Am i selfish or is this normal?
I have been married for about a year and together over 2.. We got pregnant right away, and everything was great in our lives.. for the last 6 mos or so, My sex drive is down the toilet.. I never want to be intimate and he wants it all the time. He is really grabby at my "parts" and that is the biggest turn off to me, so every time he does it (even though i ask him not to about 20 times a week) I just get more and more turned off of the idea of making love with him.. He never used to be this way, so I dont really understand.. Am I selfish for not being intimate just because he is grabby? or is it normal to not be "in the mood" at all, all of a sudden? I am just too tired at the days end and dont want to be touched or bothered.
Are all Married men selfish bastards? ?
i knew it was wrong to get involved but I did, I was single for 5 years, considered attractive. it ended a week ago and I feel like shite. I just felt so empty and lonly- i guess he aint hurting too eh? back to his wife .
I am unhappy in my marriage. Is it selfish to leave my wife after 4 kids?
Since you asked, I am going to be blunt…Yes. It is selfish to leave your wife after 4 kids. Perhaps another avenue to explore besides leaving your wife is to work to find why you are unhappy and then move heaven and earth to fix that or those issues. Instead of just leaving, perhaps counseling might be appropriate. Focus on the Family has a weekend intensive called Hope Restored to help struggling marriages. Maybe this is something you guys can pursue. If your wife won’t go to counseling with you, go alone. Give everything you have into saving your marriage. From what I have seen in life, when people quit and leave, they not only leave their families, they leave many holes that can never be filled. Holes in relationships. Holes in hearts. Holes in spirits. Maybe you can prevent creating these holes by seeking to repair your relationship with your wife, a relationship that at one time was the most important thing in the world to you.
Is it uhealthy to stay in an unsatisfying marriage for the sake of the children? Would it be selfish to leave?
It is very unhealthy to stay for the kids. My folks did it, and now there are no more kids in the house, they are both bored out of their minds but don't really have any kinda relationship to fall back on. The kids will sense it, just go if you are no longer interested or think it is possible to make a stronger relationship.
Do you think it's selfish for a man to join the military if he's already married/has kids?
Hi, I totally agree with you. I think if a husband came on here and said I have an opportunity to work in a job but it is 5,000 miles away from my wife and children, do you think I should take it, lots of people would say no. Just because it is the military doesn't mean that it is suddenly a good idea. I think if you want to be patriotic then fine, but someone choosing not to be in the military because he is married and has children has made a very wise decision indeed. Best wishes, Red Stripe
Is it selfish to remain single versus being married?
You are correct. When you are married you cannot do whatever you want anytime. You are not selfish. Although, just a warning- one of these days you might find someone that you are willing to trade in some of that freedom for the chance to spend the rest of your life with them.
Is it selfish that I feel sad about my sister getting married?
No no no! Of course you should be feeling sad! If she got married and lived right around the corner you probably wouldnt be feeling this way. Also you mentioned that her husband is great and will make her happy, and those are not the words of a selfish person. You are just upset about having to adjust to a long distance relationship with you best friend/sister. It will get easier and you never know what the years will bring you may very well end up living closer to your sister in the future. Hang in there!
What do I do about my wife being selfish in our swinger relationship?
go with it!!! your wife honestly at first thought she was doing it for you but deep down now she is the one that is getting off to it and she is still reluctant 2 see you with others that is why she has turned this into "me & my needs" i say just start joining in and if she gets mad or stops just keep going she needs to understand in order to have a strong sexual realationship with your/ her husband she must be willing to enjoy the WHOLE experiance about swinging that encludes you getting to join in and gettting off good luck talk to her and give her some time set some rules that is what me and my hubby did and we have a blast!!! :)
I am confused. I love a girl very much but she is so selfish and doesn't care about me. She thinks only about herself but says that she loves me. Should I marry her?
You will find your answer in this beautiful Quote by Rupi Kaur. I'll tell you about selfish people. Even when they know they will hurt you they walk into your life to taste you, because you are the type they don't want to miss out on. You are too much shine to be not felt. So when they have gotten a good look at everything you had to offer, when they have taken your skin, you hair and your secrets with them, when they realize how real this is, how much of a storm you are, it hits them. That is when the cowardice sets in, that is when the person you thought they were is replaced by the sad reality of what they are, that is when they lose every fighting bone in their body and leave after saying "You will find better than me". You will stand there naked, with half of them still hidden somewhere inside you and sob. Asking them why they did it, why they forced you to love them when they had no intentions of loving you back. They will say something in the lines of "I just had to try, I had to give it a chance, it was you after all" but that isn't romantic, it isn't sweet.The idea that they were so engulfed by your existence, they had to risk breaking it for the sake of knowing that they weren't the ones who were missing out. Your existence means that little next to their curiosity of you. That is the thing about selfish people, they gable entire beings, entire souls to please their own. One second they are holding you like the world and the next they have belittled you to a mere picture, a moment, something of the past. One second, they swallow you up and whisper they want to spend the rest of their life with you, but the moment they sense fear, they are already halfway out the door, without having the nerve to let you go with grace, as if the human heart means that little to them. After all this, after all of the taking, the nerve, isn't it sad and funny how people have more guts these days to undress you with their fingers than they do, to pick up the phone, call and apologize for the loss. And this is how you lose her! Make yourself alone and at peace. Turn the pages of your life in your mind and try to realize, how much of it has her in it, how much of it is made by her, how much of it has nothing about her. Draw conclusions. If you choose break up, you will definitely find a better girl, the one who deserves your love. If you choose to stay, have the heart to accept the consequences and your life after it.