Is it selfish to not want a funeral?
No, not at all. Funerals are a waste of money and a scam by funeral homes to make big bucks. Used to be short and sweet-- guy dies, friends come over, the husbands dig a hole, the wives help make food for the group, they drop the guy in the hole, cover him up and say a few words, and the group figures out how the widow and kids will get by. Usually a one day affair. Here today, gone tomorrow.
Grandfather who is selfish?
i have a grandfather who has always been selfish. He seems to only care about vacation and doing what he wants. Even his own wife, who is ill, he has no concern for and his only fear is the slight chance his vacation may be inconvenienced because of her (he relies on her for many things). He cannot comprehend family values. Literally his somewhat of a defense/ "rationalization" is: "No one did anything for me or helped me" (which is a lie his parents did all they could during end of great depression) or "why should I do anything?" he will also say he helped his kids. Or no one asked for help or make a judgment that no one needs help.(it changes depending on what pops in his "brain". He will play the victim and give forth the impression he has been unfortunate and had a hard life so his kids and grand-kids should too (and funny thing is he actually wasn't in a bad situation as when he was a teen it was the booming 1950s), but nonetheless even if he felt like he was hapless wouldn't that make someone more inclined to better their kids and grandchildren? What is a good counter argument to this? I know it is an illogical argument that normal people will simply say : " a grandfather is the one who spoils grand-kids and helps them and wants to better their life without any question or doubt" but in this case it seems he is viewing this in a twisted way in which he feels there is no ethical responsibility or need to do anything for anyone not even his own flesh and blood.
Can mourning someone’s death be selfish?
GRIEVING ATHEISTS :Eternalism (concept of time) - WikipediaUnderstanding this scientific, widely accepted, rational concept, can be of great help. AKA :《 Spacetime 》in physicsAlbert Einstein :This refers to Eternalism , stating that past, present, and future, are equally real, now. Einstein wrote it in a letter for the wife of his dear friend of more than 50 years when this one died .This view is equivalent to the 《Block Universe》 view in physics, or simply 《Spacetime》 :( Youtube video : “ The illusion of time : past, present and future all exist together ” - extract from the PBS documentary “ The fabric of the cosmos ” )It is extremely well supported by experiments and became the standard view in science since Einstein .When we die, are we gone? ( physicist Brian Greene, 1min youtube video )( See also : Tom Slijkerman's answer to Is there life after death? )《Eternal Now 》in spirituality( Youtbe video : “All times take place now” )Even basic intuition can lead to Eternalism, for example : an instant is durationless, and 0s+0s+0s = 0s , so what seems to be a lot of different instants is in fact the one same instant. There is only one “date”, and it is now. This now is eternal . [ 《eternity》 (outside of time), has nothing to do with 《sempiternity》(infinite in time) ]In spirituality it’s called the Eternal Now, in physics it’s called Spacetime, in philosophy it’s Eternalism .《Time flows, I feel it, I have memories !》→ When this impression is present, it is at a present moment, which is timeless ! So one doesn’t need time to flow to feel like it does. Therefore this impression doesn’t indicate anything
Is it pointless, selfish, and bad to worry about death?
It is human. I doubt there is a human being who doesn’t.Answering your actual question:Pointless? Yes. Death is unavoidable. Worrying won’t change that.Selfish? I guess.Bad? Not necessarily.If you worry about death, and therefor drive yourself to make some positive impact on the world, or make yourself eat healthier, then it is definitely good.If you worry about death, and that causes you to not get out of bed in the morning, then yes, it is bad.You are born. You die. Anything that prevents you from making the most of the time in between is bad. Otherwise, don’t worry about it.To be clear, when I say “don’t worry about it”, I mean don’t worry about worrying about death. I could tell you to stop worrying about death itself, but that would be pointless. Everybody does.
Death, (almost) wanting to die young, is it selfish? (continued)?
Common thoughts for your age. Being ready to die isn't suicidal. It means you refuse to fear your death. Picturing interesting demises is common, you said it yourself you want to be remembered and leave a mark. You do however fear outliving loved ones. Face their death with the same dignity and respect you would want for yourself. Every day you survive on this rotten ball of mud is a victory. Every wrinkle a battle scar, a grey hair a trophy against time.
