Do women REALLY like “sensitive” men?
Seems like a hypocritical phenomenon. Women SAY they want a man who knows how to feel, and knows how to express it, but when they do find him, he’s soon labeled a wimp for these very qualities and resented for “not being MAN enough”. There’s this push/pull between heartfelt sensitivity and the dog-faced, robotic toughness required of a man who’s supposed to be in charge of things. As a sensitive man (youngest and only boy with 4 older sisters) in American society I’m concerned about how I’ve been coming over to most single women. I don’t want to repress who I am, but I want to attract them too. Sometimes I think MOST men repress the urge to say “awww” when they see a puppy or whatever just because it doesn’t “seem like the manly think to do”. Same goes for things like the color purple, dancing, romantic comedies, and beautiful scenery. But inside, they are still a child on some level and want to express affinity for these things. Then again, that could just be me. I feel like there’s a part of me that could really connect to a lot of women but I don’t want to mess with the “gender polarity” required to get a woman’s attention. I’ve always seen MY sensitivity as a positive, as a form of caring that women tend to be better at then men. Why should I be punished for expressing a feminine virtue? I don’t find women who can change their tire to be a turn off!! On the other hand, “tomboys” ARE less attractive to me for some reason. Is this then analogous to a sensitive man for most women?
I am too sensitive, it drives me crazy. People assume I am confident and strong, but really I feel like I have no skin. How can I deal with this?
Put on a mask (fake persona) when you go “out there”. Never try to be your own honest self with other people. Play out the hundreds of different roles which you require to function out there.Only become your own true self when you are alone. Do you know what? Everybody does this! The majority of people cannot even recognize or distinguish the roles that they play every day from their own true selves. They think the ARE the roles that they play.You are actually one of the very few lucky (sensitive) ones that are beginning to understand and know yourself.
How do I stop being so sensitive? How do I become emotionally tough like men?
“Emotional tough like men”Ma’am, I have had my ass handed to me by multiple girls, when I was learning to fight. These girls didn’t come of as someone you wanted to mess with ether. They were physically and mentally tougher then most men I met.One girl I’ll never forget was nicknamed the head hunter cause of her kick.The first step to stop being so sensitive is to understand words don’t really hurt. It’s your own emotions that give them that power.Another suggestion that might help is understanding the people hitting you with insults are humans to and are just as imperfect. Don’t take their words so heavy.Third. And this is important. Understand no one Quora can make you emotionally strong. You have to do that, and it will ether make or break who you are. People here can give you millions of suggestions, but if you don’t have the willpower then it’s all pointless.P.S men are no tougher. Some of the strongest people I know are girls, and some of the weakest are boys. It’s how you build yourself, not your sex.
Why am I so sensitive?
I've asked myself the same question my whole life. It seems I'm so sensitive, soooo far beyond others.The only thing I can come up with is that it is what it is, and if I can just learn to accept it rather than constantly try to change it, my life will actually be pleasant.And by "pleasant" I don't mean without pain, but rather that it will be a bearable life for me. Because right now as I resist the sensitivity and try to change it, it makes it even worse.It's funny, when I look at my life objectively, it seems like it's really not that bad. I have lots and lots of gifts I've been given, and I live a pretty privileged life.But this crazy sensitivity just seems so overwhelming to me that it obliterates all those good gifts and I can't appreciate them as much as I want to.I tried drugs for it but it only dulls me to the world, so I realized that's not the life I can live.The flipside to being sensitive is that I can relate to other people in ways that seemingly most cannot. And that's really nice, to be able to be sympathetic or empathetic with people and lend them a listening ear when they need it.But man does it come with a price.When this life is over, and I go to the other side, it's going to be really interesting to see what happens. Because I have a feeling that I chose all of this in order to learn lessons.The reason I say that is because part of my journey being sensitive is that I pick up on spiritual "messages" during the night time in my dreams.Sometimes Biblical things.Anyway it seems the point of life is to learn lessons in how to be more loving and that I chose this journey myself - it wasn't forced upon me.It's very painful to be here, and I'm looking forward to death to be honest. And both scared and excited about it. Living here on earth is a really painful time for me but it's also a time of learning.God bless you on your journey.
Do you think babies are weather sensitive?
Yes, Yes, YES! Our children get very fussy when the weather is doing something odd. My husband (who knows a bit about the weather) believes they are reacting to barometric pressure. Anytime it rains, it's very windy, it's even when there's a storm coming within the next day or so, they react to it. It's tough... there's nothing that I've found that will calm them through it. They are going to act how they are going to act. If they're fussy, any attempt that we make to calm them is only a temporary fix. It's extra difficult since my husband's accident. He had several broken bones and is now in extra pain when the barometric pressure is wonky so he can't really help out too much when the babies are fussy. I'm just thankful we don't live in an area where tornadoes are the norm!
I am so depressed--why must I be such a sensitive person? How do I change this? It's draining and overwhelming?
I have always been a sensitive person. I am very happy and smiley when I am happy..but it's like it only takes one person to "ruin" my day. I will still feel fine on the outside..but on the inside...they have deflated my bubble. Or one thing can sort of turn off my happy switch fairly quickly. I don't like it. I know people say just to control my emotions..but I am such a sensitive person and have been working on this a lifetime. It's just the way I am made and I don't know how to "overcome" it. I have been thru SO much bad stuff and gotten over it..I have no idea why smaller things (well they are smaller in comparison to my past) still have the ability to make me sad so quickly..or to make me feel blue about myself or life for that moment. I heard that wellbutrin helps.Like..my lows should not be this low. I should be able to bounce back quickly..and I have never been that type of person I guess. Even if someone speaks rudely to me...it sort of makes me sad for at least a few hours. I will still seem normal..but I think about it and I am blue. Please do not make fun of me or act like this question is ridiculous. If you are not like this and do not have advice..just skip to the next question please.
