How do I stop being treated like a kid as a teenager?
Well, that depends on several things:Your age: How old are you? If you are 13, you can’t expect to be treated like a 17 or 18 year old. 13 year olds haven’t yet developed the judgement to make adult decisions. If you are an older teen, it is a fair question to ask.How much responsibility you take now. If Mom and Dad have to remind you to do things you should be doing on your own, such as cleaning up after yourself, or getting to school on time, or taking your schoolwork seriously, then you pretty much are demonstrating you aren’t ready TO be treated as anything other then a child.Your history of making decisions. Are you picking friends that are generally good people or do you hang out with people who are trouble? If you are an older teen, how do you handle dating relationships-do you pick people to date who are good people, or are you going out with questionable people your parents have every reason to distrust? Do you have a history of making bad decisions regarding teenage drug use, sex, or alcohol usage? If you have a history of making bad decisions, then your parents probably feel they cannot trust you to make good decisions on your own.So, if you want to be treated as an adult, you have to show that you are worthy of it. If you can’t do things you are expected to do, make bad decisions, and hang out with questionable people, then you need to change all that, and show them you ARE capable of good decision making and taking responsibility for things.
I am 19 and I am still treated like a child?
I am 19 and I am a full time college student. I live with my parents, they pay for my school, my insurance, and all of my expenses. They own their own business and I work an live with them.They told me a couple of years ago that they would NOT pay me for my work but they would get me anything I needed, and if I wanted to get paid then they were going to charge me for rent and I would be on my own to take care of my own expenses. So I decided that I would rather NOT get paid and get anything I needed. The problem here is that they are trying to controll everything I do. While I was on my summer vacation I started playing online games on my free time. Sometimes I would play up to 5 hours a day. My dad got upset and he blocked the Internet. Then he decided to put it back up but I was not allowed to use the computer. I was upset but I tried not to make a big deal about it. After the computer incident I broke up with my boyfriend and that just added to my depression. After my break up I decided I was going to work on myself and focus on myself. So I started making my workout plans. I spend a whole day working on my workout schedule and getting my stuff ready. And the next day my mom decides to take my iPad away and ground me from it. She said i was using my iPad too much and that i was hurting my eyes from looking at the screen all day. She doesnt know about the break up since i am not that close to her but i did explain to her that i was working on my workout plans but she refused to give it back. She tells me that one day I will realize that all she is trying to do is help me and that I should thank her for It. I am confused and I feel trapped. I haven't started school yet but I do go to work. I feel like I am being treated like a child. I am 19 and I am being grounded! What should I do? Please help me I need advice!!! Sorry my story is all scattered, I hope it makes sense.
I'm 18 and still getting treated like a child?
Somebody please help me, I'm an 18 year old girl and my mum keeps treating me like a child for instance if I ask mum if I can cook dinner or do anything adult like while she's not at home she's says "no, leave to your little 10 year old sister to do it all" and I thought being an adult meant responsibilities and doing whatever you wanted and being free from your mother but no she sends me to "independent living" cause she thinks I'm disabled or something but I'm perfectly fine thank you very much and she calls me "aspergers" which I'm not either! Just when I thought I was the adult of the house when mum's not at home, mum tells my two little sisters to boss ME around instead of ME bossing THEM around I HATE MY FAMILY I CAN'T WAIT TILL I MOVE OUT (I'm not moving out until after Christmas) What do I do? Please somebody help me please!!!!!!!!!
Are you treated like a child because you act like a child, or do you act like a child because you are treated like a child?
Both.You are treated as child if you are a chronological child, no matter how smart you may be. Your diapers must be changed by adults until you are potty trained. Your nose must be wiped until you do so yourself. You aren’t driving a car if you cannot reach the pedals. You can’t guard a 6-footer in basketball if you are three-foot-two.You must be schooled in life until you no longer require it. You are, in fact, dependent until you are no longer childish enough to be so.But childhood can end very early for some young people.I once was friendly with a nine-year-old boy who was working with the Department of Defense on silent jet engines and other projects, had set up his family in a profitable business of his invention, was a masterful cellist and a strong athlete.One day when I asked him if his youth made life difficult for him in his work, he was deeply annoyed.He told me:“I am not a child. I am among the manliest of men.”(He died at age 14 of leukemia.)The best way, in my opinion, to treat children is simply to tell them the truth in almost all matters at all times, and to give them the personal respect that any adult deserves. I feel sure that the entire concept of “let the child be a child” is demeaning and defeating to the child, as is instilling fear in children under the pretext of teaching them.I also believe that it is a terrible thing to teach children that they need “safe” places to escape from the realities of the world. It keeps them children well into what ought to be adulthood and makes them puny and dependent on “safe” places that do not truly exist.
I am 18 YEARS OLD and STILL treated like a child?!?
The biggest mistake of my life was staying home from college. My mom and dad force me to come home at 1 on the weekends...when my older sister went away to college and does whatever she pleases. I don't get along with my other sister who's a year younger than me..and my parents force me to take her everywhere I go and when I refuse because she's ridiculously mean to my friends, they GROUND ME. WHAT CAN I DO?!? I CAN'T GO OUT THIS WEEKEND BECAUSE OF IT!!! I don't even make enough money to move out!!
How do I deal with strangers when they treat me like a kid when I'm physically an adult?
