I don't feel safe around my mom?
I'm scared around my mom. I'm scared of the sake of sanity, I don't think I can stand it anymore. I'm 14 years young, a freshmen at a high school. I'm stuck without an idea of what or where to head. My mom has been facing some issues that have effected me and my sisters. First of all, i've caught her countless times smoking marijuana. She knows I know because i've mentioned it once. She told me: 'It makes me feel better when i'm stressed.' I kept it at that pretty much, I was to scared to say anymore. Another thing is the abuse. She punches me whenever i'm on her bad side. Normally on the shoulder/arms/legs. I've gone to school crying before. She says sorry most of the time, but i'm sick and tired of it. It's normally something dumb to be mad about, like maybe complaining how messy the house is. That's another problem, I'm OCD. I can't stand the house being messy, and trust me that I try and clean. It only stays cleans for maybe a hour or two. My sisters are always getting into SOMETHING. I try telling her my problem, but she just tells me to stop 'bitching'. She's always drinking, smoking, etc. But the thing that bothers me to MOST is that she sleeps around with other men. I've seen countless texts, emails, etc. I'm not nosey, I normally just accidently come across it. I'm almost postive my dad knows about it. She makes it too obvious. These problems have been going on for about a year or two. She hasn't always been like this. Except for the sex. I've known about that for YEARS. Maybe since I was six. I remember that one time a strange guy came over, I heard noises in the living room and I saw a strange man on my mom. I stayed quiet and went back into my room, I don't think I understood but I wasn't happy with it. I remember taking the picture of my dad and hugging it, crying. I'm done with the problems. I've thought about maybe moving with my grandparents who live in Florida, but something in the back of my mind tells me to stay with my sisters. I want to leave, but I feel stuck. I'm too scared to call the police or tell anyone else. I'm depressed and I have no idea where to turn. Any ideas or suggestions for me?
Is it safe for my baby to be around a dog and a cat for the first time?
You can't trust a dog that you can't control, that's like saying will I be able to stop this car with no brakes? This dog needs more exercise then maybe he would calm down and if his owner can't provide that exercise for a lab then he shouldn't have him. As for your baby, labs are supposed to be good with kids BUT!!! Dogs aren't mind readers they're not born knowing they're expected to be good around kids and if they've never been round them and they don't get enough exercise how is he supposed to know what he can and can't do. So be extremley careful and seek some expert advice because you don't want any harm coming to your baby and I'm sure your partner doesn't either so talk to him about it. Now as for your cats I don't think they'd be safe, if he's never been around them. He may be aggressive or he may be just over the top playful and accidently hurt them or they hurt him through fear, if you have no control over him and he hasn't had enough socialisation because he hasn't been walked enough and interacted enough with other dogs then he might not know how to play properly and might be very over the top. I'd say he'd be happier with someone who can provide for him properly, because I don't think its a good or safe match, a newborn baby an out of control dog and 2 cats. But if you go ahead anyway make sure introductions are careful and suppervised and a lot of work would need to be put in to make this work. Guess you really need this: good luck :-)
Friend felt sick - am I safe?
So my friend came over and I was helping her with her math and she said she had a cold and was sniffling/coughing a bit, but otherwise she seemed okay. We were eating and drinking coffee and stuff...then after like 3 hours all of the sudden she said she felt really sick (like nauseous, and thought she was going to puke) and needed to leave. Now I am terrified I'm going to get sick. I don't know what she had, or if her nausea was a result of her cold (some people feel nauseous especially with the mucus in their throats) or if she actually had some sort of transmissible stomach bug. She didn't throw up in my house at least...she did pee a couple times but she didn't feel sick then. She kept saying I probably wanted to wash my hands a lot and disinfect everything she'd touched. I only had windex so I wiped down everything but I don't know if that's effective for something like norovirus (if that's what she had). I've read a lot about norovirus, and it seems like you can't catch it by just being near someone who has it, and that they're not contagious until they actually start showing symptoms. So I don't know if that means I've been "exposed" or not. Also, her family is kind of one of those that tends to vomit/feel sick a lot, like even if they're not suffering from some major gastrointestinal virus. Her sister puked a few weeks ago and I was at their house and I don't think anyone else got sick. So I don't know if it's even contagious. I washed my hands a lot and took a bunch of vitamin C and I'm trying to get my work done so I can get a ton of sleep tonight but I'm still terrified...do I have anything to worry about? I'm freaked out because I really can't afford to miss school, I'm in college and they have us on such tight schedules even missing one day is like disastrous. Also I'm like a MAJOR emetophobe so there's that component too. Anyone have any advice haha? Thanks :)
I don't feel safe around my uncle?
