Was my boyfriend out of line to get upset when I mentioned that I called a former married male colleague for a referral? He acted like I cheated on him.
That depends on the broader context of your relationship.The incident you mentioned alone should not make him upset. If that one thing did make him upset, perhaps he has a problem with unreasonable jealousy. If so you need to either work it out through discussion or counseling, or end the relationship if you can't work it out.On the other hand, if you calling this colleague is part of a broader pattern, he may have legitimate reason to question it or to be upset. Do you find continual reasons to be in contact with this particular man, or with other men in general?My belief is that people generally get into serious relationships or marriages because they want emotional exclusivity, not just physical exclusivity. There are a lot of women in today's world who seem to believe that it's okay to have frequent interactions with various male “friends,” even if they themselves are in relationships or married. Then they get bewildered or angry if their boyfriends or husbands ask them to stop the behavior.They try to blame the situation on the boyfriends or husbands, accusing them of being insecure or abusive. But the truth is that most normal men don't want to be in a relationship or marriage where the woman in their life is continually on the phone, emailing, texting, or hanging out with other guys.Some men may not admit it, because it's more politically correct to say they would never tell their girlfriends or wives what to do. But it will often make them uncomfortable, and cause a lot of conflict or ruin the relationship or marriageI can tell you that in my own marriage, if I were going to call a male former coworker for a referral, I would probably mention it to my husband in advance, and he probably would not have a problem with it. But if I were continually reaching out to that same coworker for all sorts of various reasons, my husband would probably question it and eventually he would object to it.So I would say you have to examine your boyfriend's level of jealousy, and you have to examine your own behavior as well. It may be that he is unreasonable, maybe you are unreasonable, or maybe you're both a little bit unreasonable. If you care about each other hopefully you can work it out through good communication and prevent the same problems from reoccurring in the future.
I am completely upset and ashamed to find out I am of Polish heritage, is there anything AT ALL to be proud of?
I mean I always thought that I come from some respectable European nation, not the laughing stock of Europe! I mean out of all nations in Europe Poland has to be at the very bottom, the least accomplished, least history, least sophisticated. I am ashamed I come from a long line of drunken losers who have done nothing but embarrass Europe. Never winning wars always taken over playing the role of helpless victim, claiming to have defeated Genghis Khan when really he just died and they turned around to leave (their only victory a misconception) Is there anything ANYTHING to be proud of being a smell Pol? When people are talking about how great their heritage is what do I say? Do I say we drink alot of vodka and puke more then anyone!?
Should I be upset if my husband took a picture with his ex wife at their sons graduation?
Are these people serious?? They really think what happened here is okay? You were not being petty, this just should not have happened. First of all, we would never have been around his ex to begin with, you could have all taken turns being with him and taking pictures. Your MIL is way out of line for requesting such a thing. Does she have something going on with the ex or something? Way wrong! Also, your husband is a cad (I'm being polite) for treating you that way in front of everyone. That's HORRIBLE. What's wrong with him? He didn't have to cause a scene with his mommy, he could have just said "no thanks" and walked away, and/or suggested she take a picture with you and him together with the boy. I don't know how I would ever get over this, I wouldn't divorce, but I'd be pretty freaking pissed off for a long, long time.
Am I out of line with my late night showers?
My husband and I live in an apartment, and I recently started taking baths in the middle of the night to help me sleep. Apparently our downstairs neighbors could hear the water running in their bedroom. I was contacted by the management who said the woman below was calling up very distraught, calling us terrible neighbors, and threatening to move. My first reaction was to feel really bad for being so inconsiderate. Over time, I have grown upset that she had such an extreme reaction and went straight to management instead of notifying me, but that is how some people work, I guess. Still, I don't want to keep people awake, and we do everything else we can to be quiet. The issue is that not being able to take these baths is driving me crazy. I am eight months pregnant, and have developed a skin condition called prurigo gestationis. It is incredibly evil, and the itching at night is constant. Back when I could sleep, it was for about an hour at a time before I woke myself up scratching and bleeding. I look like an anti-meth campaign ad. The late baths helped some, but I haven't taken one at night since the complaint. I am not doing well at all, and the lack of sleep is really taking its toll physically and mentally. I finally broke down and took Benadryl tonight, but here I am, awake and itchy! I don't think that I can be evicted for running water, as I have been told it should fall under "normal living" noise, not like partying, stomping, or musical instruments. I really don't want to be an ***, though. I haven't been able to get a hold of these neighbors yet, as they always seem to be hiding (we haven't even been able to meet them once). But now I am seriously considering sacrificing them to save myself. I'm at the point I just want to show them my scars and shout "Wear earplugs, please!" Should I continue as is so that I am not harassing the neighbors? Or are the circumstances enough that I should put myself first in this case, and expect another call from the management? What would you do?
Why did my friend feel offended or upset that I told her she's very immature for her age or that her line of reasoning is similar to that of a teenager? It is the truth and something she needs to work on.
In your opinion, your friend maybe immature and her line of reasoning maybe similar to that of a teenager. Maybe in the eyes of someone older, smarter and more accomplished than you - you may be considered the same.So maturity and reasoning is very subjective in nature.Now just as not everyone appreciates being called names or categorized as immature or having bad reasoning skills - I suppose your friend also has the right.So use discretion when doing so.Finally, last if not the least - if you were mature and your line of reasoning was greater than that of a teenager - do you think you would have asked people on a public platform a question like this?Don’t you think there is something you need to work on?Loy Machedo
Am I being out of line? Nude Maternity photos?
It's your house, and if you don't think a semi-nude photo of a pregnant woman on your wall (daughter or not) is your style, you have no obligation to put it up. It's incredibly distasteful of her to accuse you of "pregnancy envy" after you spent all that time/energy/finances/whatever raising her, as if getting knocked up is some big feat only she can pull off. Hopefully when she works the baby weight off, her head size will drop a few notches, too. Now you are both adults, so she can handle the truth: tell her she is being rude, ungrateful, and vain, and if she wants a harmonious life with her own children, she'd better start with her own mother (biology aside, if you raised her, you're effectively her mother). Good luck!
Should being a massage therapist upset my boyfriend?
I'm planning on becoming a message therapist then later on ill go to school for acupuncture. The thing is my boyfriend is worried about me massaging (touching) other guys. He said it makes him uncomfortable to think about. Which I understand Bc I.would be too if I was in his position. And even now I'm wondering and kinds know it will be kinds odd. Its just I love helping (healing) people. Making them feel better. I just don't know what to say or do to make my boyfriend not so worried. He supports me but hes a worry wart. Does anyone have experience in this field? Any advice?