What was the most horrible birthday you have ever had?
My 19th birthday was on a Friday. I had it all planned out. Friday through to Monday I had party's to go to. It was going to be amazing.On the Wednesday before my 19th I met a friend. He wanted to take me out clubbing. I went. That night him and his cousin raped me.The Thursday was mostly spent in the police station. Going over what happened. At some point in the day they drove me around the area so I could point out where it happened. Later that night, I was taken to a center to do a rape kit. I spoke to a counsellor who I would then go on to meet once a week.The morning of my birthday I was driven home by a police officer. It was the early hours of the morning. I got home and my room had been cleaned and a pizza and garlic bread was on my chest of drawers to eat. I couldn't eat. I just went to sleep.When I woke up I had to go and collect my PEP medication. My rapists didn't use condoms. This was supposed to lower my chances of getting HIV if my rapists were HIV+.The whole day I barely spoke. I didn't want to talk to anyone. I knew if I did, I would end up crying. And I didn't want that. My phone was constantly buzzing. People wanting to know where I was. Why I wasn't answering my calls. I couldn't talk. I didn't eat. I didn't eat for two weeks after it happened. I only started eating again after I ended up in hospital. Other than going and collecting my PEP medication I didn't leave my bedroom. I couldn't. I couldn't bare the thought of people looking at me differently. People feeling sorry for me. My grandparents (who knew what happened), and my uncle came to my room at one point to give me a birthday card and presents. After 1 minute of them being in my room I had to ask them to leave. I completely broke down. I've always hated crying around people and didn't wanna cry infront of them.Most of my 19th birthday was spent in my bedroom, crying. Everytime I shut my eyes I would see my rapists and cry even more. I cut my arms and legs with a broken cd case to try to control my feelings. It didn't help. I would cry some more. My 19th birthday was the worst birthday I've ever had.
Hey i'm feeling so bad cuz i had a terrible birthday! what to do?
I am sorry to hear that, hon. Everyone has a bad birthday now and then. I think my worst one was my 21. I spent two hundred dollars on a cake, alcohol, and food. Out of 30 people that I invited, two showed up and one only stayed for 10 minutes. It was really disappointing. Basically, a good thing to do is get on the phone and talk to a friend of yours that you have not seen in a while, or go out to the movies tomorrow and relax, since it is probably too late to do it tonight. Bad birthdays happen to everyone, hon. Some of us are younger on the bad ones, some older. Just remember that you can still enjoy the cake and ice cream, even if your parents do not get you any presents. You can always treat yourself to a nice dinner somewhere you normally dont get to eat at, or buy yourself a toy or electronic you have been eying. Happy birthday, though. Maybe you can just go out and rent some movies and watch them with your friends, or even by yourself? Maybe have a mini marathon of your favorite actor or type of movie?
I had a horrible 16th Birthday!?
Isn't your 16th birthday supposed to be a big thing? Yesterday was my 16th birthday, and I didn't get anything..seriously..I GOT NOTHING! Which was very depressing. I was crying all day. I expected something more but all I got was garbage. My family arent really that big on celebrating birthdays but hey I am turning 16th and it's suppsoed to be special for me...my sisters even got a better birthday who turned 12 and are even younger than me..I really wanted to get a cellphone because I never had one and It's just embarassing that I just turned 16 and never had a cellphone while every one in my class has one..:'( My dad even forgot that it was my birthday!! I saw him this morning and I asked him if he knew that yesterday was my birthday and he just said nothing and he went back to sleep. My mother also didnt do anything or give me anything. I feel so dissapointed. They should have showed me at least something to show that they care! I wish I was more like my other friends...
Everything is going terrible on my birthday...?