Please help me. Well on my other question I had, it explained that my uncle would always touch me when I was 9. I'm now 13 years old. I never told anyone but I did tell my grandma this morning. I thought I'd feel better if I told someone about what happened between me and him but I don't feel safe. He lives with me and the rest of my family. I don't feel safe when I'm around him because I'm scared he's gonna hurt/rape/touch me. I'm scared of him. I don't live with my mom and dad because they're divorce so I'm separated by him. I'd live with my dad in another state, but I can't leave my grandma because nobody else takes care of her and she's sick so I'm the only one who takes care of her. All of this crap is leading me to start being stressed out, and when I'm stressed out I start becoming depress. I try explaining this to my friends but they don't understand what I'm going through. And the only solution I have left is Yahoo answers. Please help me, any advice? If this question doesn't make sense then you can view/read my other question that is similar to this. So the main question is that WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE HELP. Thank you.
In friendship there are no diamonds. It is always one diamond at a time. Every potential (good) friend is a precious stone. Never group them. Look at each one individually.Let us review the basic factsEvery person is for his ownPeople behave differently in groupsA good friend is like a Roller Coaster ride. There are ups, there are downs and there are steep moves and there are gradual slopes to ease you down. He agrees with you while he also disagrees, He cherishes your achievements while he is not afraid to criticize you He celebrates your appreciation while valuing your criticism andHe loves you while he never misses a moment to fight with youAbove all he cares about himself through you because he sees a good reflection of him in you. So if you are with a good friend your relationship curve is not supposed to be a smooth one.Wrong friends usually come in two ways. The I Keep You Above TypeConstant praisers, they make you feel happy and ALWAYS. You feel delighted to hang out with them. The only problem is eventually you will get addicted to their praise and you will kill your self-critic within. Eventually you will increase distance from your true friends while increasing your head weight and end up being crazy.The I am Above TypeSecond type is overwhelmingly self centered. They don't really care about you and how you feel around. They just keep you for their pleasure. What they want is someone to praise them, a puppet. If you are a sane person ideally you would feel a consistent let down feeling with them. And if you stay constant enough you may not even feel worthy of living.Too much of anything is not good for your mental health. The key is the consistency. I am not saying you can't feel a prolonged term of positiveness with a good friend. I am just saying he/she won't think twice before pointing your bad. And remember what a friend thinks of us is not in our hands. But what we give him/her to think of us is definitely ours. I hope you are among good friends.
I understand where you're coming from. We introverts have our own set of problems. I have depression and social anxiety too, and thus has been going on as long as i can remember. For me, I feel more depressed and vulnerable when I'm around people that will judge me. In highschool, my classmates were extremely cliquey. I was always on edge when I was around them or interacted with them. It made me depressed to be around them as well. To this day, certain people who act stuck up and snotty trigger this in me. I even feel judged by my own family sometimes. In college, I found two or three special people who didn't judge me for my dorky, weird self. And I never thought it would happen to me.Like me, you probably grew up feeling judged by family, classmates, whatever. And trust me, it takes forever to get over it. I would recommend seeing a counselor for some tips and tricks to overcome social anxiety and depression (I have been seeing one for a year and a half). It doesn't happen overnight, but once you feel comfortable being yourself you'll attract people like you. Coming from me, who used to change my interests and personality depending on who I was around. ;) it sucks, I know. Best of luck with this!