Are Gemini's normally sensitive?
I'm a Gemini, and my younger boyfriend is a Cancer, I guess we both are sensitive, but the thing about it is that we are both very good at hiding our sensitivity, I am tough on the outside, and soft on the inside, and he is too ! however, he is more touchy feely, and very attentive, I love when my boyfriends shower me with attention, so I love this about Cancers, however being a Gemini, I tend to be warm , then I turn cold, I want to talk to him all day on some days, and dont want to be bothered the next...but the crazy thing is Cancers are like this too, they are moody by nature, so that time away from the other works perfect, because it gives us a chance to really miss each other
Are sensitive guys a turn off for girls?
Listen man, I have so been in your shoes. For years and years I hated the way I was because I was so sensitive and emotional about anything and everything. But I've been dating a girl for a year and a half now who prefers me that way, and we're extremely happy. I know all the tough acting guys get all the hot girls, but you will come to find out that alot of those guys are either meat-heads or just jerks, and most of the girls are catty and fake and aren't worth your time anyway. My advice is find a nice simple girl who's a little shy and sensitive herself, you two will have alot in common and will really be able to bond. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being sensitive as a guy…we've all just been brainwashed into thinking that we have to be tough and strong all the time. I'm sure you can be strong when you need to be, and that's all that matters. However, it sounds to me like you have really bad depression, possibly because of how you see yourself as a loser and a worthless person. You really should talk to a counselor or a psychologist. I know that there's a huge stigma against that and you probably think it's only for crazy people, but believe me…I had terribly anxiety and depression, and since I started seeing a therapist I've gotten so much better. I always have so many thoughts and emotions running through me all the time that I just wanna lose my mind…but having someone to sit down and talk to about it helps you sort it out. Definitely check that out, it'll help alot, I promise
How do people who aren't tough get by in prison?
Define tough.If you are emotionally or mentally weak, prison will destroy you and no one will recognize you when you get out. It won't matter one bit how physically tough you are. The best way to survive prison when you are not physically tough is to use your brains to protect yourself.Let me tell you about a guy named Ernie Preate.Ernie was the Attorney General of Pennsylvania until he got indicted and convicted for basically being a very corrupt guy. He actually had the temerity to ask to be placed in federal prison in Florida so he wouldn't suffer from the weather.He ended up in Minnesota.Imagine you were a career prosecutor who threw most of the people like your fellow inmates into prison on a regular basis. Ernie was not merely friendless but also very alone. No inmates would talk to him and most of the correction officers thought he was a corrupt scumbag politician.One day, an inmate was showing the guys in his unit the petition he had drafted to get his sentence corrected. The feds had miscalculated his time and he was sure that he was going to get a couple of months shaved off (the inmate only had a 3–4 months or so to go).Ernie couldn't take it any more and the attorney in him took the paperwork out of his fellow inmate's hands and after a while told the prisoner that he should already been released and asked the inmate if he would like for Ernie to rewrite his petition.Soon everyone was coming to Ernie for legal help and he helped everyone. He had lots of friends (I am using this term very loosely) and was no longer alone.There are plenty of people in prison who aren't tough. The only reputation you should have is that you aren't there to join anyone or make enemies.Working in the prison library and helping other inmates with their legal stuff is one way to survive very well.If you decide that the jailhouse lawyer route is for you, do everything for free without favor or payment.
Why am I so sensitive and immasculine (I'm a guy)? ?
So I've been emotional basically all of my life, I'm 16 now Ex. When I was growing up, I grew up on a tough street in Baltimore. I remember getting in fights since like 1st grade till now. i've probably been in about 50+ street fights. However, there's a side to me that makes people wonder if my toughness is all an act. Like when I was about 9 or 10. There was a grocery store up the street that me and my friends would always hang out at. We were always shoplifting, but I loved that store so much, I couldn't bring myself to steal from it. So one day we're talking to the owner, and he says the store is about to shut down. My friends were upset, but I was furious. I walked home by myself in a rage, and beat the crap outta someone in rage. That took all the anger out. So I went to my room, and started reminiscing about everything that happened there. I ended up crying my eyesout. In 2003, my dad got some extra money, amen decided it was time for a new car. When we sold our old one, I started crying. Again when we moved from a Baltimore apartment to some stupid suburban area (Ellicott city) I got sad as I lived in that area for 13 years. A few months ago, I went back down to the city to visit my best friend. We were hanging out in a group, and one of them insulted me playfully. I got mad and my best friend was like chill Amit(me) he was kidding. Then I lost all control, and fought all 3 of them at once, I injured all of them bad, but I was pretty messed up too. I made up and were all cool again, but still Also there is that I like girls really intensely. Like there's a girl in my class, who I do literally anything for. We talk a lot, but when we don't, I get depressed and won't talk to anyone. She has Big pretty blue eyes, and a nice warning smile. Why am I so obsessed with her? Why do I fight so much? Why do I cry so much (for a guy. I don't cry over everything. Only important stuff) Why do I get emotionally attached to everything?