Am I a bad person for quitting my job?
Quitting job is not a bad idea but Quitting Company when they need you most is wrong. Working in a startup company has its risks; you never know where it will end up, uncertainty, lower pay, no other benefits but if the company succeeds there is a great chance for a bigger reward. If you are the key person in the project, definitely you are going to get a good profile which is not possible in a big organization after working many years.If you are a young person you can take risk, you don’t need to worry about current offer, there are plenty jobs in the market. If I were you I would not leave my job. it is your personal matter then the decision is yours.
Does not wanting to date a disabled man make me a bad person?
It means you are honest with yourself, probably much more honest than I was when I was in your situation.One of my old friends has muscular dystrophy. He walked with a pronounced limp, and visibly struggled with fine motor skills, but also took joy in pushing himself to the limit by running, jumping and joining a Live Action Role Play group (LARP). Mentally he was brilliant, and I’m attracted to brilliance in both my friends and partners. So I genuinely liked being around him, and found parts of him I did find attractive and thus was in a very similar situation. Wondering what it would be like, and then being reminded that I couldn’t cope like that…I like rough physical activites like hiking and swimming, want to travel and would want a healthy partner I would reasonably expect to live as long as I did. He couldn’t provide that for me.However He did like me, and even asked me out, giving me gifts and such.I was a fool. I never turned him down in fear of him not wanting to be my friend, or getting the idea that nobody would want him because of his disability. This kept going with me never saying yes, but never saying no, just dancing around the topic and leaving him with the hope that it could happen. It came to a conclusion when he tried to ask me out, I agreed to go, and then completely forgot about it. This meant that my poor friend literally sat in a suit and tie (yeah he appearently got all dressed up), and sat alone in a resturant, waiting for a girl who would never come.If I ever had one major regret…it is this memory. The memory of forgetting, of remembering only after I saw him the next school day, and then of him slowly turning everything good I ever had against me. I’m not saying that he was a bad person, but this was highschool and everything came with drama that had a ripple effect, and it all could have been prevented by telling him how I really felt.So talk to the guy, let him know that you can be his friend, that you enjoy his personality/want to hang out…but that it would only ever be in the pretext of friendship. You can learn from my mistake. It’s time that we, as humans, can be honest.
Am I a bad person for wanting to join the military?
“Am I a bad person for wanting to join the military?”He'll no, as long as you are not joining because you want see what it's like to kill a fellow human being, or are a sociopath wanting to commit legal murder.There are as many reasons people want to join as there are people who have joined.Some do it out of a sense of patriotism, and feel a need to give back to this country that is the envy of the world.Others join to get a free education, or to learn a skill pertaining to an occupation they believe they want.Some just want to get off the street because they are struggling.I even knew one guy who had serious problems with his teeth and just wanted them fixed!!I'm not kidding!!No, there is absolutely no reason to believe you are bad because you are concidering the millitary. Believe me, the vast majority of military personnel do not want to have to take a life. But when diplomacy fails, and it comes down to you or that guy who's trying to kill you or one of yours, it's nessesary. Period.Without a big stick, diplomacy is worthless when it comes to some countries that do not want Democratic values.Don't ever let anyone try to tell you what you are. Look into your heart and make your own mind up who you are.Just know that very few actually see combat. There's many jobs where you will never see combat. Ask lots of questions about which jobs will result in being deployed in a combat zone. Then be honest with yourself and decide.
Am I a horribly bad person?
I am unable to get a job because I go to school 5 days a week and have rehearsal 3 nights a week. I found a guy that helps me out (pays rent, etc) and everything was working out great...until...I met my now boyfriend. I have been trying REALLY hard to find a job so I wont have to rely on some other guy, but no one will hire me because I can only work 3/4 nights a week and my schedule is very tight. I feel SO BAD about it, because I have grown to love my boyfriend and I don't want to betray him. What should I do?
