How do I help my 10 yo socially awkward kid?
Our 10 year old son does not make friends at all and he says that everyone hates him. We know that he is socially awkward with kids and he seems to be a loner and fine with it (what he says but doesn't act like he is okay with it). We have tried to help him to learn how to "get along" with other kids but it does not seem to be working. The "straw that broke the camels back" was when he came home from school and started crying about how the kids hate him. I know that he tries but because of his awkwardness, it comes through as not geniune. He says the kids call him "wierd" and I'm just at a loss on how to help him. Have you ever experienced anything like this with your child or do you have any suggestions that could help? I've even gone as far as talking with the teacher for suggestions and an unbiased opinion on how he interacts with the other kids but there was not anything she could really suggest. Help!
How can I help my socially awkward sister?
you sound like an amazing sister tbh, I'm glad that you're looking out for her. Well assuming she's in the 8th grade and she'a entering high school in August or September, You've plenty of time to help her, and a person can change a lot in such a short amount of time, starting off; coverse with her more often, get her to truly open up to you so you can discover her position and how she feels by the looks of it it seems you're probably already comfortable with her, if you're worried about her being picked on the best thing to do is work on her appearance ( I know it's shallow and superficial but with today's norms it's important to work on your outer self ) make sure there isn't anything weird and awkward about her clothes, because that's probably the first thing others will notice about her, and for friends, it's something that will gradually happen. I used to be the socially awkward one, too. I was a loner ill admit, barely had any friends. I was sort of bullied, not directly but I knew I was made fun of. it's cruel. overtime I got used to being lonely, and then it was just one year in 7th grade where I opened up and I forced myself to interact with others: and what do you know? I made plenty of good friends :) just a couple but enough for me to be satisfied. being in the 9th now I have friends and I don't feel lonely. I KNOW your sister will get out if the awkward stage. Atleast she talks to others (being too enthusiastic or not interested Is a start) everyone tells me to join clubs, have fun! blah blah; gosh never will I join any clubs I hate socializing like that. that inner awkward is still with me LOL and being shy ; I am always shy first meeting someone, when I get comfortable with them I open up I feel the same way about your sister, she will learn! maybe she hasn't had the chance to get comfortable with other people Invite your friends over and tell her to join into the conversations so she will grasp what teens talk about, maybe your friends have sisters that are the same age as yours- try to get her to talk to them outside of school, it's SOOO much easier tbh. Your job in this is to convince her with all the effort you can :) hope I helped x good luck!!
I am shy, quiet, and socially awkward. Help :\?
Don't worry, everyone goes through this. Build your self confidence. As they say "fake it til you make it" just fake your confidence, and it will come naturally. smile, say what's on your mind, be genuine. Just be yourself. Nobody's judging you as much as you are. think about it- how much time are they spending thinking about you? they're thinking about themselves, and so are you. Also remember- you can't change what people say or think what others say isn't true- only what you believe to be true is true personality is everything- looks are nice but what people will remember most is how you treated people, how you carried yourself. If you're having trouble talking with people- ask them questions about everyone's favorite subject- themselves! ask them what they do, what are their hobbies, what do they want to do when they go to college, where are they from, etc. They will walk away from the conversation thinking you're the coolest person in the world and not know a thing about you.
I'm Socially Awkward?
