How do I deal with a friend who is mad at me for a stupid reason and isn't willing to forgive?
Is this a valued good friend? Or one you can easily live without? That bases how you should respond here.Firstly, dig deep inside yourself to see this from their point of view. Empathize with your friend..explain to them and paraphrase the situation to them as if you were saying from their point of view to show you understand.Say “I know you feel xxx, and are xxx..however..then state your side kindly and diplomatically. Think through what you are going to say first and the potential impact. If they are unreasonable, then Set your boundaries. Tell your friend ‘I am sorry you feel this way and I am here for you ‘ then if needed, be willing to take a step back to allow them to think it through or perhaps ask them if you can agree to disagree . Ask them if your friendship is worth more to them than this incident and that you'd like to take steps together to be the great friends you've always been. That your friendship means alot and not worth risking over this.If they are truly your friend and value the friendship more than the incident, then they will come around. Remember though, to your friend this incident is not stupid, but a very valid reason to them. Give them that respect even if you don't agree or it may turn into an argument. The discussion should be solution focused. A friends opinion while it may be misguided, is never stupid. You are there to support each other. If they need more facts or correction of facts, provide what they need. If they are truly unreasonable, consider if this is where you want your energy, time and focus going forward or not. How close you are and how they make you feel majority of the time are critical factors to your decsion as well. Good luck !
I find Hannah Baker from "13 Reasons Why" irritating and a little dramatic. Is it just me?
The answer is NO. It's not only you.There are also some people i knew who find her irritating and a little dramatic, AND even though I like the books and the show, it's inevitable to also feel like yeah, you're right, irritating and a little dramatic.But hey, this is my own opinion.Hannah grew up being the only child of the family, no one she can call a sister or a brother. So she's like being all alone of herself, nothing to tell her problems or issues to. Of course she has her parents, I'm sure she told some of her problems, but I guess only just a part of it, I mean not all of it. So this is why she got this personality where she kind of need affection or attention from someone because nobody gives it to her, maybe her parents but they're different because of age. Hannah has this personality where she really care about what happened to her surroundings. Sure she doesn't give a f8ck to anyone, she doesn't hurt anyone. It's just that there are things that made her hurt. Like for example when her ass issues circulated the school. If you're a flirt-type of person, sure you won't care, would you? But if you're like Hannah, being so careful of her reputation and your ass is already all throughout the school, what would you feel? People are gossiping about you, all not true and some of it is altered and made-up. Doesn't it make you go insane? For me, I would go insane. People are saying things that aren't true and that's what make her depression go deeper. She feels like no one to lean on to, feels like no one believes her. If you put your shoes in her shoes? What would you feel? Is it this kind is a bullying one? People laugh at you, when you walk down the halls, people look at you like you have something down there. And Hannah can't care less, she feels like there's no friend to lean on. Who? But only herself, and that leads her to decide to end her life. She's not like you folks who just don't care what people may say. She really cares.
My friends say my boyfriend doesn't treat me right?
We have been together over 7 months, my boyfriend can have these moods, where he can say anything that he later regrets. One time he broke up with me during one of these moods, we later got back together after I saw how upset he was about it, I know that really does regret doing that. Every time he is in one of these moods I try and help, try and cheer him up, listen to what he has to say, it eventually works, but sometimes he starts arguments by bringing old things up, my best friend, who is also my boyfriends best friend told me how he felt, that my boyfriend isn't treating me right, I couldn't see it at first, but the more ways I look at it, the more I see...that he is right. Whenever we argue, I always try and stay calm, and sometimes, I accept blame, I don't know why, i guess I just want it to stop and we can get back to normal, we don't fight often, but those moods are quite frequent. I don't know what to do, I love him so much, and he loves me, but those moods, they get to me
How do you deal with a mother who creates drama constantly?
I'd just blow her off and not deal with her very often. My mom's the same way. If your mother wants to put her husband ahead of her kids than thats her problem. I understand she's your mother but after so much you've just gotta say enough is enough and don't worry about it. Hopefully she'll realise how stubborn she's being and she'll do what it takes to get you to visit her. I wouldn't completely cut her off but just call her less.