Am I being ungrateful?
Here's the deal: Two weeks ago while my parents were in Mexico I was in a minor car accident because it was very late and I feel asleep while driving. Nothing huge happened basically a scratch and the mirror on my moms car broke. This has been my third car accident. The other two previous ones were not my fault, there are black ice on the road one evening while I was driving home from work and the other time there was a very heavy snow day and I slipped on snow while turned into a street and hit a pole. This third time I was at fault for falling asleep, I'm paying for the repair. Ok, so now. When I was 18 they bought me a trailblazer that cost them 8000. After this recent accident my dad said he wants to sell the truck which all along I got to call mine but was under their name and he said he wants to sell it cause he fears I might total it during the winter and he'll be out 8000 dollars.. Well, I understand that. But I'm not happy about it and yes I am bitter about it because all along this was "my truck" so not I am most certainly not happy about it but I can appreciate why he wants to sell it. He is willing to buy me another car and put it under my name, A 2000 dollar car, and I told them no, I didn't want anything if they sold the truck. I'll just ride the bus My mom is calling me ungrateful and that I'm not really understanding why they're selling the truck. Because I'm like it's the truck or I don't want anything else. But geez, I mean god forbid that I crash and die, then they'll be out 2000 dollars. So, just keep their money I'll just have to get my own car when I can. We dont have full coverage INS .. And they have never wanted to get full coverage INS, before. But if I am willing to pay for full coverage on the truck then they won't sell it... But still the truck is not mine so why should I pay for full coverage when if I total the truck and the INS pays for a new car the car will still not be mine when I am the one paying for that to happen.. So, then still they can take it from me whenever they want. So it wouldn't be worth it to pay the full coverage on it, cause still it's not mine. She said I'm ungrateful.
Why am I so ungrateful?
Sounds like you were too spoiled growing up. Most people would love to be in your place. How many kids have these things you have. If you did not have these things, what would your life be like. Usually when someone does not have to work for what they have and it is just given to them, they don't appreciate it. If you had to work hard for a car and to be able to go to college, you would appreciate it because it was your hard earned money. You need to change your attitude or you won't be happy, successful or have many friends in life. You are being too materialistic instead of a good caring person toward others with a good heart and good morals and values. Look at yourself and try to determine why you are that way and take steps to change. If you are never happy with what you have, maybe what is missing is love, good friendship and meaning in life. You are being too superficial. Remember the whole world does not revolve around you. Everything is not and should not be just about you. You are sounding selfish. Get involved in a good cause to be of help in your community. See how poor people live and suffer and feel fortunate. You also need to share and care for others. Try it and that could possibly help you change your attitude. Being ungrateful is a bad trait. You must want to change by coming on here and asking your question. You are the only one who can help yourself. Identify the problem and take steps to overcome or find a solution.
How do I stop being so spoiled and ungrateful?
Volunteer at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter, abused kids program, abused women’s program, foster kids program, poor kids program, homeless assistance program, disabled person’s program, etc. Donate financially to those causes. Invest your time, energy, and money in the survival and thriving of people who have less than you. Do this for a solid year with weekly activities.Also, reduce your stuff by donating things to charity thrift shops, selling it and donating the money, etc. You can donate to charities or directly give to people, anonymously if possible. For example, you can have groceries delivered to a struggling family by the grocery store without them knowing who you are. You can give a gift card to a woman who has no nice clothing and do it anonymously. You can check in on elderly people, clean for them and cook meals for them.When you spend time investing in others, you start to care about others. You start to empathize. You start to understand and change your perspective.In high school, an acquaintance of mine was considered the most beautiful and desired girl in the large school. She looked like Barbie without the exaggerated proportions. But, she felt that all the time and money spent on her appearance was a waste. So, she gave away most of her costly clothing, cut her long beautiful hair short, and wore second hand clothing. The boys and many of the girls in the school were angry with her as they expected her to play a role apparently. Many ignored her after that as she had lost her glamour and sometimes even wore wrinkled, faded clothing. It was fine, but it was not like on the cover of a magazine anymore.After she did that, she had more time for things that were positive. We became closer friends, the fans dropped away so she could even notice other people. And, she had more privacy. Her friendships were more sincere, and she got to know people who cared about others deeply rather than simply grouped themselves according to shallow things like money, coolness, and appearance.So, if you change what you do, what you have, who you spend time with, and what you hear about and see, you’ll change yourself. It may take a while, but it will happen. It’s a choice.