Depends on how old the stranger is, for one. Many seniors consider anyone more than 20 years younger than they are, a child, and often still treat them as such. Kind of like how you will always be a child in your parents’ eyes.It also depends on how YOU are acting. Maturity and age are mutually exclusive. I know many 8 year olds more mature than some 40 year olds. If you act like a kid, expect to be treated like a kid.Some people also have gone through a lot of experiences in their lives, good and bad, more than almost everyone their age has. It gives them a perspective on life that even people their age cannot begin to comprehend… so they can sometimes seem condescending without meaning to be. Just comes with the territory of having more life experience… we’re trying to make sure you don’t make the same dumb mistakes we made.As for how to deal with it… try dealing with it like the adult you claim to be. If someone’s giving you advice, albeit in a somewhat condescending way, just nod your head and accept it with a grain of salt; it’ll be up to you if you want to follow the advice, but it usually is coming from a place of knowledge and experience, so try to understand. If it’s someone you’ll never see again? You just let it slide and don’t worry about it. No need to get your panties in a bunch. If it’s someone you just met, and are going to be having to work with, or whatnot… Then you should endeavor to prove you are not a child by the way you carry yourself, your mannerisms and your actions. Again, if you do not want to be treated like a child, do not act like one.If you want an example of how an adult does NOT behave, just look at the current US President. He acts like a spoiled child, and so he is characterized like a child.
I am 16 and my parents treat me like a baby?
Yeah, I know.... pits being a kid. And personally, you likely are too sensitive, and your parents really haven't taken much of a look at you to realize that you are indeed 16, not 12. As well, 16 year old kids have adult feelings, but don't have language to tell their parent what it is they want... and parents as well, haven't yet realized that you are growing up. In your place??? Do you have a counselor at school who you trust? Go see her. You may even have to stay after school to get an appointment, but if this is important you to... hey, go for it. Talk with her about what is going on in your house. And maybe you can get her to set up a conference with you and your parents, and she as the referee. You'll need to tell her first just exactly what you wish to discuss, so, hon, you gotta have a plan....a list. What is it that you want?? Make a list even before you go see the counselor. It might look something like this: 1. I would like to be able to order my own food at a restaurant after consulting with my parents if what I have ordered is on the budget. (Dont expect to be able to order the $49.00 dinner!!!!) 2. I would like to pick out my own clothes. I'm fully aware that revealing and strapless stuff is out and it will just be returned. I understand that my clothes must be appropriate for school. 3. I'd like to be able to earn money so that I can go to the movies with girl friends, and buy things I might like. And on your part, you need to have an idea of what it is that YOU need to do to have these privileges.... it's a two way street, sweetie... what are you willing to give in the way of responsible efforts around your house to get freedom and money to do some of the things you'd like to do???? And be aware, that your parent have ultimate veto over any of your choices or friends they don't like... that's just the way it is until you leave and are on your own. EDIT: Shrieking and screaming and loudness will get you nowhere. Don't do that. All that may happen is you get grounded in your room forever. Helpful?
Why are people age 18-25 still treated like children?
For me at least, I was still treated like a kid from 18 to 22. Still now at 23 and everyone still treats me like a kid. It's annoying. For example - If someone asks me to do something or needs help with someone and i say yes, they then go and ask my parents if it okay and if my parents say no then they like oh its not ok cuz your parents said no. - If someone didnt like what I said, how I dressed, whatever, they go straight to my parents and are like "(insert here)." - If I have a conversation with someone, they go ask my parents the same conversation n be like she said this and she said that. If they dont like what I said than they go and say something else. Then I end up ASSUMING now the person thinks I lied or something when I didnt. Those are some examples but idk why we still treated like kids when we are expected to act like adults. What I dont get is, if I have a job and they dont like if i said something, how i said it, something i wore wasnt appropriate, etc, they would take it up with me n not blab to my parents. Or even call them for that matter. So idk whats so different. The same goes for college professors - they take up everything with the student and never call the parents ever.
Why do some people treat me like I'm a little kid? I'm 17 years old.
This may be because you look younger than you are. People often treat others according to how they look. Yes, I know that's discrimination, but until they meet you, that's all they have to go on. If you want to be treated like an adult, you should just act like one and people will realise and adapt how they treat you. Remember that looking younger than you are can be a benefit. Lots of people strive to look younger. Best in mind you will need to prove your age for the next few years (especially in the US).Be prepared for the occasional establishment to look at your ID and tell you it is fake and they will still not serve you. It happens. Unless you plan to go there regularly don't try and prove your age. Just drink non alcoholic drinks or go somewhere else.
I'm 17 and my parents treat me like a child. What should I do?
Ok, going to give you two perspectives. Mom and Dads and then me Mom was complete over bearing, controlling, powerful, determined and stubborn as a bull. Dad was a Drill Sergeant in the US Army. Nice combination huh? You want to talk about insane parents. They were not insane, in my mind they were, but years later I figured we (all three kids) drove them insane in some sense. I was 18 and I wanted to go out on my first date. Dad said absolutely not, Mom seconded the motion. I wanted to go clubbing, I was responsible, never got in trouble, I was a good teen, yet Mom and Dad always guarded me. I asked them one night, how am I going to show you both that I am responsible as you have taught me how to be if you don't give me the opportunity? I can't make you proud of your upbringing us if you don't allow me to show you I can? After much talk, with respect, I never raised my voice, Mom and Dad both agreed to let me out ONE night. I controlled myself, even if I wanted to not control myself, and I proved to them, they made the right decision in letting me go just a lil bit. I'm a Mom now. I have 6 kids. I am just as protective and probably over bearing, go figure because I love my kids just as much as Mom and Dad loved me. We want to hopefully help our kids out and sometimes we don't do it the best way but it would be far worse if they didn't show any interest in you or cared if you went out or not. Be respectful in requesting time alone. Don't shout or be rude, if you want them to have trust in you, show responsibility in acting like the adult you claim you are. Once you have proven you have adult qualities, it will get easier for them to let you go. Good luck and be NICE :))