Am I Overreacting Or Should I Be A Little Pissed

Why do some people get easily affected (upset) by little things? How can s/he resolve this?

As a general rule of thumb you can take it that the less control people have in their own life, the easier they are affected by what is happening around them.We only become upset by triggers that “bring the pot to boil over”. Which usually occur when we have had a very stressful time and/or when we do not have enough control in our own life, making it so stressful.These two things go almost hand in hand, as it is likely that you will have a stressful time when you are not in control and not being in control causes a lot more stressful factors to run amok.Think about it: if you had all the control over your own life, would you ever get upset by something small going wrong? After all, you have the power to change it, so why does it matter?The reason so many people get so upset about all these tiny things is simply because they are not aware that they have the power to change almost everything about their life!Obviously there are accidents and things that are out of our control, but even then we have the power to decide how we react to those things and to change them, or at least fight them.To really get control back in your life all you must do is actively decide on what you want to do rather than to react to what is happening.People that overreact to certain things let their emotions get the better of them during those times, even though they do not need to. You have the power to decide whether or not you want to react to an emotion or whether or not you just want to sit back and do something different.The difficulty in this comes when we are not aware of this power and do not think about it, making our emotions take control.Learn to actively decide on what you want by:Being intentional before you go into an argument/situation.Keeping your eye on the prize. AKA what you want to get out at the end.Reminding yourself that you are not a slave to your emotions.In the end, it you can react either way. You can take everything personally, decide that every little thing has huge problems it brings with it, or you can decide to take a deep breath, step back and look at the problem from an optimistic point of view.Stop being less than you can be and reach your goals. Send me a message saying "1 to 1" to get life coaching with me. Lukas Schwekendiek

Why do I get mad at my boyfriend for little things he does?

Depends on how little . Without examples its hard to say.There could be many different reasons for this.Say he constantly doesn't bring his plate to the sink or put it in the dishwasher( something minor and easily fixable ) Maybe hes got some bad habbits that you view as annoying. If you bring it up and see no improvement that could lead to some negative feelings of resentment and frustration. Its so small a task, I've asked a dozen times, and he cant make the effort.Is it possible you are being too critical and not embracing his individual quirks? We all have flaws and quirks. Its nice when the person you love finds your quirks cute or funny. Respect his individuality and if its something that is inconveniencing you be sure to let him know it's having a negative impact and talk through a solution.Maybe you guys need some personal time or space. Spending too much time togather is a real thing in relationships. Some people need more personal time than others. Without having your personal time to reflect, recharge or do an activity/ hobby that you enjoy doing alone can lead to nit picking.Sometimes it boils down to lack of mutual respect or an imbalance there. If you view him as a lazy stupid or incompetent man child its safe to say you don't respect who he is, what he stands for or brings to the table. You guys need to have a very heavy and real conversation about whats important to you both in a relationship and what efforts, communication, boundaries , patience and forgiveness can be utilized to improve the respect that needs to be reearned.Projection is another possibility.Psychological projection is a defence mechanism in which the human ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others.For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude. It incorporates blame shifting ( totally took this from Wikipedia )Hope that helps narrow it down for you. Best of luck.

What do I do when my boyfriend is pissed off at me?

Hello dear.This is something that happens with me a lot of time. But, do you know how to deal with it. The only mantra that will help you is “Maintain Silence”. When he is pissed off at you whether its your mistake or not. Just be silent at that time. It will help you like anything.Now, if it’s your mistake be a little apologetic. But, if it’s not your mistake then also maintain silence. look, it does not mean that you are just listening to all those shits and not reacting like a dumb. It simply means hat you are being simple and mature enough to deal with the situation.When someone whether your boyfriend or anyone, is yelling at you, Try not to be aggressive and listen to their words. There are times when people don’t realize what they say. And you realize what they actually mean only because you were silent at that time and not aggressive and you were in all your senses.There are times when we have to be mature to make the relationship move forward. This will help you to change entirely from your mind and soul. Believe me things do get normal by time. But when your partner is a little pissed off or not in a mood. Give Time and Space. Be easy in front of him and try to maintain silence every time he is yelling or being aggressive at you.Disclaimer - I am not saying that your partner should abuse you like shit and you should listen. Physical violence must also not be ignored. Until & unless he doesn’t abuse you it’s ok. But never tolerate abusive nature or physical violence.