Is my girlfriend being ungrateful to me?
I am looking for some advice from non-biased yahoo folks. I love my girlfriend but I think she is ungrateful. She has been having a hard week so I told her I would take her to a nice bed a breakfast, stay in a huge castle, buy her take out, and spend a sweet evening together. In order to do this she had to get a baby sitter for her son (He's 4) for the afternoon until her mother could pick him up. I said I would be happy to bring some money for her to give the babysitter because I wanted her to be able to go out, have a good time, and enjoy herself this week. When we ordered dinner the delivery guy was unable to process my credit card because his terminal was down, and I had to give him $20 out of my wallet. Now I usually take her out to very expensive places, but this night we were going to stay in together and just have pizza. In the end I only had $30 to give her for the babysitting money, (she said she wanted to give the babysitter like $40) and she got all pissed off at me and has been short ever since. I buy this women lingerie, I give her gifts, I send her chocolates to her office occasionaly, I pick her up and drive her around, I always pay for our dates (which are expensive because we go out and have a great time). Last time I gave her $50 to take her mom out for dinner for watching her son while we went on a 3 hour date. Am I being irrational or is this woman UNGRATEFULL of everything I do for her?
Am I being ungrateful ? Christmas gift?
On my Xmas list I asked for a Pandora Bracelet that's all I really wanted this year. I told my mom that if she's does get me on it has to be Authentic pandora bcuz I would not wear a fake knock off replica. So on Xmas morning I was sooo excited couldn't wait to open my gift and it was a bracelet from kohls that resembled the pandora. I was so pissed bcuz this cost the same amount as the pandora. I didn't say anything to my mom bcuz I didn't want to sound ungrateful. I just kept it to myself. My mom asked me today why I wasn't wearing my new bracelet and I just shrugged it off saying I was just wearing it earlier I don't want to hurt her feelings but I want to return it and buy a pandora. But I'm to scared I'll make her feel bad. What should I do? Also what would you do.
Am I ungrateful for being so sad on my birthday?
Today is my 19th birthday. I still live at home because my mom has a business and needs me to run it I'm aware that at 19, I am not a kid and don't expect parties and dinners and a big deal. But I expected something. I woke up excited and happy. Nobody said anything. They ignored me. I mentioned "wow I'm 19 today!" And my mom said "oh yeah, happy birthday." My family went out for breakfast while I was in the shower. I was really sad but I thought they might be secretly getting me a gift or something. They weren't. I didn't get a single gift. Not even a card. Nobody but my mom said happy birthday to me. No food, no nothing. I felt really unloved and unimportant. Then they all went out to see Xmas lights w/o me and I sat in my room alone and cried the whole day. My friends wanted to go out but I was so upset over my family that I couldn't stop crying to go out. I know I'm 19 and adults shouldn't require gifts. But my mother is 45. We still go out to dinner and shower her with presents. Same with my stepdad. I have 3 younger half siblings. We do huge things for their birthdays even though theyre only 3-5 years younger than me. I'm not materialistic, i just felt that no acknowledgment really made me feel unloved. Even a cookie or card would've made me feel better. I just feel guilty now because i feel like I'm a spoiled brat for being so sad about this. Do you think that's a normal thing to do and I'm being a brat? Did your parents stop celebrating birthdays as you got older?
Am I selfish or is my boyfriend ungrateful?
He does sound ungrateful from your side of the story, but it depends. I work in a hospital, and please remember that it can be a very frustrating time for someone. Not that I am excusing his behaviour, I would recommend you sit down and talk to him about how you feel. I would not recommend making rash decisions based on how they are acting in hospital, if this is the only time he has been like that. Hospital can make you crazy and you do things you regret...especially after 7 months! You should sit down and talk to him, tell him how you feel and how he is making you feel. He may not realise he is doing it. Or he may have a good reason? depending on what type of accident he had, maybe that style of phone is too hard for him to use? Not that it gives him a right to complain about what you have done, but he may have his own reasons. When people are unconfortable and in pain, they act differently to normal. Don't make rash decisions based on his behaviour now. But definately sit down and have a heart to heart with him and tell him you are being hurt by his behaviour.