I want to die? I feel like life is a punishment?
Well the title speaks for itself really... I have so many things wrong with my life and myself that I don't see the point in life anymore? I... Don't have ANY friends. Not one. I stay home and listen to music, creating a world in my head. I'm overweight. I always wonder why I was cursed with a slow metabolism, almost all the people at my school don't have to deal with this. They eat whatever they want and they're perfect. My parents have a very bad relationship, they are still together but there's problems all the time. I feel like I ruined life for them. My parents don't really pay attention to me. My family all together doesn't have a good relationship. People don't pay attention to me, I'm always the last option.... Thrown into the background. Sometimes I feel like a living ghost if that makes sense. I am there but people don't pay me no mind. It makes me hate myself. I feel trapped inside myself. I hate myself. I hate my life. I just want to die, be free from this physical reality. Living is a punishment for me... Death just seems so lovely. I can't wait to die.
What punishment should I give to my 13-year old son for vaping?
As Craig Good said, use logic. At 13, kids can understand logic. It’s also the age where kids try new things. That doesn’t mean that everything that they try is a good idea, and that’s what you need to talk to him about. Find out why he tried it. What did he hope to learn or gain. What are some better alternatives? Make sure he understands all of the possible consequences, like lung disease. One of the biggest problems with kids in adolescence is that they don’t understand all of the issues involved, they just think that they do. Punishment, especially with teenagers, generally only results in the kids hiding things, and the parents don’t see the warning signs. They only realize that something is wrong when something really wrong happens. Some of the worst behaviors I’ve ever seen in students comes as the result of overprotective parents, because it breeds the mindset of “if I get in trouble no matter what I do, I might as well go for broke.” These are the kids that usually crash and burn hard as soon as they turn 18, because they never learned any consequences beyond “don’t let mom and dad find out”, which doesn’t work so well it’s not mom or dad, but Officer Friendly that catches them.Someone asked me a while back if I, as a teacher, would tell a student’s parents if I saw the student smoking outside of school. I said it depends on the parents. If the parents are the kind that would beat the crap out of the kid when they found out, no, I would keep it to myself. A better solution is to find out why the kid is smoking, because in this day and age, they clearly know the health consequences. Maybe it was their first time, and just teen rebellion. Maybe it was because, like most adults that smoke, they use it as an outlet for stress. If that is the case, you need to address the stress and find a healthy alternative, not give them more stress.Remember, your job is to raise a functional adult who is capable of making decisions that are in their own best interest, not people that are so afraid of consequences that they either go wild or are socially and emotionally crippled.When I was a teenager, my Dad took away my car and grounded me for a month because he saw me speeding on the highway (not a lot, about 5 mph over). Did I stop speeding? Hell no. I just did it when I knew Dad wasn’t watching. In fact, I probably did it more, because I was 16 and “screw you Dad!”
What s the best punishment for a teen coming home drunk?
My 16 year old daughter literally just came in the house drunk and tried to sneak in on top of that. She s normally a good kid and makes good grades so this was shocking to me. But what would be a good punishment for her. I was thinking about not letting her go to homecoming and not allowing her to tryout for the dance team but is that too much or too little?
What would the punishment be for fighting in school?
i'm usually good in school, never gotten into a fight or even a detention. but what's going on isn't just teenage girls starting drama. but would all of those punishments really happen if maybe one of us got punched and slapped a little and maybe a little hair pulling? i know fighting is fighting, but i don't think any legal actions need to take place over just that.
I cut myself to punish myself?