Hey im 20 and im a guy. I have the exact same situation. Except im starting to get over it but i dont know if i ever will get over it completely. People always tell me I'm beautiful and i used to always disagreed i didn't think i was ugly but not beautiful. I noticed you wrote "Not to be cocky"... you need to embrace the fact that you are beautiful, you don't need to go around scream to people "I'M A FINE ***** AND I KNOW IT!" but look at your self in the mirror and tell your self "Dam I am fine as helllll" or if you want to say "IM A FINE ***** AND I KNOW IT" say that because this universe were living in is a canvas and you can paint this ************ exactly how you wish. What my best friend taught me is that no body is going to get you out of your rut but YOU. I have tried so many things to get over my anxiety its a joke, but i never, and will never give up. will smith talks about in an interview every life need purpose, what is your purpose(its on youtube it called "will smiths surprising love scene advice). 1) The lord (if you dont believe in him you have to start believing in something) 2) you need to go to parties to dinner with friends as much as possible, the ONLY way to get over a fear is to do exactly what were scared to do 3) just a week ago thought came into my head "i should act" so i tried it in the mirror and it brought my thoughts and feelings into reality and its easier for me to say what i want or how i feel 4) Tony robbins (a personal development coach) 5) if there is something in your past that you need to talk about, something painful you need to bring out and talk to somebody about it, I did this only 5 days ago and i noticed it was easier for me to relax around others, but you need to say it and embrace it exactly the way you feel (im a guy and to be honest i was balling) you know that quote "THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE". well i hope this was some kind of help. If you would like just talk you can email me at oscar760lopez@yahoo.com
Why am i so socially awkward?
Don't kill yourself for one. People become socially awkward for many reasons. How was your childhood? U know both mom and dad, you have siblings or cousins? Did you spend much time alone in your room instead out with family. I wouldn't say your socially awkward. You probably just have a hard time expressing your feelings towards others, not because your awkward, but because they are. To you, people, esp. Popular girls, are like gods, and you think your a nobody. Outgoingness is a trait that isnt learned over night, you have to practice talking to new people, no matter how bad it is. If your in high school, this should be fairly easy. Go where everyone hangs out, and just sit in the middle. They may think your weird but oh well, u probably won't remember 80% of their names or how they affected you. I always found myself to be "different", and I get the feeling you do to. Being odd is not bad, and if you can stick to YOUR beliefs and not to conform to high school bs, then you'll be A-okay! Try finding someone who is more mature than your peers, like a teacher, and give it a whirl. I am friends with my high school advocate to this day. We text each other to catch up on old times, and I always thought of her as a second mother. Who knows...maybe the next person you interact with could interest u in something you love. Never be afraid of trying new things.
Why am i like this? why am i socially awkward?
Sweetie, you sound like you're going through the same thing I'm starting to get over now. You're self-concience! Stop thinking about what others think of you. The only thing stopping you with being friends with those girls is you thinking you can't! Ask your mom if you can go shopping for new clothes. Pick out the ones you like, and dress for yourself, not others. Change up your bedroom. Get a new bedspread, give away some things, paint something and hang it up, just try giving it a little different look. Every morning when you wake up, go to the mirror and say, "I am beautiful, smart, and a wonderful person to be around. No one can ever dull my sparkle!" Saying this in front of the mirror every day will make you feel more confident! Now, you might be saying, But I'm shy, how do I get over that? Well try going up to someone and simply saying "Hi, I'm (your name)". It works wonders, trust me! Just be yourself and don't care about what others think about you. It'll take so much stress off! You'll be a lot happier, and a lot funner to be around! People will be attracted to you. And most importantly, SMILE. It feels weird at first, but just smile all the time. Its a feel good thing that shows people you're warm and welcoming. If you see a big group of girls you know, ask to join! You'll be making friends in no time! If you need anything else, text me: 1 443 559 4828. Hope i helped!
Why am I so shy and socially awkward?
Idk how old you are. If you are young you might just have not gotten out of your shell. If you are 20+ years old you might have social anxiety which is treatable with therapy. I know what it's like because I'm like that too.
I'm really shy and socially awkward?
I don't have any friends, never really did. I've been socially awkward and shy basically my whole life. Whenever I thought I had friends, they just ditched and ignored me later on, and I wondered what I did wrong. I guess it was because I can't talk normally when talking to people, so my "friends" lost interest. Nobody talks to me now, even at my new school, which I started on Tuesday. People here are nicer too than my last school, and not 1 person is trying to talk to me. Doesn't help that I'm insecure too, and I do know I'm quite ugly... So I'm sure people, especially boys, think I am ugly and avoid talking to me or avoid being seen with me. It doesn't matter where I am really, nobody tries talking to me even outside of school. I just need to know how to cope and deal with this... I think about it basically everyday and it depresses me. I can't help but be super shy and boring or socially awkward, so it's hard.