My coworkers are taking advantage of me?
My boss gets off work at 4pm and from 4-8pm it's just my coworker and me working. Lately her behavior at work has been getting worse, especially when my boss isn't there. For example, she is taking the company work van and using it to do her own errands. She will disappear for atleast an hour and once didn't return until 15 minutes till 8 when she's off shift. Now she is mad at me that I don't like she's ditching work to do her errands. Currently, she's been giving me the silent treatment and told her other coworker that she's going to do her job. Except, when I ask her questions that is about work, she ignores me and acts as if she doesn't hear me. I honestly don't care if she doesn't talk to me like we're friends but now she won't communicate about work such as if a certain client had taken their medicine yet. I sent her a message saying that she knows I'm not happy that she's ditching work for her errands, it doesn't matter if she won't talk to me, but we still gotta communicate for work. In which she says I'm on the computer all the time (we are allowed to use our computers as long as we're still monitoring the clients) then her comments just become downright rude in which she called the house phone and greeted me as "hey stupid *****". My main problem is that I've decided that this workplace is getting to become too hostile for me and as much as I love my job, I don't feel that it's worth enough to put up with my coworkers attitudes towards me. I've decided that I want a transfer and if my boss won't let me, then I am quitting. However, I don't know if I should tell my boss about what she's saying since it will reflect bad on me that I am knowingly letting her get away with it. Or should I just tell my boss that it's more of a change of pace in which I will be working with clients on a one-on-one basis then with coworkers.
What's the best way to handle coworkers that take advantage of you?
Conversation:Mary: Can you please help me with X task?Jane (you): Mary, I’m swamped with works. Please ask another person.Mary: Jane, you don’t look so busy. You got a lot of thing to do?Jane (you): I’m really busy. Please ask someone else.Mary: But you are the really the expert. Why are you so bad? (pleading sarcasm)Jane (you): Mary,my final answer is NO. It’s not my job description to do your work and I’m really swamped with work. Why don’t you ask the manager to help and teach you if you are unsure of how to do it?Mary might not give up by this time and she might play dirty tactic by asking your manager to help her instead. This lead to a crucial second step.Second step:Please inform your manager immediately after your colleague leave your work desk. Go and inform your manager in an un-emotional way that you have helped her but you need to maintain your KPI and quality for your work performance. You can mention that your colleague might need to learn work & time management issue instead of depending on you. It’s important to share your thoughts with your manager so he or she is aware of this issue. Do not mention “taken advantage” but focus on “maintaining quality of your project” and “time taken from your task to do other colleague job which is not under your KPI”. Ask your manager for a solution. Most of the time, the manager will mention that Mary has to ask his or her permission before asking you to help again.If this already happen many time, you can skip step one and talk to your manager asap. Schedule an informal meeting.Do not feel guilty. You are not backstabbing your colleague but protecting your own boundary.I quote Mark Murphy: Saying ‘No’ to someone who’s taking advantage of you, or asking you to break the rules, is not a transgression. It’s the right thing to do. Own your decision.You can read How To Say 'No' When A Colleague Tries To Take Advantage Of YouHope this helps and good luck. You are not the first person to survive bad colleague and you can emerge a HERO to yourself.
Why is it that hard working people are taken advantage of and given more and more work in the workplace?
They're not really taken advantage of, they allow it - there is a difference. Hard working people are dependable. Their boss can count on them to get the job done and to get it done right. This is a rare quality in most people. Since hard working people are driven to excel, to get approval from their boss, and the self-satisfaction of getting the job done, they tend to take on more and more. Even though they take on more and more, they still get all of it done to a point of perfection. Bosses look at these hard working people as their true workforce. All the others get the "busy" work.
Is my fiancés job taking advantage of him?
Im worried for him. We went on a vacation from August 15th- 19th. He went back to work on August 22nd. Ever since that day he only had ONE day off from work. He likes the extra money but he works a part time job where they have been giving him full time hours with no break (meaning not one day off). He asked for Thursday off because we both are working the primary election. But because he took thursday off to work the primary election (i know elections are tuesdays but they dont want an election on 9/11 anniversary) they decided to make him work tomorrow 5pm-10pm then Tuesday 1pm-10pm with wednesday. With the election we need to arrive by 5am and wont leave until 10pm. Now because of this i am afraid they will take his other two days off and ruin it for our two year anniversary. Anything he can do about this? He appericates the job and the extra money but he hasnt even been sleeping at all because of this and i mean if they want him there that badly he needs to be made full time. This is a retail job and he was hired part time.
Someone is taking advantage of my carpool?
Take him directly home as you have some pressing engagement If you happen to have time off the next day you can take the scenic route as you just have to get a whatever and need to pee or get a paper or pick up some bread this may take a couple of hours to get home but a little planing and you are always way out somewhere and he just will have to wait while you get your whatever. The word no does wonders to stopping this. If he hangs around waiting for you this ultimate prank may curtail him. Arrange in advance for someone to pick you up you are studying for a test they are taking you to class in the morning whatever. They live in the wrong direction and you just leave him behind.You are not driving your buddy is.Have someone drop you off and pick you up a few times in their car. Does not need to be same person each end of trip again you not driving no room for freeloader. Your car is being serviced.
How to keep yourself humble without being taken advantage of?
There's a difference between aggressive & assertive. Being humble does not mean I have to be a door mat & let everyone walk all over me. I can keep my boundaries with out tooting my own horn, which is what being humble is really.
How do I deal with people who are trying to take advantage of my kindness? My colleague said I'm a pushover. I don't know how to say no.
I believe the best way is to realize that they are trying to take advantage of your kindness the moment you interact with them. If you are like me, when you get better at recognize the signs, it would become easier to say no. Unfortunately, I have been told I'm a cold bastard when people try to use or manipulate me, so I probably shouldn't give advice for that. However, one thing I found really helpful, is keep asking questions. For example, 'Why can't you do your job?', 'What have you done to prevent/fix it?', 'Why should I cover it for you?', 'Why do you choose me?', 'Have you asked others?', 'Why are others' needs more important than mine?', 'Why are YOUR needs more important than mine?', 'How are you prepared to pay me back for this?', and my favorite of all, 'How is it my business if you are fired/injured/hurt/sad/etc?' . Eventually, the other person would either give up, pissed off, or try to guilt you into doing what they want. Stay firm, and at the very least, pretend NOT to care. It's okay if for the first few times, you run back home later and stay up all night feeling bad for refusing them, but NEVER let them see you vulnerable. Most people would stop after a few times you verbally attack them back like this, but they might try to talk bad about you behind your back. Ignore them, they can hardly do more damage than they would have done if they success.WARNING: only do this IF and only if you're very sure that person is trying to take advantage of you, and don't ask the more aggressive ones in public.
Do you report your co-worker?
I have a co-worker that I work with several times a week. When it is just her and I here she often takes breaks that are 45-60 minutes or more and then takes another 30-45 minutes break later. This has happened about everytime we work together. I don't know if I should tell my boss. I don't want to cause trouble and I like my co-worker. I'm not sure what my boss would do but I feel taken advantage of and it feels dishonest. I'm not sure what to do because we are a call center so I end up getting a lot more work when she is gone so long.