Am i depressed or just growing up?
I totally understand what you mean. I went through that phase too. And you are just growing up faster than your friends. And honestly I think it's way more fun that way! Make sly jokes and you will laughing all the time. It's just a matter of time that you will see that they will catch up. Also, if they start bothering you, just make new friends because you know that in the end, you will probably not see any one of their faces ever again. You aren't depressed so live your life. And if you want to keep being friends with them, it's like having recess I guess. Just set it aside and have fun!
What was your life like growing up?
My childhood was so normal, it was almost stereotypical.My parents have been married for almost 30 years, and I almost never heard them fighting. We lived in a middle class suburban neighborhood. My brother and I attended private school. We have always lived comfortably, and even when my parents struggled during the recession, they made it work for us.I had a typical love, hate relationship with my siblings. I always had a close-knit group of friends in school. My parents were strict, but not so strict that I wasn’t allowed to do anything.I got into some trouble as a teenager, I rebelled, I talked back, and I did things I shouldn’t have done, as all teenagers do. I put my parents through emotional hell, but they loved me, so they carried the burden with me. Our relationship significantly improved after I turned 21.I’m very lucky to have lived a “normal” and comfortable life. I’m thankful for that every single day; not everybody is blessed with a life of stability.
Were you spanked on the bare behind growing up?
Yes, I was spanked as a child and deserved everyone I got. My brothers and I were wild children that got into a lot, and played ruff, and had poor listening skills. As a result my mother would explain what we did wrong and follow up with a harsher punishment, such as spanking if what we did was bad enough to deserve such a punishment. It was the form of punishment that worked for my brothers and I and it worked well. None of us grew up irresponsible, never did drugs, alcohol, or abuse our spouse/kids. I think I would have been bothered if my mother hadn't spanked or tried to teach me right and wrong. The end result would have been me being a totally different person than I would ever want to be, and to change ways set in from childhood as an adult is much harder I'm sure than to have learned it growing up. I am thankful my mother took such measures to make sure we turned out to become good people.
I feel like my little brother is growing up too fast, i just wish time would slow down...?
no one can blame you for wishing that. of course you would, and i'm sure he knows how you feel. the real question is if you should stop him. & if you're as loving as you seem, i'm sure you'd say no. just be thankful that he's had a great relationship with you, and is growing up to be a wonderful person who wants to make the most of his life. he could be trying to grow up in all the wrong ways, like doing drugs, over drinking, doing lots of illegal stuff, etc. instead, it sounds like he was raised well & is using that to his advantage. i'm sure he will make a great relationship with your child, b/c you've made the effort to make one with him. he'll be too young to remember the times his uncle has missed anyways, and its better now then later on, when your child gets older and needs an older brother figure. i'm sure you wish time would slow down, but i'm pretty sure you wish your brother happiness as well:)
What are three things you're thankful for everyday? (please be specific)?
1) Being alive to appreciate the moment 2) My girlfriend (I hate that word... it sounds so childish/uncommitted). We have a soul connection. 3) I'm also thankful that I grew up in a first world country. Even though the government is terrible in a lot of ways, they sort us out with food, electricity, drinking water, and education (I hate the way the education system works but I appreciate the need for it).
Did you grow up without a father?
I grew up without a father. He decided to leave as soon as he found out I was on the way. I'm 26 now and can honestly say I have never missed him in my life. Who would want someone that weak to be around influencing them when growing up? I did have my grandfather who was wonderful and a couple uncles who were there but not great. Mainly I had my granddad/grandmom and mom. I am/was very close to all of them. My granddad passed end of 2007. I have always been super close to my mother and I think thats in part to my father never being there. She is a very strong women even if she doesn't think so every day. She raised me to be just as strong. I have no issues with my father choosing to not be part of my life. It was his loss and I refuse to let his decision make me think less of myself or expect less out of my life. I guess its been a positive in my life in that it really made me appreciate my mom and learn that I can get through life without depending on a man to complete it. I do think having a male figure is important though. Coaches, family friends, etc can all fill that role.