Guys seem disinterested in me. Could I be doing something wrong to cause this?
Yes you could. I bet you do this too daily. When someone you don’t like walks up from behind that is unwanted from your perspective, what is there to do? Either tell them straight up:”I don’t like you”, or just kinda ignore them. Almost everyone chooses the last option. If your behavior is strange to most people, they will ignore you rather than telling it. That is why we have popular people and less popular.Then there is the question: will I ever find a person who likes me. For those people who ask that question, please think again. Just because most guy ignore you, doesn’t mean everyone will. Special or not someone will find the personality presented great sooner or later.The last option is easy. Maybe looks is the key issue here. I’m not calling anyone ugly just yet, but same goes for popularity. Guys often snuggle up at all the pretty girls. Popularity can also often be connected with looks. It’s almost never the pretty onces getting bullied.
I feel like I'm getting nowhere in life. What am I doing wrong?
My advice to you is to trust what is happening even if you don’t understand it right now. Every little thing that goes on in your life, good and bad, is leading you to where you need to be. It may not be what you envisioned or planned for. Someday it will make sense. Whether it’s tomorrow or ten years from now you will know with 100% certainty why something happened or didn’t happen. Hanging on to the expectation that you can have complete control over what is going to happen is what often causes disappointment. Acceptance is the key; accepting what is happening, where it may lead you, the fact that you don’t know what tomorrow is going to bring- but you know without a doubt that you will pick yourself up and adjust and you’ll be just fine. Because you always have. Life is full of twists and turns and ups and downs. Learn to adjust to all of this with an open mind and you’ll feel less impacted by things not working out the way you expected. Because you’ll know there’s a reason for it all. Whether it’s a friendship, relationship, career- things that don’t belong in your life will be removed to make space for the things that do. Trust me on this one (:
Am I doing something wrong by disliking my classmates now?
Based on the small amount of information that I have, allow me to give a little advice regardless.Life is too short to want to not be friends with people, even if they have been a little unfair in the past. Everyone needs friends, confidants, bosom buddies, etc. Everyone needs that human contact and friendship so they can share their lives and feel good about their social support network.In this case, you can remember that they were mean in the past, and you can make them pay a price by not being their friends. Shoot, they deserve it, right? But then who are your friends? Are you going to be too cool to spend time with them, yet go to school with them every day? They are being friendly, yet you don’t like their attitude?Life is short. You hear people say this, and it’s true. It’s too short. So you can go through life wishing people had been different, or that they hadn’t said something in the distant past, or you can get over it and work on the current relationships. Not everyone, perhaps, but pick a few of the best and cultivate your relationships with them. Work at it. At some point, gently bring up the previous behavior that bugged you.Good luck.
What am I doing wrong around my girlfriend?
Okay so I'm really nervous around my girlfriend and I love her, but I can't seem o be myself around her. I think shes going to break up with me because my best girl friend said that. I am jut so worried about making a move and doing it wrong that I don't even follow the situation or hat she is talking about sometimes. Some times I just freeze up an I don't say anything. I want take things slow and I want to keep her because I honestly love her but I just get so nervous I don't know how to be myself and forget who I am and I try to form this person that I think my girlfriend would want more when she really only wants to be with me because of who I am. If any guys or even girl have any advice I would really appreciate it. I don't want to loose her. Plus I don't wanna be to clingy.
The IRS has my birthday wrong. Please give advice!!?
A few years ago I received a general letter from Social Security, everything was normal except that they had my birthday listed 4 days later than my actual birthday. Very stupidly I did not do anything about it and I brushed it off thinking it was just a typo. Anyhow, this year I did my taxes on a software (very late unfortunately). When I tried to submit it a box came up saying that the IRS does not recognize this birthday (my actual birthday). I panicked because tax day is coming so soon so I just wrote in the incorrct birthday that was written in the social security paper, and the IRS accepted it. At first I was relieved because I got my taxes in on time, but then I realized that by doing that I gave the IRS false identity information. What should I do??? Am I going to get in trouble? I called and the automated system said that my tax information has already been received and processes.
Why do students in my class give me stares if I get something wrong?
Dear, Your question is your answer !! how ? let me explain…observe the second part of your question..you said, IF I GET SOMETHING WRONG !First, let me tell you, people never get Wrong or Right. People make mistakes while attempting something or they don’t make mistakes. In your case, you must be making some mistake while attempting something and you yourself interpret it yourself as WRONG done by you.In that case, you yourself start to see yourself in a negative way that leads to a non-verbal message to people seeing you. In-fact, your body language sends such messages to peoples and your sub-conscious mind relates it as they are STARING at you for your mistake (in your view, wrong doing).To avoid this, just attempt anything you wish you could do and make an agreement to yourselves that everyone makes mistakes. Even you make mistake, don’t let your body reflect it. Don’t look at people. Walk with your mistakes…Carry your weakness…Face the failures …and you are done.No need to ask any questions to anybody, see yourself in the mirror and smile at your mistakes. Then turn around and smile at people looking you.Believe me ! they won’t resist themselves smiling back at you !
Jealousy hurts. It's eating me alive. Any Advice?
Its a long story but I will shorten it, here it goes. I have a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and we have been together for 3 strong years. Well my girlfriend has this friend who has a crush on her recently this year, a couple of days ago he announced to his whole class his love to her... The problem is that he knows her and I are together. My girlfriend told me the story and I obviously got pissed at him for publicizing his love to her even though he knows that she is taken by me. I told my girlfriend that she needed me to give me his phone number so I can have a little civilized talk with this guy and that he needs to relax on what he is saying. Well my girlfriend got pretty mad at me telling me not to worry about him but she doesnt want to break off his friendship and that he doesn't do anything inappropriate or touches her in any flirtatious way. She even told me "You think I'm going to give you his number? The hell I will." Which infuriated me deeply that we got in to a nasty fight yesterday. I'm not going to lie but I did get jealous, I hate this feeling and I have tried to relax my mind but it ended up punching my wall and other things. But what makes me more mad is that I know she loves me and that she will choose me than any guy in this world, her love is so strong towards me and we both know that. I just cant help it.... I need advice...
Boyfriend refuses to marry me? What am I doing wrong me?
I apologize about the long post, I just want an outsider's opinion. My boyfriend and I will be together 6 years here soon. We have a child, a house, a few loans together, and get along well. I ask him about getting married, and its always no. I've asked him if he feels it's too soon, if he doesnt believe in marriage, or if he wants to wait until I'm done with Medical School, and the answer was no to all. He proposed to a girl after 6 months of dating, and I asked him too if he wasnt ready because that hurt him, and he said no again as he stated he wanted to marry someone someday. Unfortunately he did cheat on me 3 years ago and told her he would marry her tomorrow if thats what it took, but came back to me. Not long ago I got upset because most of my friends are talking about getting married, are married, or are getting married, and I asked him if it was something to do with me, and he stated he just didnt want to marry me. It killed me as I asked him what I am doing wrong, and again he stated nothing as he claims I'm still good looking, he will be able to stay home when i become a doctor, and we get along very well. I asked him then why does he want to marry someone, but not me....which he had no answer to. He is an amazing guy, but it kills me because I want to get married, and by no means am I in a hurry as I'm willing to wait 10 years if that's what it takes, but I'm very confused. Has anyone else been in a situation like this and figured out what was wrong?