Third baby and 31 weeks pregnant, early labor?
Hello, I am 31 weeks and having my third boy. I never went into labor early with my first two but last night I swear I was in labor. I had a very hard and long labor with first and the second was quick and easy. But last night I was so tight and I had a lot of pressure in my pelvis. (no bloody show) I have had plenty of Braxton Hicks with all three boys but this was crazy. I couldnt call my midwife because she is on vacation and my husband was working late so I was home with the boys sleeping so I wasnt about to run off to the hospital if this was false! I ended up being fine after faling asleep but this weekend Im going away with the hubby and Im afraid to go into early labor. Can anyone tell me any experiances they had like this or that can give me advice of about having third pregnancys. Id love to hear from people who have had muli kids or early labor. My midwife already thinks I'll go 2 weeks early. Im nervous!! Any/ all advice and stories are welcome! Thank you all, God Bless
What was it like having a third child?
It's actually not much change going from 2 kids to 3. Surprisingly it was a bigger change going to 4 kids in that I HAD to buy a new car to fit the whole family. No more Civic with 5 belts!2 to 3. Hmmm, he fit in like he'd always been there. People make jokes about how you are now outnumbered. I always countered with “Well I have 2 hands and so does my husband, still have room for one more kid!”Money wise actually not much change. I had all the baby stuff from the other 2 and he always had hand off clothes from my older boy. It was great fun to have a baby with two older kids. When my third was born I had a 3 year old and a 5 year old. Jamming 3 car seats in the back was a challenge, but doable.I don't regret for a second adding my third (or my 4th!) child. I always wanted 6 kids (an even number as I am the second of third and I did not want a middle child). Never felt done after 3. Super extra felt done after 4! My family is perfect and complete :)
Is it bad to have a third child at 40?
Nah, go for it. Three is only marginally harder than two, so you’re already screwed (so to speak).If you’re worried about the health consequences on the mother, consider adopting. It’s a great way to get your third child up-and-running a couple of years sooner.Speaking of a couple years sooner, if you start a child at 40, you’ll be about 60 when he graduates from high school, and probably around 65 when he gets out of college. You’ll experience the ongoing loss of privacy that is parenting for several more years than if you stick with the family you’ve already got. You may still feel young now, but in 10 years you may be be feeling a little less like chasing kids around the house, park, school, etc., but that’s not a choice when you have a 10-year-old. This is a really big deal for some people, so if both parents are not really committed, it’s a thing to think about.
How to make peace with not having a third child?
Focus on what you do have. Enjoy the freedom of two kids. No more diapers. No more pregnancy fat. I only have 1 child. I cannot have more. We tried and we lost the baby at 20 weeks. This was our fourth loss. You could manage a healthy baby. Could you manage another child with severe allergies? A difficult child? You are thinking that things will be perfect and smooth and happy. Your husband is the provider and he is probably thinking about college and savings, etc. A child deserves both parents on board 100%. It is unfair to have a child that would be resented by their father. 35 is not too old. But, be prepared for all kinds of tests. I am in my 40's and no way in hell I would try again. The last time was so dramatic it took 2 years to recover. I am not willing to do that to my child. Ask yourself what is driving this deep desire? This is something in you. Good luck.
Is having a baby at 20 a good idea?
well i'm 20 and pregnant so i can't really say its a bad idea lol my pregnancy was a surprise and by the sounds of it, me and my guy aren't close to being as set up with life as you 2 are, so i think that if you both want it, then you should go for it! you seem really mature for your age, and your in a good place in your life and i bet you'll be an awesome mom! as for getting pregnant, you can buy an ovulation test, and find out when your ovulating, but you ovulate right after your period so thats the best time to do it but as long as your both healthy and fertile you shouldn't have a problem =) also, just joke around with your man, i started buggin mine about havin slow swimmers cuz we had been really lucky 'bout not gettin pregnant, and them low and behold...guess what happens!! haha little bastards got some attitude and showed me whats what lol that being said, i'm really excited about it i can't wait to meet our little guy (or girl) 3 1/2 months left!!! good luck!!! i send you baby dust!!! --*Baby Dust xoxo
Wife wants a 3rd kid and I'm happy with the 2, what to do?
We've been together for 7 years. She has a son whom I've raised from 2 years old and we have a son together. One is 9 the other is 5 but she wants another baby and is willing to break up and split the family to do so. I am 35 she is 31. I find it crazy to have a 3rd when we can barely afford 2. We would need a bigger house and would need a bigger car. I find it crazy that someone would break up their family just to have 1 more child. Am I wrong here? I think we should talk, maybe see a counselor and reassess in 6 months. Thoughts or experiance?
Why do parents with two children choose not to have a third?
I love babies. Especially newborns. Some people don't like the Newborn-3 year-old stage. It's my favorite, I wanted to have another baby, still do, but I'm pretty sure it's not in the cards.My daughters, as far as Im concerned are perfect. Three and a half years apart, enough to get one out of diapers and into pre-school before the other one was born. My window for baby #3 was about two years after #2. I knew, if I made it out of baby-mode, the bottles, diapers and strollers, it would be really hard to go back a third time.It seemed like the perfect plan, but there was a kink in it. At four months, my youngest wasn't "reaching to midline." She couldn't bring her hands together. Something was wrong. This began the two-year ordeal of neurologists, MRIs and intense physical therapy. They told me she wouldn't walk until she was five, I said, "You have no idea who her mother is." She walked at 16 months. This was a delay in trying for #3, but I was still willing. Until my oldest was diagnosed with "off-the-charts" ADHD and an equally off-the-charts IQ. Interesting combo. The years spent with doctors, therapists, fighting the school, tutors and finding the right medications took all my time and energy. I was just able to handle the two I had, how could I add a baby into this chaos and give him the attention he deserved?So, in the end I chose to be a great, energetic, calm, affectionate mother to two instead of a stressed, frazzled, tired, snappy mother of three. The thing I am a little sad about is now, life has calmed down. My oldest is 12 and such a great "mommy" with the babies and toddlers in the neighborhood. I feel like I missed out of something sometimes. If I had an option, I would like have another baby.Of course, my youngest was just diagnosed with dyslexia and the 12-year-old is starting middle school. I probably shouldn't relax too much. I'm also 40 in a few weeks. I have my figure back. I can go running for an hour and leave the girls alone. I get to sleep through the night (usually.). Everyone has been able to wipe their own butts for a while. Another chaotic time is probably coming. I should just keep my eye on the chicks I have. Still, I love babies ...