If a guy takes too long, do you lose interest? If so....?
It sounds like "confrontation" might not be your style. However it seems that your own voice is telling you that you don't want to be with this guy. In all cases, trust your gut!!!!! Trust me, as a seasoned woman, there is no time to waste on a guy if you don't feel any hope for a worthwhile relationship, whatever type of relationship that might be. I suggest you cut your losses now, rather than get into it without your entire heart supporting your own decision. But I do see that you may feel stuck as far as how to get out of it. Perhaps you can learn from this experience, to find new and assertive ways to say what you need to say and not feel guilty. No elaborate explanation is required. Be straightforward and kind, and keep it simple. A statement like "This is not a good time for me to have a relationship with you, but I hope the best for you to be happy with someone else", is kind and have enough truth so that you can feel good about yourself. One more word of advice for anyone in your situation. And answer to the most asked question, "No, you can't be "just friends"! It only complicates things. Once you have made your decision, move on....! Your day will come. Be true to yourself!
Liking a muslim a girl? Im confused as is the girl im sure?
Theres a muslim girl who i seem to have strong feelings for. All my male friends tell me to stay the **** away. Yet, I realize that if we were to work out id have to convert to islam. I'm currently on paper a christian, yet its been years since i touched a bible. I'm not a godless person, just that I've lost a lot of faith. If I can be converted to christianity. I don't see why I can't be converted to islam. After all 1.6 billion people in islam in the world. The religion promotes peace, not terrorism. What do you guys think I should do? I mean I really have strong feelings for her and I know she likes me too but shes probably worried because of what her religion and parents will say. We all do crazy things when in love, question is if its worth it. She really is special in my eyes...never thought i'd fall for a muslim girl ever
Im gay and dating a married man. Advice?
Leave him. Period. He's lying to you. He's lying to you about everything. He's lying to his wife. He's lying to her about everything. You are hurting yourself. This situation will only lead to pain. He WILL hurt you. Your self esteem will suffer. You will not be able to form a good relationship while you are wasting yourself on this bad one. You are now part of hurting his wife and family. It's one thing to have been deceived, but now you know. Every day that you continue helping this situation get worse will be more guilt you will have to carry. If he loved you, he wouldn't treat you this way. IF he loved his wife and family, he wouldn't treat them this way. He doesn't love anyone. His behavior is completely self-serving. Even if he leaves her for you, which he already said he doesn't want to do (is that love?), you would be in a relationship with someone capable of lying and cheating on someone they are supposed to love. He has some real work to do before he is worth anyone's time.
14 and pregnate advice please? i really need some alote of thoughts >.< help help help help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Hey so I would not worry because you don't know if it's only been two days you may very well just be over thinking things and also on that note there are only certain days in the month that you can get pregnant....but if you are pregnant I would not abort the baby I mean like if you were that baby would u of wanted ur mom just to have got rid of you and never even given a chance at life and yes it is true that there is chance that you might not be able to get pregnant if you did go through with the abortion and if ur mom and/or sister would help you with the baby maybe sit down with them and talk to them and see if they could let you finish school because that's the most important thing and what about ur bf wud he stay or wud y be completely on your own so basically everything is ur choice but really don't think too much about it yet
Cancer man is making me lose my mind!! HELP!!?
Thanks everyone for you replays. You all have given me a lot to think about. I think everyone has a lot of truth in what they posted. At this point I am going to stop contacting him. I know it will be hard but I need to move past this. I will give him the space because clearly I need the space too and if he comes around he does and if you doesn't then so be it. It's important to remember what you deserve.
I love a girl who told me that she had feelings, but not anymore. I don't want to give up, I want to get her feelings back. What are some suggestions about that?
Before I answer your question, let me tell you my story.I dated this guy for about six months, but we broke up. I missed him like crazy, and I still miss him so much. I tried talking to him several times, but left me on read. I thought that I could still make him love me again, and didn’t stop trying. I was really dumb now that I think about it. I should’ve known that his feelings turned away long time ago, and I should have really stopped it there. I feel like I ruined our good memories together because of how I acted afterwards. I still like him, but I know that there is a 0% chance that we would ever be together, so I’m not hopeful anymore. I learned to be a little more chill and not care so much about him. I miss him to the point, where if I’m talking to someone I like, it feels so strange because it’s not the person I’m used to. It makes me want to stop everything and just tell my ex that I miss him and love him so much. Many times I had to stop myself from calling him. But I need to let it go. I know that it won’t work out, so I need to let it go. I regret so much of the wrong things I did to him when he was next to me, but there isn’t a point of regretting anymore. I learned my lesson from him, and I just need to stop making more. It just pains me that we won’t ever be the same, and he cannot be the one I can cry to, and say I love you to.Okay so your question, I think that maybe you should stop and leave it the way it is right now. It can ruin the good memories she had of you, and she might even grow tired of you. I know that it’s hard, and you want to seize the chance every time you can, but you gotta let it go. It takes awhile, and it might even take a couple of years. You’ll get better as time goes by, and it’ll slowly start to get dull. Her feelings are gone, and there isn’t anything you can do to make her fall for you again. You need to act naturally and live as the person that she liked before. You cannot force her to like her, but you can make her fall for you again naturally. She did love you at one point, so you just need to know what kind of you that she liked. Don’t text her or call her, no matter how sad you are. Be the same old you and if she falls, she falls for you. If she doesn’t she doesn’t. Find another woman who will love you. I can really relate to your question.
Lesbians : would you date a girl unsure of her sexuality?
hello :) There's this girl i like quite a bit and, i know she's a lesbian. i find her really hot, the thing is im not sure of what i am. im either bisexual or lesbian. Does it matter that much that im not sure cause i definitely do like girls, im just not sure about whether i like guys or not. i don't know whether to say im bi or lesbian. ive heard that alot of lesbians hate bi girls so should i just tell her im a lesbian? thanks (im 16)
What should I do if I have a major crush on a close friend and I don't want to ruin our friendship?
I know it will be hard for you to believe but I've been through the exact same thing. First thing first, tell him how you feel for him. Now don't mistake this opinion as some love guru funda. It's not. The only thing I want to tell you is that you DON'T WANT TO REGRET YOUR SILENCE few years from now. I liked this girl who also happened to be a very good friend. At first, I kept dodging the feelings, however I soon realized that it was getting tough for me. She was nice to me and I did not want to mistake those gestures with something else. The only thing that kept me from telling her was that we used to hang out in group and I never wanted to be the one who spoiled the atmosphere and making things awkward. So I never shared my feelings with her until we were posted to different locations. I realized I might never be able to see her again and a few days before we were supposed to leave I told her about my feelings for her (I don't want to take the credit for the entire thing, she was the one who was the acting catalyst during the conversation).Now here's the thing!!! She too had feelings for me all the while and in her words " had been dropping hint bombs" at me. It's is the best feeling, believe me, and you'll get to live it only if you tell him. Even if things don't work out(now don't be pessimistic), he will understand and that way you'll never regret not telling him. All the best !!! PS: I'm glad I told her. She is the best thing that's happened to me.
Ex gf is dating someone else but tells me she isnt over me?
She needs to tell the guy that she got in this relationship too early and should have let herself recover form the old relationship. It would not be fair to him to continue without being emotionally ready. She should not tell you her feelings and then leave you with them. It is not fair, especially since you could be moving on. Tell her that being her friend is difficult and an emotional strain. It is better you have space until she figures out what she wants. It is not fair to the guy she is with that she has feelings for you and puts you in an awkward position.