Husband in Army basic training-how not to be depressed?
Oh, Sweetheart... My heart is breaking for you right now. I know exactly how you feel and it just sucks. It blows. I am 39 weeks pregnant, and it is tough in the best of circumstances. The hormones, the mood swings, the fact you cannot touch your toes, nothing fits in your closet, pregnancy is such a hard time. And on top you are separated from your man. My husband and I have been through two deployments. The first one I suffered severe depression because of his absence. The worst thing I did was not tell him. You don't have to go into detail, but say "I am very sad and I miss you a lot. When you get a chance, I would love a phone call or a letter." Our Soldiers need to know several things from back home: - They are missed - They are loved - They are still wanted - You are waiting impatiently for them - You want to do them the moment they get home (I know, TMI, but men are very physical and it is a great way to express your love). - Tell them how proud you are of them Do you have Facebook? There is a group called Army Spouses that is fabulous. It would help you somewhat. Are you close to an Army Post? Call the Army Community Services (ACS) on the post and ask about support groups. Deployments they tend to have more frequent communication and you will be surrounded by Army Wives going through the exact same thing. This is the hardest part of the Army in my opinion. Please email me if you need to vent. I am so sorry you are going through this... It is perfectly normal and you have nothing to fell ashamed of. You will get through this. You are Army Strong (corny, but I feel it applies more to us Spouses than the Soldiers).
My sister says she is depressed. She is being treated by therapists, but I think she is just a spoilt bratty child and overly pampered. How can I be sure she is actually depressed?
Okay so I’m a person with depression so I’m familiar with the symptoms, but I also have a relative who plays up her symptoms for convenience.First of all - it’s the specialists who diagnose her, not you. Secondly - Depression often makes a person incapable of empathy, incapable of looking outside their own bubble. When I’m in a depressed state I can’t read body language or understand how my actions might affect people. It’s not deliberate, it’s more thoughtlessness than selfishness.Selfishness is ‘I know this upsets you but I’m gonna do it anyway’ whereas thoughtlessness is ‘Even if you told me this upsets you, it honestly didn’t cross my mind and I’m so sorry I hurt you.’If she’s in therapy and trying to listen to the advice her therapists give her, that’s one thing. If she’s jumping between therapists and complaining about every treatment they try, refusing to do even the tiniest thing to help herself - then that’s a problem. But it might also be a symptom.People with depression actually need to be pampered sometimes. Because they feel so lost and alone they forget that they are loved. Gods sometimes I just need a hug.Example: When I have an anxiety attack I know what helps. I’ll get a glass of water, focus on my breathing, go for a walk ect. I do my best to manage my symptoms.When my relative has an anxiety attack, she’ll refuse any suggestion of a walk or fresh air, she won’t slow her breathing even when you guide her, in fact she’ll ramp it up. She will sit stock still and focus only on the panic. It’s not that these things don’t work for her, it’s that she’ll refuse any help or effort to alleviate her symptoms at all. When she actually takes her medication or follows our advise she feels much better and says as much.People not believing our symptoms is unbelievably damaging. Your attitude is honestly a problem. We are often asked to ‘prove’ our symptoms when we can’t.How do you describe a smell to someone who has never smelt it? A sight to someone who has never seen? It’s not something we can clearly explain because we know no other point of view. We have no standard to measure our symptoms. We don’t know what’s ‘normal’ for other people.Your sister needs love and support. Let the professionals work out her symptoms and if they tell you something, listen to and believe them.
If you were to say something to a person who is depressed and highly emotional, what would it be?
Being emotional and reacting to some people’s unwanted comments are the root cause of our worries… to overcome being emotional , practise deep breathing based suga pranayamas and your body, mind will be calm … so with regular practice of this you can overcome being emotional…How to overcome from depressed …go through the belowDepression occurs if you are an emotional guy with weak mind....if you face repeated failures and things are happening against youThen slowly depression finds in , subject to your mind is weak... it will not occur immediately for a case of 1 or 2 failures...to overcome this you need to develop a strong , calm mind... you need to develop the following attitudes for a strong, calm mind...1 every one gets an opportunity2. Life is a circle, those who are up will have to come down , those who are down will have to go up...3. Everything is temporary...4. Attitude of learning from the failures and are the stepping stones for success...5. Never expect anything for the duties you do...6. Always visualise and think positively and accept the worst with cool..7. Think about the worst for a fraction of time and give your acceptance with cool...8. Even some one's criticism will be forgotten by them , as long as you don't remember it...To develop all these attitudes you have to have a calm mind which helps you to understand and adopt it...Calm mind can be achieved by practicing meditation and breathing based pranayamas ...For meditation instructions write to me at rajkumar23969@gmail.com
How to deal with a disrespectful adult son?
