Am I Really Ugly Because I Honestly Think I Am. And I

Do you think I'm fat ?? Or ugly ? Honestly.?

You are not ugly, pretty in fact. You should have put a full body up though in a bikini.. :) I'm not a pervert, I just wanted to see the whole picture. What size are you? Hey, just so you know, I weigh 119 now but I have been as low as 113 this summer and as high as 189 for a semester in high school when I was forced to move to my father's house. After I went from my usual HS weight of 150 and gained 40 pounds, I lost it and then gained some more in college and then lost more after college and now I go up and down, never above 143 or so, I'm 5'8. Don't sweat it. If you want to talk about it, email me, OK?

I'm ugly (honestly I really am) and I hate my life because of it what do I do :'C (please help)?

I try not to care about what others think and for the most part I succeed, but "I" know I am ugly and I belive I am. I want to make myself believe I'm pretty I don't give a damn about anyone else thinks I know it's my life, but I know I'll never be able to make myself believe I'm actually decent and lovable and all that jazz..

I also do believe the true beauty thing, but I just don't think I'm even pretty inside or out. Maybe this is because of my traumatic childhood? I know I've blocked a lot out. Hell I've been to Disney world three times and don't remember any thing from any trip except for taking a picture of a sign. I have very large memory gaps and don't remember much from 13 back except for my mentally and physically abusive stepmother, my mother and stepfathers drug problems, and the fact that my dad was never really around. Maybe that has something to do with it? I don't really know, but as hard as I try I can never get past it. And I have never been happy in my life ever. I

Am I ugly? Please be Honest?

Not at all. Neat top, by the way.

I got rejected. Am I really that damn ugly...?

Hi, very interesting question, BTW i'm mixed- blk white west indian and i don't think you look half bad. Honestly i say go for anything. Rejection is a part of life, i know it is very cliche but it's true. But trust me, who ever rejected you was not the one even though u thought that she could be, because when the "one" comes around, she won't say no. or give you some kind of excuse. keep ur head up. Trust me, i'm a
mixed girl who loves asian guys but finds it really hard to get one. i soon realized that b/c they are so shy, i have to make the first move. I have a fear of rejection more so b/c i'm a girl and my self esteem will fall to the floor, but i won't know if they are the one until i try, and neither will u. Keep trying.

Husbands... do you think your wife is truly ugly when...?

hey there,
You gotta understand the male psyche.... the fact that we can compartmentalize emotions really gives a guy an unfair advantage over the woman. A guy can be pissed off as hell, yell and scream his guts out, abuse, rant, rave, throw insults like he was talkin to the neighbours dog... and still not have an inkling of how hurtful, mean and disgusting he had just been!!

Whatever the situation.. a guy does not have the right to call his woman ugly or repulsive... which btw is one of the most hurtful thing that can be said to a woman.

Honestly, you need to have your own identity.. if someone had to call you an idiot, doesnt mean u'd believe them, right?? In the same way, just cause ur married, doesnt mean wat he says or does, shud be the beginning and the end of your life!

You know you're not ugly, repulsive or all the other mean things he said to you...so stop believing it just cause he spat those insults forcefully in your face. You have to recognize his behavior as completely unacceptable and not even allow yourself to dwell on such thoughts!!!

Bottomline.. your question.. "is this even love at all?" leads me to believe that there is some love displayed by him... a side to him which is completely contradicted by his anger!!
I'm thus assuming that his irrational behavior is the outcome of a fight or argument... and not his regular way of talkin to you.

I'd say if you want this marriage to work out, then u need to catch him when he's in a sane frame of mind... explain how u feel when he treats u that badly... and finally emphasize that there's only so much you can take!! Even if its not bad enuff for you to walk out of the relationship...eventually all this verbal abuse is going to destroy the love that you have in your heart for him.. and the only loser that day will be himself!!!

If he doesnt get his act together, you need to learn to stop accepting his ravings and rantings as the defining factor in your life.. you are who you allow yourself to become.. so go be that strong beautiful woman u know u are!!!

take care