Oh hunny I'm sorry you are going through this. I understand how hard it is to be in this place. In order to stop cutting you have to want to stop, otherwise it's not going to happen. It's a misconception that all people who cut have been sexually abused. Not to give any discredit to people who have been sexually abused and cut, but it's been discovered that a lot of self-injurers out there have no history of abuse. One common thing is the pressure to be perfect. A lot of times self-injury can go hand in hand with an eating disorder. The pressure to be perfect can lead to depression and a feeling of no self-worth because we can never achieve true perfection, humans are pefectly imperfect, as I like to say. If you can, please talk to a counselor at school. It will be really hard but you don't have to disclose right away that you cut, just explain that you are depressed and you need help. Therapy is a great resource to help overcome self-injury. If that is not an option I recommend these books to read: Cutting by Steven Levenkron Women Who Hurt Themselves by Dusty Miller Eating in the Light of the Moon by Anita Johnston The last book is on eating disorders, but it really truly is about self-acceptance and discovering our own worth. I started reading it when I was cutting and found that it applies there too. I hope you are able to get some help and find your self-worth, cutting can be very hard to overcome because it becomes addictive, but I have faith that you can do it :).
Parents that don't believe in spanking/corpal punishment?
Well I was also spanked as a child, and to a later age than most. I also have degrees in Child Psychology and Development among other fields, and I've had experience counseling many families over several years, as well as parenting my own children. From all this I can say with absolute certainty that spanking used in a calm and controlled manner has overwhelmingly positive effects on most children. I can also tell you that using any punishment method out of anger or frustration (even time-outs, taking toys away, grounding), can lead to negative effects such as you mention. Punishment is necessary for all children - it is a small but essential part of parenting. The key to long-term negative effects lies in the way punishment is administered, not in what punishment methods are used. Edit: After reading some of the other answers, I feel I need to repeat that punishment (not necessarily spanking, but some form of punishment) is necessary for ALL children. The purpose of punishment is to teach that improper behavior has adverse consequences. That is a lesson that every child must be taught and have frequently reinforced. Teaching and reinforcing that lesson is part of the job of parenting - administering punishment for misbehavior is part of parenting.
I had sex with my best friends girlfriend. What do I do?
My friends girlfriend is a huge flirt and has always wanted to get with me. They never get along and are always fighting. The other night I got completely wasted with my friend and his girlfriend. He took me home and I ended up going back to his girlfriends house. We started touching and making out and one thing led to another. She took off my clothes and we had sex for about 5 seconds until she made me stop cuz she couldnt do it, so I did. But it was too late. We sat and thought about it for a while and tried to figure things out and during that I kept trying to kiss her again and touch her leg and she would just say stop so I would. But i kept trying.and finally wanted to leave, but she wouldnt let me cuz she wanted to keep talking to me. We decided to talk about it the next day. I wake up and she told her boyfriend, my best friend that ive had my entire life. Shes tryin to say i raped her cuz she kept telling me to stop. And I did stop having sex with her. I know you cant blame it on the alcohol but I was completely wasted and she was drunk too. I would never do that to my friend. I'm not that kind of person. So now my friend wants to murder me. Hes crazy and if he sees me again it wont be good. All my friends know and I have none left. He is after me, she might turn me in for rape, and to top it off my girlfriends pissed. I had to tell her cuz i love her and she loves me. We have been talking about it and I think she would give me another chance. WHAT DO I DO? I have so much on my mind right now. Im so screwed. Everythings FK'D. Please give me your advice. I know how worthless I am and feel so terrible for doing it. I dont need hate comments. I just want to know what to do.
Are Coach Outlet websites ok to buy from?
I just took a look at that site. I can pretty much chisel it in stone for you that the site is selling counterfeit Coach bags produced in China. When you see a website advertising any type of brand-name merchandise at a much lower price than the MSRP you see in retail stores, that's a warning sign. If you also do a Google search, you'll see that there are warnings about the Coach outlet websites. I have a friend who works for U.S. Customs and Border Protection in Detroit, and he handles seizure of counterfeit goods. They're seizing fakes from China left and right. In fact, Coach has a lawsuit filed against a distributor in Dearborn for trafficking and selling counterfeit Coach merchandise. According to him, the websites appear to be perfectly legitimate and offer great deals. The rule of thumb is this: If it appears to good to be true, it probably is. BE CAREFUL. If you order a bag from that website and it turns out to be a fake, Customs will seize it and can assess a penalty against you for the MSRP of the purse as if it were genuine. You'll be out the $60.00 or so for the purse and may have to pay a $300.00+ penalty.