Sounds very familiar to me. I think you should look this up: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive%E2%80%93aggressive_behavior I 've had a similar problem with a family member until a psychologist told me it's called passive aggressive behavior. It's a difficult situation and there's not much you can do without him considering it wrong. The problem is, these people do not even realize they are behaving this way. On the contrary they think the others are "the bad guys". Don't pressure him with anything, he won't listen, he will "attack back". Do some research on passive aggressive behavior, maybe even talk to a psychologist. Hope it helps. **Definition of Passive aggressive behavior disorder Passive aggressive disorder is applied to a person who, when demands are made upon him for adequate performance, responds with some form of passive resistance, such as procrastinate, dawdling, stubbornness, deliberate inefficiency, pretended forgetfulness and unreasonable criticism of people in authority. Passive aggressive personality disorder is a chronic condition in which a person seems to acquiesce to the desires and needs of others, but actually passively resists them and becomes increasingly hostile and angry. Symptoms of passive-aggressive personality disorder include: * putting things off * "forgetting" to do things others ask * being stubborn * disliking people who are in charge, or having a bad attitude about them * complaining frequently * working poorly or slowly on purpose * feeling unappreciated * blaming problems on others * being irritable * disliking the ideas of other people, even if they are useful * arguing frequently
My step daughter is a lazy brat?
My husband and I have 5 kids. He has 9, 6, 4 yos and I have a 6yo and we have a baby. For as long as I can remember my sd has been a rude, lazy brat. Long before we had the baby. All the other kids are well behaved and have passion for life and interest in thing. They WANT to be something when they grow up, teacher, zoo keeper, astrophysicist. (wants to build space ships with warp drive) But the 9 year old... NOTHING. She doesn't shower, or change clothes, do school work, help out or want to be anything when she grows up other than apparently a fat lazy hobo. We have to force her to bathe and change. We have to hover over her during homework time. She sneaks crap to school like the 4yos baby dolls or stuffed animals. She wont go outside to play, she wont play with her toys or even watch age appropriate tv. And chores, yea right. Even at her moms house her "had to have" dog goes uncared for despite moms threats to put dog on craigslist. Shes just lazy. Also has this "world owes me" attitude, fakes being sick (3 nurses visits a day at school) and doesn't care shes going to stay back again. Shes lost all her friends because they don't want to hang out with "the baby" that she acts like. Ive had people say its because we just had our daughter but this has been going on since she was 4. We've tried cheer leading, girl scouts, music/ art lessons, summer camp, all kinds of things to perk her interest in something other than sitting in her room and reading about Justin Beiber and drawing fail stick figure art. (All her movies, posters, music cleaned out of room. Blank walls and no toys right now) We're at wits end. We blamed her mom for a while but I don't think even her laziness can compare to SDs. Short of a swift kick in the *** Im out of ideas.
How do I stop acting like a brat?
I am 21 years old and I still act like a little brat sometimes. Shameful as it is to admit, but it's become more than just a problem for me, it's become a problem in my relationship. And I need some advice! I'm not going to blame everything on my family because some people, like me, grow up to be more selfish than others. But I was a pretty spoiled kid, only child, lived with my grandparents till I was 10, I have learned how to be a major brat. And in the past years I have matured in many ways mostly in ability to live independently, but one major issue still remains, my selfish, arrogant,spoiled way still haunts me!! I need some tough love because I need to get over this, it's cause major problems and fights in my relationship and I love him and I want to change!! Not only for him but for me too. I would really appreciated some advice on how to take it one step at a time, because it's like smoking, a bad but addicting cycle. First I'll have a bad mood, and then I'll just let it affect me, or I take it out on my bf, and it sucks, I hate myself when I do that, it's too the point where he is so sick of it, and so am I. How can I be more caring, loving, and less selfish and immature, All the time? Thanks guys.
Is PMS really a legit excuse to act like a spoile brat?
No - it isn't. In fact, women KNOW when they are experiencing it, and it would be far more mature to let others know in advance, and take responsibility for their actions and moods. And if anyone excuses it, they are providing an excellent argument for why women are not suited to specific levels or positions of authority...
What's it like to meet Kareena Kapoor?
I don’t like beating around the bush. So, here is the naked truth: Kareena is a classless, arrogant, spoiled-brat. The fact that she comes from a very influential family and is a popular public figure is deeply en-rooted in her tiny mind.I’ve met her personally and had to bear her and her sister Karishma, her mom, and some bunch of morons who accompanied her during her stay at the Oberoi Rajvilas resort, Jaipur in 2003, where I was interning. To cut the long story short, she was there to celebrate her birthday and we did more than a guest would expect. On her birthday night, we surprised her by filling her room, (in her absence of-course) with the best exotic flowers and the best possible decoration. We made a huge personalized cake and made it grand for her. And guess what, neither her nor her entire family had a single word of thanks. By the way, this all was complimentary from our side! :) Let me add some more fun to it, their entire stay was paid by the producer/someone of the movie she was working in! While leaving the hotel, forget about leaving a single rupee as tip (don’t take me wrong, Oberoi hotels doesn’t encourage individual tipping, but most of the guests, while checking out from the hotel do leave it at the reception as part of centralized tipping.) None of them, including her, had even the basic courtesy of thanking the hotel team that made their stay such a memorable one.It’s important for me to inform you all that The Oberoi Rajvilas is not an ordinary hotel to treat her so special. The Former President of USA Bill Clinton has stayed here not just once but twice. Bill Clinton Arrives in Jaipur This hotel has consistently been ranked as one of the best, not just in India but in the world: The Oberoi Rajvilas, Jaipur She ensured that we all got to know what a classless woman she is and how arrogant the Kapoor family is! On the contrary, Karishma’s husband was a dignified man with loads of humility. No wonder, we all in the hotel could easily predict the future of Karishma and her husband. ;)