Am i depressed or just over exaggerating? Help :(?
I am a Social Worker in Canada, and I've talked with many people who have suffered with depression. Parents due to tend to pass these things off as "teenager phases", when in actuality, it may be depression. It is not an easy thing to face, especially when you're having doubts about schools or not wanting to socialize. You are NOT an idiot for feeling like this. Please do not ever think of feeling like an idiot for this. The fact that no one understands is because there is still stigma around depression out there and many people aren't educated about what it looks like. I would highly suggest reaching out to a Guidance Counsellor or Teacher or an adult you trust. Possibly go to your doctor and explain your feelings and they can refer you to a Social Worker/Psychologist/Psychiatrist who can offer you techniques and skills to overcome these feelings. Everything you have described above are definitely signs and symptoms of depression (I've put a link below regarding depression for you to look through). I can't diagnose, but I can certainly relate what you're experiencing to my previous clients' experiences. Have you tried talking to your close friends and telling them about how you're feeling? Often surrounding yourself with the ones you love helps a lot. Just having them present in your life and aware of what you're going through can help. Maybe your friends can go with you to a support group of some sort available in your city, if you're up to that. Or you can find a support group. Have you tried going to your family doctor to ask for anti-depressant medications? Usually the medication, coupled with counselling (through a Social Worker/Psychologist/Psychiatrist) will help you overcome your depression and give you techniques to dealing with these thoughts and feelings. You need to keep a positive attitude. It is not easy to overcome depression, but you CAN overcome it. Just stay strong and let those you love and cherish know what you're going through so they can support you. It is truly the best way. Maybe this can be done after seeing your doctor so you have proof that it isn't just a "teenager phase". I wish you all the best, and hope that my advice will be able to help you a little bit. Good luck! :)
Are long work hours in Japan an exaggeration by the West or a reality for Japanese?
During my early days in Japan I was working in a typical Japanese company. One fine day I had some more work left to finish at the end of the day and told my boss that I’m going to be working over-time for a bit. At first he was happy to see his sub-ordinate working so hard . The work took usual than longer so it went past 9:00 PM and my boss was ready to leave and told me strictly to not work beyond 11:00 PM. When I asked why, he said some 3–5 years ago an employee worked until next morning 5 AM something without taking any break and died of exhaustion due to which the company got into serious trouble and had to re-write the working hour rules.And since then if any employee works beyond 11 PM unless until it’s absolutely necessary and with prior approval of his supervisor , the supervisor will be demoted . And I actually saw someone getting demoted from 副統括 ( Deputy Division Head) to Manager because his sub-ordinate worked until 11:30 PM something. In fact in some departments the managers used to leave only when all his sub-ordinates left due to fear of demotion.Unfortunately, in typical Japanese companies it’s more quantity based reward than quality. The employee who has been clocking 12 hours or more a day is preferred more over a employee who works till regular working time for a promotion even when the latter does a better job. I can’t remember how many times I got the weird stare from Japanese colleagues for leaving at 17:35 (work timing was 9:00 - 17:30). According to them it’s very natural to do overtime every day. Lucky me , I always used the gaijin card (foreigner card) and got out with no hesitation.In my opinion it’s not exaggerated at all and there’s a reason why there is a special term for them called SALARYMAN.WORK -> DRINK ALL NIGHT -> SLEEP-> WORK->REPEATNot to put them in a negative light , but this is the sad truth . Fortunately , with more and more companies going global and opening doors for foreigners , the situation is changing at a gradual pace with more focus on employee development .
Pokemon: Did kids really commit suicide over the Lavender Town theme?
I am actually listening to it right now on my Pokemon Reorchestrated album on Itunes. I don't find it depressing at all. It is just an exaggeration.
Can teachers get fired for attempting suicide?
I'm writing a story that deals with this issue, and I'm looking for cases and solid, legal facts to back up my research. So far all I've found is this one case a few years back: http://www.sptimes.com/2006/09/10/Pasco/Teacher_s_suicide_att.shtml
Is it okay to tell a friend's parent that her daughter is suicidal?
