters, and other people that control scenes. Acting like a jerk to any of these just makes their life harder, not the authority figures.His handshake and word should be as good as a signed contract. If he makes promises, he should keep them. If he can’t, he better have a damn good reason.Sometimes it’s braver to walk away than fight.Never do the bare minimum. Always give your best.Do not conform to what others expect. Dare to dream and create.Promote manhood, protect womanhood, and preserve childhood.There are no shortcuts.The world does not owe them a living.The world doesn’t care about their problems.Practice safe sex.If you become a daddy, take care of your kid.Be married before you have kids.Never judge a book by its cover. Many a young man has been handed their butt by little old men who look like they could be knocked over by a high wind.Respect your elders.Obey the law.If you fail, try again. If you fail again, try something different. Only a moron will keep doing the same things over and over again expecting different results.Respect your woman, and give her something to respect.Respect is earned. You don’t get it just because you threaten. Respect given when not earned is a societal nicety, but not automatic.Always stand up for what’s right and you’ll never go wrong.Doing the right thing isn’t always easy or comfortable.Never allow yourself to be defined by color of skin, but by content of character.Yesterday is gone. Let it go.Tomorrow isn’t promised.Treat each day as a gift. There’s a reason it’s called “the present”.
My mother treats me like a child and I am 19 years old...?
She literally will call me if I don't answer a text within 10 minutes, she always wants to know what I'm doing, how I am, fights with me all the time. She called me stupid lastnight because I wanted to go to a friends house. She's told me in the past that I was a dissappointment...I don't know what to do. I love her because she's my mother and I understand that she's a parent and I should be grateful to have such a caring one. But she's smothering me. I can't be an adult or feel like an adult when she's treating me like I'm 15 again. She even wanted me to give my sister my car because my sisters car is in bad shape and wanted me to trade my sisters car in instead of my own. I don't know what to do, there have been alot of fights that I haven't caused. Please help...? :(
My baby is 4 months old, was I wrong on Thanksgiving?
During Thanksgiving dinner my mother in law wanted to give my 4 month old daughter a bite of mash potatoes but I told her no she's too young. (She's still strictly on formula and I just started to introduce cereal) Everyone thought I was being overprotective and didn't know what I was talking about and she would of been fine. Which I am sure she probably would of been but thats not the point. So later she goes up to my daughter and puts Cool Whip in her mouth! On Halloween she wanted me to put a sucker in her bottle with water for flavored sugar water for a "treat" I told her no. Am I in the wrong like would it of been totally ok and nothing to worry about or was I right that it's too early?
Why does my mom treat me like I'm a terrible person?
I'm a 21 year old female, and I'm living with my parents while commuting to college. I suppose I should give you some background, because this has been going on for my entire life. All my life, my mom has treated me like I'm a bad person. It started when I was very young because I would accidentally wet myself sometimes, and because I was embarrassed and didn't want to get in trouble for doing so, I would hide my underwear. I got hit for that a lot, and shamed. She said I wasn't normal, even when I told her that sometimes it just came out of me (I had incontinence due to spinal stenosis) She would always ask me why I couldn't be more like my older sister. My older sister was popular, played sports, and had a lot of friends. I wasn't popular in school, I was more interested in art and I only had one or two very close friends. She was always comparing me to other people. She told me I was just like my abusive father (not my sisters father, just mine) and she would destroy my things and hit me, grab me by the hair, and once she threw a dresser drawer at me. I just never understood why this happened. I always felt like I was doing something wrong, because that's what she constantly told me. I didn't do well in school because I often had problems with motivation and was diagnosed with depression while in middle school. My grades dropped drastically in high school, and now I'm trying to make up for it. I'm going to college, and trying to better myself. She doesn't even see that.
I will not allow my 6 year old son to go trick or treating because he is grounded am I being unfair?
You need to stick with your guns. You said..no trick or treating!!! You can't go back on your word. This is something huge for a 6 year old and he will remember it and think twice next time. If you gave in it will just tell him it is ok, I can misbhave, be sent home from school and get to do what I want anyway. You are a good mother. Kids need to be responcible for their actions, and this punnishment will have a long lasting effect. He wil remind you of this "unfair" punnishment for a long time but, when andif he has his own kids he will have alot of respect for you. It's not untill we have our own kids that we realize why mom did what she did. And...your ex is the piece of s*** for not realizing what a big deal it is for a 6yo to be sent home from school for misbehaving. I have a 6yo boy and if that happened here, he wouldnt have gone trick or treating either. You are a great mother, stick to you good mommy instincts.
What would cause my son to have proteinuria? How is this treated?
Basically I am going out of my mind, as any mother would. I am worried about kidney damage. My son is only 5 years old. We have gone to the Dr to give urine samples twice this week, and on both days I was told his proteinuria was a 30, with 15 being the normal. He also has hematuria, I don't know how bad, but his Dr seems more concerned about the protein level. I would like to hear anyone's experience on this, and especially how it was treated. Thank you.
Why doesn’t a stepmother treat a stepchild as their own child?
The reason a step mother does not treat their step child as their own child is because …. they are NOT their own child. I am a step mother. I met my stepson after his parents had been divorced for years, he was 5 years old, he is now an absolutely brilliant 22 year old man. I wanted my relationship with this child to develop as naturally as possible, I did not want to force myself onto him. He has a very loving mother (and fantastic step father) and there is no way in the world that I would try and position myself to take away her role as his mother.When I met him, I was the just woman that daddy was dating but we liked each other immediately. I had never dated a man with a child before but I knew that they came as a package deal and that the relationship the child has with his father (and mother) came first and absolutely foremost.I always wanted to be like a back up mum for him, maybe like a support mum for his mum. I wanted his mother to know when he was with me and his dad, that he had nice clean clothes, he had good nutritious food, he got to bed on time, that we would play in the park, bandaids on his knees and that he got cuddles, security, stability and love.I must admit my stepson did make being a stepmum an absolute joy. I won stepkid lotto, he was a very easy child to be with.When I knew he was coming to be with us (which fortunately was almost every week) I would shop and cook his favourite things to eat. I would buy little treats or toys for him. My justification was “He has been a very good boy lately, oh hang on, he is always a good boy!”Fast forward 9 years and I gave birth to my own son with my stepsons dad. At this stage in his life, my stepson was quite a sensitive teenaged boy. I wanted my stepson to know that he was to be a big part of my sons life and that he would not be cast aside, now that I was having a child of my own. I gave naming rights of my child to my stepson, I told him he could name our child anything he liked, as long as its not Barry. Apologies to all the Barrys out there. He named his brother a name I would never have chosen but as soon as he named him, I could not think of any other name that would suit him better!So I do not treat my stepson as if he is my own child, I have too much respect for his relationship with his own mother.I treat him as he is my stepson, I love him and it has been one of the most fantastic and richest relationships of my life.