Am I just being insecure, or am I being gaslighted?
Well…gas-lighting is manipulating someone by psychological means into questioning their own sanity, so no, I don’t think he’s gas-lighting you. You don’t walk away from the circumstance feeling insane. I imagine you do walk away feeling abused and dejected.I would have a discussion with him about two things:(1) It’s counterproductive to call someone names when they’re trying to communicate their feelings and what they need the parameters of the relationship to be. If he persists in interacting with you in that manner, I would end things. If you are communicating with him by calling names, you also need to adjust your behavior.(2) You two need to discuss what is acceptable and not acceptable in your relationship. Go into this discussion knowing what your deal-breakers are. If it’s going to continually make you feel bad that he friends these attractive women on facebook, then that should be a deal-breaker for you. End things and move on. If he cajoles you into feeling like it should be ok because he thinks it’s ok and you begrudgingly accept it, I guarantee it will bother you forever until the two of you finally do break up over it. Either you’re fine with it or not. Pretending that you are is just going to prolong the inevitable.Communicate well and be merry.
Do I love that girl or am I just insecure?
You're attached to her, you want her for yourself, and you don't want a relationship with her?Ok, first, lets do a reality check here buddy:You like her, end of the story. Why don't you want a relationship with her? Here comes the second answer to the second question: Deep down you think you don't deserve her, she's better than you, or any other lame excuse. So are you insecure? Yup my friend you are, can we fix it? Oh yes we can.First of all, why do you think you can't have a relationship with her? You think you're ugly? Too skinny? Too fat? A bit broke? All of the above can be fixed. Search Quora and you'll find the answer, I'm not gonna lay it out here for you. If you want something you go earn it.Second of all, chatting with her for 3 months to get her to like you? For God sake brother seriously?#1 Rule in relationships: You only use texting for either setting up a date or saying a goodnight.You have 0.0000001% to get her to like you through facebook, and that figure is me being optimistic. How it's done: Hi, what's up? You free on saturday? There's this place, lets go get a coffey there. She says No? Try another day, she tries to blow you off? Move on to another girl.Do anything except the love on facebook thing, that's pathetic and lame. People need real action.And build some confidence man, it's been 3 months already what are you waiting for? If she liked you at the beginning, you have blown it by now. Chatting will get you nowhere.How do I know? Because we all tried that before. No, we wasted our time with it.Did my answer make you angry? A bit sad? Great. Use that energy and go fucking fix things, you've wasted enough time already.
Do you feel really insecure without makeup on?
I don't feel insecure, just plain. I have alot of people that come up to me when I am wearing make up and say "you look so nice when you have on your make up." That used to make me think, oh so I must look like crap when I don't have it on. I stopped thinking like that sometime ago. I like the way I look with or without makeup.
I feel very insecure about my vagina?
I think one thing that might really help you is to see other vaginas. Not in person, but on the internet perhaps. There are websites designed just for this, actually, to help women see what real vaginas are really like and not to feel bad about theirs. Another thing to think about is things from a man's point of view. Men, in general, aren't going to look at a vagina and think, wow, it's too dark. That's gross. I think most of them are going to be thinking, 'AWESOME! I get to play with a vagina!' This goes doubly true for your future husband, who will have married you because he loves you - not because he is hoping your vagina will be just like some idealized image he has in his head. I think you should have a look at some pictures - either in porn, or on a 'vagina acceptance' sort of website. Then get a hand mirror and have a really good look at your own. You will see vaginas of all different colors, and shapes, and hopefully that will help you realize just how normal, and not gross, yours is. And remember for the future that marriage is about love and commitment and caring; sex is part of that, but by far not the largest or most important part, and your husband will not judge you by how your vagina looks.
I'm extremely insecure about wearing leggings?
I'm a 15 year old girl and I just recently joined my high school cheer team a couple months ago. On friday is our football jamboree and my whole team is wearing black leggings and matching t-shirts. Theres's only one problem.. I know this sounds ridiculous but I'm EXTREMELY insecure about my butt. Please don't judge but I sort of dislike my whole body image because I'm not that sporty (I haven't done cheer that long) and I'm kinda scrawny with no toned muscle (unlike 90% of the girls in my school who have played every sport imaginable since they were in diapers). I know that I'm supposed to think that "a boy will love me for my personality" but lets be real. Guys my age pretty much only care if a girl has a nice butt. I would never wear leggings or jeans to school (unless I had a long cardigan or top with it that covered my butt). I mostly wear flow-y skirts and dresses everyday to hide myself. One time a boy even told me that I don't have a butt and a couple times my best friend mentioned it (in a friendly teasing way, she doesn't know that I'm insecure about it). Don't say "just do some squats" because I obviously don't have time to tone my butt before friday. How can I overcome this and feel more comfortable in leggings!?