Today i turned 15 and i told my mom not to go tanning just this one day on the weekend because today is my birthday and she said okay. But i wake up and i hear her closing the door so i opened the window and yelled for her to come back, and the neightbor was there and i know i emberrassed her but i wasnt thinking at the time. So she came back home and yelled at me then shut the door and left me in my room crying. She also told all of this to my grandma and i my grandma didnt even wish me a happy birthday so she's mad at me too. Not even my best friend wished me a happy birthday....i guess she forgot. Anyways, right now im crying and my mom didnt even want to eat breakfast with me. She made it then ate it and i could see her eyes are red from crying. So i ate my breakfast and now im sitting here in my room crying again. I dont know why everything is going so terrible. I understand that i ruined my own birthday, but my mom is just acting as if it means nothing. Im home alone now ON MY BIRTHDAY and i dont even wanna live anymore, everything is going wrong and i wish it wasnt ruined, i just wanna reverse it to the morning again and start new but i cant. I just got a email from my grandmother telling me what a horrible child i am for yelling at my mom. I know i acted terrible but my mom lied to me. i dont even know what to do now. This day couldnt have gotten any worse, and i just wish today wasnt my birthday. I dont know what to do now, so im asking you all. What should i do?
Having a TERRIBLE 18th Birthday... Please help!?
Well to start off my parents have been arguing like cats and dogs and they don't seem to care that it is my birthday they are arguing on. My 19 year old brother forgot it was my birthday until about an hour ago (I think his girlfriend reminded him) when he called me. My 16 year old brother wants to sleep all day, he woke up about 20 minutes ago and he hasn't told happy birthday or anything! I just feel like this is the worst birthday I've ever had and I don't know whether to cry. or just keep going and try not to let any of it bother me. What do you think I should do?? Please be serious when answering!
I'm having a bad birthday, help please?
My whole family forgot my birthday except the littlest kid, my 6 year old brother. My parents are making me watch a 10 year old girl who is very immature and won't listen to a word I say. I found out that they forgot when they said "make your sister an omelet we'll be back were going to the movies." and it couldn't possibly be a surprise party because since last year they forgot my birthday and age and were too lazy to even check my birth certificate and subtract the years and I also have to tell them my birth date and age on everything they fill out associated with there kids. So all day i'm stuck catering to a snobby sister. I'm completely fine with watching my brother though because he's nice and the first thing he said this morning was "happy birthday Landon!" Is it perfectly fine to be upset with my parents? I just turned 14 today
Am I a terrible person for missing my best friend's 21st birthday celebration?
My best friend's mom organised a surprise 21st birthday lunch for my best friend. It's a girls night out and she invited me which was very sweet. This girl has been my best friend for my entire life - I've known her 21 years. Unfortunately the day she organized it for is the day I work. I have not requested the day off because my co-worker said they are having that day off, and if I don't go we won't have enough staff. I feel SO bad, but I have to work. However, my best friend has organized another event for herself on another night where we will go out clubbing. I will definitely do this with her. I also want to make it up to her in another way, like doing something special with her, maybe a movie and a spa day. Is this okay? I feel awful :'(
Am I a bad mother for not celebrating my child's birthday?
If you mean celebrating the first 2 birthdays, no. But by 3, if you’re in a culture that celebrates birthdays, most kids are aware of age and the passage of time. By 4 they may be aware of other kids birthday’s being celebrated. By 5 it would be unlikely that they don’t know.If by celebrating you mean a huge party costing hundreds of dollars, that’s not necessary. Most kids will be happy with a small gathering of friends. But some kids might like a huge bash. It’s up to the parents to negotiate what’s doable.If by celebrating you mean making the day special with some gifts, special attention and perhaps cake, then it will leave scars if you never celebrate the child’s birthday. A birthday celebration says, “You’re special to me. It’s worth it to me to celebrate the day you entered our lives.” I think that message can get lost in all the hoopla! But if a child’s birthday is never celebrated, that’s the question that will nag at them. It won’t be “Why did I never get gifts or cake?” It will be “Why didn’t may parents care about me? Why couldn’t they take some time out of their lives once a year to show that I mattered to them?”