Why do I have this irrational hatred of my roommate?
Every time I look at him I feel physically and emotionally distressed. He is not a bad roommate but we don't say much to each other, we both have completely separate groups of friends. But, I just don't know what to do about this feeling I get every time he's in the room. I am unable to do anything else but feel extreme distress and want nothing more than to beat him unconscious. I can't explain this at all and have never felt anything remotely like this before. What is wrong and what can I do to get rid of it?
I get irritated by my roommate because I expect a lot. How do I control myself?
Its not simple. First stop trying to dictate her life. You need to understand every person is different and respect it.that said you cant compromise on everything either. Make a list of the utmost essentials that are need to be done (like hygiene factors, essential grocery etc.). Share the list with her and ask if you left out something discuss it. she will contribute. Than ask her what all she will be comfortable in doing and in such a way that it will be equal effort from both sides.remember the key is to let the other party feel empowered and not like you are bossing around. Try having some fun time with her like in CCD or something. ENJOY !!
How to confront a suicidal and noisy roommate?
I only have 8 weeks left before summer break (THANK GOD. PLEASE COME SOONER SUMMER BECAUSE I CANT STAND MY ROOMMATE ANYMORE). The entire year, I have been PATIENT! I am scared I will burst out! My roommate has agreed with a contract that we will be quiet around 9pm to let other people sleep and have quiet time to study, etc. However, recently, she invited her friend over and they had a movie night on a THURSDAY MIDNIGHT. I could not sleep at all because walls are thin and the TV was right next to my bed from the other room. I literally stayed up and hoped they would stop. But no, the movie ended and her friend slept in the living room, blasting videos on her phone. I literally told her to keep it down because I am trying to sleep. She did. Now, its around 9 am and they both are being noisy and loud. I did not get any sleep and am very angry, frustrated and cranky. My roommate is suicidal, is bipolar, manipulative and has depression. I dont know how to confront someone who has that because I am afraid she might kill herself over me confronting her. I emailed my RA and she has been ignoring my emails all year about roommate problems so I am stressed out to the max and dont know what to do. Oh yea. My roommate also doesnt clean her period blood stains in the bathroom floor. Our other roommate had to do it for her. She never cleans **** around the dorm.
Roommate keeps waking up to sound of alarm?
You do nothing. Laurie is correct, as long as your alarm goes off and you turn it off, not keep hitting snooze, you are not doing anything wrong. Sleeping in to 10am and not wanting to be disturbed is an irrational request. My husband is up at 5:30 am. Yes he wakes me up. He tries to be as quiet as possible, I go back to sleep. Go to your RA. Let them know the problem and that you are as considerate as you can be, but you need an alarm to wake you. You always turn it right off and get up. My daughter can be woken up by a slight ding alarm on her phone. Use the softest sound you can, and still be gaurenteed to wake you. Other than that you can not compromise further.
What moral support can I provide to my roommate who is suffering from depression?
Thanks, K. Cibe Sridharan (சிபி ஸ்ரீதரன்) for the A2A.I have been trying to ignore this question for quite sometime now. I have lived with one of my dearest friends who also was my roommate. He claimed to be suffering from depression because he was unable to bag a job.What did I do for him? Well, not much really as he put it. I will let you decide.I let him stay at my rented apartment free of cost as he struggled to manage with the limited money he was being sent from his home.I cooked for him and fed him with as much love and care as I do for my own brother. Never asked him to pay for even the groceries and ration.I supported him financially whenever he was in need, even though I myself live on a limited income in addition to bearing expenses for my own family.I used to sit with him a night before his job interviews to boost his confidence, and help him gain clarity.I used to send out his resumes and also write all his cover letters for all the positions I applied on his behalf, in my pursuit to help him get a decent job.I tried to cheer him almost everyday, be it by cooking something good for him, by taking him out for a drink, or by bringing him surprise gifts once a while.I arranged a birthday party for him, inviting all our friends, when he was upset over not getting a job and a recent breakup.I used to prepare breakfast and lunch for him before I left for office, so that he need not live on an empty stomach while staying at home.I put my job at stake to refer and testify for him for a job vacancy in the organisation that I work in.I did all these, and more to help him deal with his “depression”. I went beyond my capacity to help him sort his life. But what I received in return was a little frustrating. The person who I consider to be one of my best friends tested my patience and used me for his needs for as long as he was here. I wanted to pull him out of his depression, but seems I was kind of dragged into it. Things are weird between the two of us now because when I ask him for help now, my calls and messages remain unanswered. The last I heard from him was a message that said,“Please don’t call/ message me. I want some distance from you guys.”
Is my roommate really interested in my boyfriend or am I just paranoid?
My boyfriend and I have been living with another "couple" for the past two months. Right from the beginning, I just had a funny feeling that this girl we moved in with was interested in my boyfriend. She tends to hang around him a lot (basically whenever she gets the chance.) She speaks very highly of him all the time and has even gotten drunk and told me how lucky I was and that she wishes her boyfriend were more like mine. She and I aren't really friends. She gives me an attitude and I can't hep but feel like she's become somewhat competitive with me since we started living together.. which is exhausting to think about because I'm 6 months pregnant and don't really feel up for competing with her.. nor would I if I weren't pregnant because I'm not that insecure/immature. Lately though, she and her boyfriend have been fighting a lot and apparently they are now seeing other people and this girl continues to hang around my boyfriend. For instance, he will be in the living room playing video games and she will go and sit on the couch next to him for no reason at all. Just to chat. I also found out the other day that while I wasn't home she was trying to get him to go out to a party with her and get drunk together. That, in my opinion, is crossing some serious boundaries but the situation is very awkward and I don't know how to approach it. I'm not worried that my boyfriend will leave me for her or anything, but it upsets me regardless. Maybe it's the hormones from being pregnant or maybe it's the fact that I constantly feel like I'm being disrespected in my own house. What are some subtle ways to go about this? Do you think I should be concerned? My boyfriend shows no real interest in her but he does participate in the conversations and hangs out with her a lot. If someone can give me a clear head about this, I would really appreciate it! Thanks.