What's wrong with being selfish?
Nothing wrong until other one is going to be looser by selfish.
Is my Uncle being "selfish"?
hi, I am 16, a guy. my grandma and grandpa had 8 kids but my grandpa died in 1979. anyway, 2 of her kids live in Lake Tahoe and the 5 of us live in the Bay Area (California). and one lives in Texas. my grandparents bought a vacation house in Lake Tahoe in 1964 and we still have it. now, my uncle who lives in Texas used to live in Lake Tahoe and he lost his job in 2013 and went through a major depression. he wouldn't even leave his house. now, my Uncle moved to Texas since he found a job. my family and I (my mum, dad, and 3 sisters) want to go up to the house in Tahoe my grandma owns. and its a FAMILY house my grandmas has in Tahoe. she is letting my uncle stay there for 2 weeks by himself, and he isn't sharing. the condo has 4 beds in one room, 2 beds in one room, 2 beds in one room again, and the master bedroom. thats enough rooms for my family to share with him. everyone in the family shares the condo. last Summer my other Uncle (my grandparents had 6 boys 2 girls) shared the condo with my family and his 2 daughters and wife. the condo has 2 couches that turns into a bed in the living room. so the condo can fit up to 14 people! (including the 2 couches that turn into beds downstairs). and my Uncle who lives in Texas has the place for 2 weeks to himself, and my grandma isn't doing anything about it.
Am I being selfish for wanting to take my dead step-sisters bedroom for my own?
My step-sister died 2 & 1/2 years ago. She was only 6 & died from getting stung by a swarm of bees. It was a tragical accident & my step-mom cant get over it even though its been so long. My real mom died when I was 4 & I got over it before i started kindergarden. Anyways i dont have a real bed room and step mom wont let me take the guest room cause we need it for when her son from her first marriage comes for visits. she wont let me have her room even if she is dead cause she keeps her room exatly like it was before she died & keeps her urn in there. I been asking for her room for a long time but the answer is alwasy no. I sleep in the den & theres no door on it & im not allowed to make it mine cause its the family room really. Step mom has called me uncaring & selfish & says the room is my dead sisters room. My dads no help. He tells me that i cant understand how awful it is to lose a child. If i cant have her room i should get the guest room right? No! Thats for J. i said he can have the den instead of me. They say i should be greatful for what i have cause some kids are worse off & have to live in there car.
My grandfather died, am I selfish for missing the funeral?
My grandfather died this morning of a stroke quite unexpectedly. I live in the Southeast and he lives in Michigan. All my other siblings are going and I feel terrible and selfish for considering not going. Logistically it would be very difficult for me. Firstly, I'm sitting second chair in a trial that probably won't end until Friday (I could probably get out of this if I had to). Secondly, I have a dog I would need to make arrangements for, and since I live in a city I am still rather unfamiliar with I would have to board him which would get pricey. Three, I still have not yet bought a plane ticket, it will be expensive considering I would have to fly out of a smaller airport into a smaller airport. Four, I have already paid for a half marathon I have been training for since November this weekend and it is none refundable, plus the hotel in the marathon city is nonrefundable. In addition I have no luggage here at my apartment to transport anything on a plane. I'm very stressed and will feel bad about missing it, but I just think logistically it will be difficult for me. I have not seen my grandfather in over 7 years since he lives across the country. I feel bad for my father, but I don't feel very emotional about it personally. Am I a bad person? I'm very stressed about the situation and a little angry at myself.
I don't want a funeral when I die. Am I being selfish?
I don't want a funeral when I die. Am I being selfish?Funerals are for the living. It really depends on how your family deals with death.Some families find funerals important as an expression of grief over the loss of the decedent.Some families hold “wakes” or parties as a celebration of the decedent’s life.Some families go for “immediate disposal” or cremation without delay and then scatter the ashes in the decedent’s favorite place.My wife was cremated immediately and then we scattered her ashes in the Gulf of Mexico. (Any saltwater would have been okay with her.) If I want to visit with her, I can go to any seashore. One of the organizations she belonged to gave her the send off she wanted with an ice cream social. To each his or her own.It’s your life. You decide whether you want people to grieve, celebrate your life, or just place you to rest where you would be happy.