How do you handle your best friend getting closer to someone else?
No matter how bad you feel about it, don’t reveal it because, despite your best intentions, you will come across as jealous, possessive and a control freak. It might make matters worse.The thing about life is that friends come and go and we, as people, keep changing. Indeed, change is the only permanent thing in this world. Your best friend too is ever changing. And the worst part is that you can’t do anything about it. So, if your “best friend” chooses to replace you, then so be it. It’ll hurt you a lot. But sooner or later you will have to pick up the broken pieces of your heart and move on. That’s just how life is.Also, if you truly love your best friend, then you will have the courage to look past your own hurt feelings and be glad that they’ve found someone they’re happy with. You will have the courage to prioritize their happiness over yours. And, I think that’s what matters in the end.
Why do girls keep guys around as really close friends that are in love with them, when they are not romantically interested?
I know I'd draw a lot a lot of flak for this but, the harsh reality is that"It is the emotional equivalent of sexual exploitation."Different genders have assumed different positions in society. They have willingly/unwillingly become the providers (and controllers) of certain services to the other gender.Men have become the providers of (Pardon me) entertainment, financial services, and emotional support.Women have inadvertently become the providers of sexual favors.A balanced relationship, is somewhat a fair trade between the two parties, wherein each feels to have gained something. (and none feels at loss)Why do women do it ? Why would you want someone to care for you, entertain you, or do stuff for you ? Why indeed ?But, don't men do it too? Sure they do. If some girl, provides me with sexual favors without having to reciprocate in some way (in similar proportions), I'd happily accept it. Most (read all) men would. Would you consider it exploitation, if the girl actually believed this would lead on to something ?Keeping somebody hanging, leading them on with a false hope of achieving something, is exploitation.Is it legally wrong ? In most places, no. (Well except for my wonderful India, where if somebody commits suicide, the other party may be considered having driven them to it. And the wonderful law, where premarital sex with the pretext (fancy, for hope) of marriage is considered rape.)But, is it morally wrong ? To me, yes. I feel guilty for having used somebody, being aware of their intentions. (I have lead on a lot of girls, but I feel remorse for what I have done, and don't, anymore.)It's not about fixing blame. But if someone, anyone, feels hurt, because of me; I could've done it better.
What is the best question to ask a girl?
What's your name?What do you do?What are three creative uses for a stack of fifteen hats?What would you do if you came home one day to discover your house had been filled from floor to ceiling with avocados?If you could be any named body in the solar system, which one would you be and why?Would you choose to be immortal if you could?Do you have any pets?What's your favorite element on the periodic table?Orgy, yes or no?You have the ability to go back in your past and erase any one mistake you made, but you lose everything you've learned since then. Do you do it?Have you ever had your heart broken? How did you react?What's the worst thing anyone has ever done to you? What's the worst thing you've ever done to someone else?Do you generally think of yourself as a happy person?Do you get embarrassed eating messy food in a public place?What's your favorite sex toy?You look down and see a tortoise. It's crawling toward you. You reach down and flip the tortoise over on its back. The tortoise lays on its back, its belly baking in the hot sun, beating its legs trying to turn itself over. But it can't. Not without your help. But you're not helping. Why is that?Depending on how the answers to those questions go, you might choose to add another:Are you interested in going out to dinner with me?
If my bf says he misses another girl, like even just a friend, is it okay?
I read over my bf shoulder while he was texting a girl, a female friend from work. I know they haven't been working together long and she recently went out of town. He said he missed her in context that he was happy she was back in town. Is this weird? I'm not sure how the context was and based off the little I read it doesn't seem like she likes him or anything so I thought maybe he was just being weird and overly friendly? I mean, we've been in a long committed relationship. Recently things have gotten bumpy because I'mp rone to anxiety and angry outbursts. Thoughts?
What should i do?? My two girl friends are 'experimenting'... (read detail)?
It is normal for girls at this age with hormones going topsy turvy to experiment with sexual behavior. Since, we are like too scared or apprehenisve in being physical with a boy (and trust me they are hardly mature at this age and mature men are a No-No!), so girls feel each other physically with their friends or cousins. It is fine if you move on with it and later have your boyfriend or partners and can remember it as a interesting incident. But you cannot control how one's feelings and also that of the other person. this whole relationship can potentially have a pyshological impact. They can become obsessed with it (coz just like masturbation is addictive, this pleasure deriving activity of theirs can become addicitive) and start losing interest in studies and their academic future. They can tomorrow be involved in groups who indulge in these activities and potentially ruin their future. I would advise that if they are your close friends that you suggest them to take up other stimulating activites which would also help them to develop some kind of skill that would help to shape their personality. Trust me dear you guys have a long life ahead and there will be (trust me!) ample time to have a roaring sex life with whichever partners you desire to be with. This is the time when you can enhance your learning on different subjects which would help you to excell in your studies. I know 13, your first teenage year, wow, you want to party with friends and do all sorta things. Certain things are ok but things such as these can have strong implications on one's life and psychological behavior. In the end, I like to say that I would advise the same thing I have mentioned above. I have been through this, so I know, these are precious years, you & them can done so much more, like take up a skill (like dancing, music, writing etc) study history, different cultures around the world, write, sing.. there is so so much more to life than THIS!
Should I avoid becoming a shoulder to cry on sort of friend to girls?
I have *some* friends that are girls, and I don't necessarily want to ask them out or anything, but I feel like they like me for advice and all more than anything else... like it couldn't be something more. Is this sort of stereotype boring to women? Women always seem to say they want someone that will listen and be caring, but I just can't fathom why they go for the opposite personality, after saying that.. Is it really a bad thing to be this way? I'm not saying I want to be a "people pleaser"... but I also don't want to get so involved in someone's life so as to get hurt. But I guess you can't live life without falling now and then... post thoughts on this please. =) I know it's conceited to like someone for looks anyway, (not that I would want to date a vain woman) but here are two pictures of me on a good day. http://www.flickr.com/photos/chingpow/ I *did* ask this in another section, but no one has answered... and I would like an answer or two, so I am trying in another section. Have I answered my own question?
Can girls have guy friends? without messing around?
Girls can have guy friends and it not mean it leads to more. I always had nothing but guys for friends and one girl friend for my best friend..and dating. That didn't work out so well. My bf forbid me to talk to any of my guy friends and even beat one of them up. Yeah..he had that "guys and girls can NEVER be just friends" mentality. But...reading the text she and he wrote back and forth....I'd question it. Being that it is texting you could be reading it wrong. I'd just flat out ask her and tell her how you feel insecure about her relationship with him. How you are giving you the impression that she and he are messing around and other people are telling you this too. Dunno what else to say. Hope you figure it out.