My girlfriend wants a job in phone sex, i disaprove, am i a bad person?
I really wouldn't see a problem with it. Better a phone sex operator than a stripper right? Do you think she's actually doing this out of pleasure, I really don't think so. If it was just out of pleasure than yes I would say its borderline cheating & if its going to get her caught up on her bills quick & fast than I'd be ok with it. I'd maybe suggest she only do it till she's completely caught up with her bills, maybe put a little extra money to the side, other than that I wouldn't want her doing it for the rest of her life. I certainly don't think she's going to meet any of these men anyway. Most times strippers do it for the money, not for the fun of it. There aren't to many women who I can think of who like to be felt up by drunk, horny men, its all about the money. Who knows maybe you can call her 800 number a couple times out of the month as well! I know I would. Yes there are other jobs out there, but unless she has some college or something like that, not to many jobs are going to pay that well especially with the way things are going right now.
Is it bad that I am 22 and never had a job?
I am the oldest of my siblings except I actually never lived with them nor did I live with our parents since I was "adopted" by our mother's aunt and uncle. Anyways, my 21 years old sister, my 19 year old sister and my 16 years old sister all have jobs and live in the bay area of California while I pretty much lived in the "Valley". I'm actually feeling pretty low because they were able to get jobs so easily. My 21 year old sister was able to get a job at a McDonalds a couple years ago because our mother knows someone who helped her get a job. My 19 year old sister, from what I was told, just was hired ie. she applied online, got called for an interview and passed the interview. My 16 year old sister, who just turned 16 last month and got her drivers license, got her job at the same McDonalds as our 21 year old sister because of the same person who help the 21 years old get a job. I can't help from feeling so below them because I can't get a job. Unlike my 21 and 16 year old sisters, I don't have anyone to refer me to a job and unlike my 19 year old sister, I can't seem to pass an interview. I've had interviews at McDonalds, Target, Choice Clothing, Wal-Mart, Nubi's Yogurt, Ono Hawaiian BBQ and Bass Pro but I was never called back for any of them. I'm starting to feel that my 5 year old sister will have a job before I do. xD
I have realized that I am a bad person. What can I do about it?
You, too, huh? I'm not being flippant. I'm telling you every "good" person comes to a point in their life where they feel exactly like you do now. I once told a friend I could never apologize enough to everyone I had ever interacted with in my life. That was exactly what I was feeling right then.But please understand, the fact that you are able to regret some of your past choices means you are not a bad person. A bad person wouldn't care. But you do care, deeply. So, you're off to a good start.The thing to do now is go deep into yourself and find what it was that made you behave that way in the past. Until you do that, you may do the same things again. A lot of the time, the problem is solved by you simply growing up a little more. That never ends, by the way.Now, here's something you should not do: Assume responsibility for how your actions affected the other person. You should absolutely take responsibility for your actions, but you are not responsible for how the other person interprets them or how they feel about them.I've heard people bemoan that they ruined someone's life. If only they hadn't done this or that, that person would be so much better off now! What I say to those people is: Get over yourself! Who made you sooo powerful that with one careless or mean action you could completely ruin that person's life? Huh? 'Cause I thought only God could do that.And what are you saying about that other person? Oh, no, poor person! They have no will of their own! If they get hit, all they can do is stay down and cry. Oh, so sad!Gives it a different spin, doesn't it?Everyone has done mean things. Sometimes because we don't understand that that's what we're doing. Sometimes because we're experimenting. And sometimes, just to be mean. Kids do that a lot because they don't realize yet that other people matter as much as they do. And sometimes people do it to see where the line is. Because sometimes, you don't know until you’ve crossed it. But unless you are a serial killer, there is nothing you have done that is so bad that, in a room with 100 other random people, ten of them haven't done the same thing.Yes, you've made some bad choices. And thank God for that! It is the ability to do the wrong thing and to choose to do the right instead that gives us our nobility.So, stop worrying. Just make better choices from now on.