I think this is absolutely something you should talk to her parents about. She might just be exaggerating or trying to get attention but do you really want to take that risk? There are so many things that could be happening and if she is under 18, her parents have the right to know. She might be in need of professional help. Her parents would best be able to assess the situation and maybe get her to talk to a therapist. It's good that she has concerned friends like you but if she doesn't get the help she needs, who knows what could happen. If she shuts you down when you try to talk openly to her about it, talking to her parents is a good idea.~ Lee @ ComicallyChaotic.com
What does it mean to exaggerate your talents and achievements?
Exaggerating your talents and achievements may mean that you don't feel that what you actually did was "good enough" and could be a sign of insecurity. It may also mean that you need a lot of attention from others, especially if you're not getting enough from those closest to you. You may also have come from a home with overly-high expectations. Exaggerating may seem harmless, but if you get caught doing it, especially on a regular basis, others will not believe much, if anything, of what you tell them, even when you tell the truth. One thing that may help is to write three good things that happened during the day before you go to bed each night - without exaggerating. Look over them once in a while. You will eventually see that what you actually do is good enough without the exaggerations, and will be able to stop needing them. Trish
Do you think teenage depression is exaggerated sometimes?
No, in general I think the impact of teenage depression is actually underemphasized.I read something recently that struck a chord with me: when you are young, you don't have the context to put bad experiences in perspective.When I have bad days as an adult, I know that I've survived worse and so far have come out OK. When I had bad days as a teen, it was literally the worst thing I'd ever experienced and I didn't know that I would be OK. I didn't know that I would ever be able to feel OK again. All I knew was that I hurt, badly, and that I had no way to deal with it. It was my normal and I didn't expect anything better.I mostly looked OK on the outside, but I was not OK on the inside. That's basically the definition of high-functioning depression. Just because I looked OK and put on a happy mask on command doesn't mean I was exaggerating how depression affected me.People telling me that it was all in my head (duh), I was an attention seeker, and that I was exaggerating didn't help one bit. People telling me that I could always have it worse, that I would feel better someday, and that I was actually not doing that badly didn't help one bit.What they did do was stop me from asking for help when it was a life-or-death situation. Only by the grace of God did I live and gain the confidence to ask for help again.I'm not saying that exaggeration never happens. In billions of people seeking treatment for depression, I’m sure some of them lie. But the vast majority of people who seek mental health support do actually need it.It would be wrong to ignore people who ask for help just because a few might not actually need it. With children and teens specifically, the risk of missing their cry for help (permanent damage and suicide) is already far too great.
My height is 5'6 -- Suicide?
I am 5.6. I hate it. I hate being called "Shortie". Should I do suicide and kill myself? I didn't choose how I was to be born. So it's not fair. But people are not fair. So while killing myself should I try to take as many tall people as possible LOL Read this! ======================= Why Don't Short Men Just Kill Themselves? (5109 hits) Submitted by Vermin 2007-01-05 Whenever I see a short man I shake my head with sadness and pity. Short men are unattractive inferior specimens and women - other than fat and ugly ones (luckily for the shrimps there is no shortage of those) don't want to be with them . At 6'1 I am not a huge man but at least I am not a runty dwarf, a pale imitation of masculinity like a man who is 5'7. I am sorry to tell you this but if you are a man and any shorter than 5'10 your genetics are weak and your bloodline should die out. Honestly, what kind of man are you if you only grow to 5'5 or 5'6? I'll tell you what kind: you are not a man at all. Ever hear parents bragging about how tall their son is? Yup, you all have. How about bragging about how short they are? Thought not. This is also why women are attracted to tall men; not only do they not want the shame of a short husband, they especially don't want the shame of having short sons. All the short men I know are ashamed of their height and as well they should be. They are an embarrassment to their family and their species. Tallness is equated to athletisism, masculinity, power, good looks and high social standing. Tall men are more powerful than short men, both physically and in the work place. On average we earn more money and have the upper echelon jobs. Women are naturally attracted to our power and masculinity. Believe it or not we are also smarter as well. Think I am making this up?............... http://www.ubersite.com/m/97388