Are bystanders as bad as bullies?
I could argue both sides of this.Yes, bystanders are as bad as bullies. Assuming the bystander does nothing to improve the situation (calling 911, intervening in the situation, etc), one could say that they are increasing the amount of harm done by psychologically damaging the victim, allowing them to think that they are not valuable enough for someone to defend them. In addition doing nothing essentially gives the bully permission to act badly and permits the bully to believe they are supported and may escalate the behavior with this assumed support.No, bystanders are not as bad as bullies. While they may not be helping the victim they can claim no (additional) physical harm to the victim. And they would be correct. They can appease their conscience with this knowledge.That said, my opinion is somewhere in the middle. I think that doing nothing is harmful and as human beings we have the moral duty to stand up for those who cannot do so themselves. I would not however lay the same amount of blame at the feet of the non-acting passerby as I would the bully him/herself.
Why am i bullied so bad?
ok so for 15 years i have been bullied. i dont understand why. teacher principles students councilers family friends that i thought were friends and etc. people pick on me harasse me judge me call me names tell me im a lier i get physicaly bullied. i used to get bullied so bad i would come home with black eyes broken items and more. i try to tell principles and councilers and they just say well we didnt see you on camera so its not true. and my mother had to get involved with the police cuz they school would not take care of it. i have had to transfer schools so many times. its more than the toes and fingers combined. i only had to tranfer cuz of bullying. i am a quit and very smart girl. i try to do what is right. i lived in broken arrow bixby coweta tulsa owasso and out of state just hoping for a change but no where was there change. i wanted to kill myself because it was so bad. i finally dropped out of school about a month ago cuz the harrassement was so bad. i cant even finish school cuz of everyone. i wish for a change but get nothing. please help me understand why people do this to me. am i not good enough for everyone or what?
Do you agree or not: Bullies are not bad, just misunderstood - Why is that?
I don’t agree.Bullying is an act of pure evil. I don’t care what led to a person committing this act.I don’t make any discounts for people who justify their acts by something that has been done to them. And bullying is one thing that will never get any compassion from me.First off, it’s always an act from the position of power. Someone without the power - be it derived from physical advantages, social support or money - will choose a different way to be an asshole.Power means one has a choice. A choice to bully someone who does not have the power, or to do something else instead.Nobody is “pressed into bullying someone”. See, people can be pressed to commit all kind of vicious acts. Hunger may force a person to steal. Abuse and fear for own life may force a person to kill. Nothing forces a person to resort to bullying. Unlike a hungering or scared person, a bully is not cornered.A bully is just taking their issues out on an innocent person.There is no excuse for this.No harsh situation at home. No misunderstanding with parents. No lack of self-confidence. Spare me the bullshit. A bully can tell you a thousand stories trying to pass for a pobrecito worthy of your sympathy, but the truth is, any bully, under any circumstance, is a spoiled asshole who chose to abuse the power they had - and should be handled as such. That includes physical force, if nothing else helps.Secondly, it has potentially lethal consequences. Would you be fine with dying because someone felt misunderstood? Well, some victims of bullying end up killing themselves, some remain emotionally scarred for life. We are not talking petty silliness here.I would not punish my child if I knew they hit their bully. Actually, I will stand by them with pride. It wouldn’t be me, but the parents of the bully who should be ashamed - and if they wish, they can choose to be ashamed of misunderstanding their child in addition to having raised an asshole.
If I was to bully a bully, am I a bad person?
You would probably only contribute to whatever is fueling his bullying streak.Bullies tend to be very insecure people. Not always, but a lot of the time. One person who bullied me often in primary also had an almost compulsive habit of lying to make himself seem more interesting or wealthy. He lied about his possessions, about the places he's traveled to (Las Vegas and such), about having a girlfriend and even at one point asked me to Photoshop a picture of him and Novak Đoković together. I have to assume he told a friend or friend(s) of his in school that he had a picture taken with Novak and they demanded proof.And this wasn’t just a kiddie thing. The Photoshop incident happened in freshman year for both of us (we went to different schools though), so he was almost 16 then.Then another bully of mine, from secondary this time around, was this short, ugly-looking motherfucker. I mean it, he looked like a gorilla. Like one of those caricatures of an early human. And, I have to assume stemming from his lack of good looks and short stature, he became a short-tempered, violent little asshole who caused trouble almost everywhere he went.If you were to bully someone like that, it’d probably only make them go harder on their own bully victims. The more insecure they get, the more they need to make themselves feel better and they would go about it by making others feel worse.Now whether it would make you a bad person or not, it isn’t easy to say knowing just that, but you wouldn’t be helping anyone, that’s for sure.
I beat up a bully, and now I'm the bad guy?
There is this bully that has been tormenting me for a long time, he makes fun of me even in public, picks on me, humiliates me, and everyone one around luaghs at me and join in, in the bullying, so one day I just had enough so I took this guy and beat the SH*#@ out of him, and now that I beat him up, people say that am the bad guy now, like a discusting look like "I cant belive you did that", like I am low life, like am the freak and that I am wrong in doing it. This guy was a monster in his torments and now that I put a stop to it its like am the monster now, they look at me with disgust now. WHY IS THAT. If you beat up a bully you lose anyways?
Why is bullying so bad now?
I am not talking about a specific group like gay or anything, I mean OVERALL, why is it SO BAD now that kids are going nuts and killing themselves? Please dont refer me to the gay suicides, I am speaking about everyday highschool/middle school kids.
What makes people a target for bullies?
Well there are two different things here. One, people could bully you if your are sensitive, or quiet, or have an alien hobby or interest, well alien to them at least, and they find it strange or weird. They could be teasing if your small, or big, or anything they think is weird or funny. Two; they could be jealous of you. If they were trying to steal your shoes, that's one sign of jealous, they wanted YOUR shoes, and they didn't have the decency to buy a pair themselves. This could mean they were jealous of you if you had more money then them, or something of that nature. Now the touching, I don't really know about, if you mean sexually harassing you, then they were attracted to you, if you mean poking you constantly, they are just immature assh*les and very childish. The beating up, many people do this for dominance or "power." They do this to make themselves feel secure, and powerful, and to have a good image with other people. It's really stupid and you should stoop to their level, fight back, or tell a teacher anonymously that this kid has been bullying students! I had a problem with being bullied. Girls would tease me because I'm very tall and very skinny. Boys would also say mean things, especially this one boy who would call me anorexic and flat, and all these things. He CONSTANTLY harassed me, all the time. Then when I came back from summer break, I was more curvy and my facial features filled in, he still teased me, but now he would say I was to nice and to quiet. I always prided myself on him saying I was to nice, because being nice is NEVER a bad thing. If you are nice to people, there will always be a person that will love you. The people that really like you for you are the people who matter. It may take some time to find people, but once you do, you will be truly happy and successful, and those people that bullied you in the past will be miserable and self tormented. I ended up modeling and doing well in school, while the kid who was constantly bullying me dropped out and is now a drug addict. So remember, be yourself, do what you love, and you will always find someone that has the same interests as you and someone that will just love your company!