Is having a gay bf is better than having a straight one?
Not necessarily. Go with what your sexuality is. If you’re a gay man, then you would be best off having a gay boyfriend since having a girlfriend wouldn’t be a fulfilling relationship for either of you. If you are a straight woman, then you shouldn’t try to be in a relationship with a guy who’s gay since, as with before, it wouldn’t be fulfilling. Whatever your gender or sexuality is, find a partner who loves you the same way you love them.
I have a vague idea for a book/novel -- any suggestions? Help?
Okay -- I've been throwing an idea around for a novel. The town I live in -- an upper-middle-class suburb in Michigan -- I've been thinking of writing a sort of tell-all book about the people who come here, sort of a Peyton Place meets 90210. Lots of people come here for the bars -- there is a big bar culture here. There is a gay bar, which I used to go to until I discovered the straight bars here. Anyway, I thought of writing it from my perspective -- a gay guy in his late 20s/early 30s going to the straight bars here -- discovering a whole other way of life, and the interesting people I've met. But then I thought -- I could also have other charcters speak, from their perspectives -- like the straight bartender from the one bar I go to -- on whom I have a crush...and who doesn't like me much -- and the town tramp, one of my friends, a very educated woman who is very smart but is known for having sex on the first date. And I thought about tying it all together -- how all these lives intersect. Would you read this type of book? Should I concentrate on the main character more? I don't know if I should include the main character's struggle with depression or not. Any input? I thought about calling the book, "Royal Oak, 48067" -- or would that be too much like "Beverly Hill 90210"? Anyway, thoughts?
Inside jokes with my crush?
What does it mean if you have inside jokes with someone that you just met maybe five days ago? My crush calls himself my weiner haha, and we refer to eachother as "friends with ups benefits," because we live far away from eachother. Also, there were a couple occasions where I was being followed by a creeper on Facebook, and my crush had been all like "tell him to go away, you already have your man.... mr. weiner." Also, a few days ago, he told me that he had to go on a family vacation and wouldn't be back for a week. Upon leaving he had said "see you in a week or so.... if you can last that long" and then sent a ":D" smiley. What does this mean??? Is he just being flirty or can there be more to it? Guys, do you do this often? It's been less than a week, and I'm already starting to like him more than usual hahah Anything helps! :)
Crushing on Red Lobster busboy! Help!?
So, there is this really hot guy that i like at Red Lobster, he is a busboy there and everytime i go there i always see him (obviously he works there) but i don't see the other busboys like i do him. The first time i noticed he was new there, i completely was like DAMN he is fine, and we made eye contact and i swear he toook FOREVER to bus the table that was in front of me. And when we were leaving out once i was infront of him he said "you guys have a nice night". And i was like oh my word he has the sexiest voice i have ever heard. But i didnt say anything back because i was too shy. But also none of the other busboys heck none of the other waitors or seaters at the Red Lobster near me say that, this was the first time that i heard it there. And my family, everytime we go there always makes fun of me for liking him. I can't help it, i don't want to like him because he may be older than me (im only 16) and plus he probably has a girlfriend. But everytime he walks by me or looks at me or buses a table near me i can't help but smile like an idiot. And the worst thing is, is that i keep thinking about him and dreaming about him AND I CANT STOP. I don't want to like him because frankly, homeboy is way out of my league (my mom is like how can he be out of your league he's a busboy, but i'm like he is just sooooo gorgeous) but i cant help but feel the way i feel when he is around me! What can i do in order to stop liking him?
Crushed by my Crush, how to deal with it?
I will try to condense my story from beginning to an end. Every once in a while there is always this one girl that just stands out from everybody else for me. A girl that magnets me for reasons I can not explain. I am mostly a shy guy so when these things happen I usually just admire from a far. It wasn't until college that I finally took charge and changed that. So my first day of calculus 3, a goddess walks in the room, sits right next to me, took out a pen, and her book for the class. I was head over heals. After getting some advices before I ask her out, I decided to be her friend by asking her questions about a math problem and such. Two weeks later my professor told us to form study groups; immediately i turned around and asked her to be my partner. She agreed and I thought "omg this might actually work". We scheduled an appointment to meet each other, compare some answers, and help each other out. I was so excited I was 30 minutes early. Anyway, we did what we're suppose to do then we walked together to her next class conversating about everything. We got to know each other, she was laughing and I was laughing, it was amazing. So the conversation goes on then I heard: MY BOYFRIEND wants to renovate OUR HOUSE. There was a sudden stop in my head, I snap back to reality and the only thing on my mind was "WHAT?". Then questions fill my head; boyfriend? our? house? My concerns are: 1. She has a boyfriend 2. They live together 3. They have a house. This was a major no no. I was stunned. It was then I knew this was too good to be true. lol. So after that I lost all the daydreams I have about her and became just her math partner. The semester was over and we just parted in different ways. However it was that time that I realize growth. Most people don't think about it but when unpleasant things happen and you go past it, it is a symbol of growth. Now that I think about it I am actually glad I met her, even though I couldn't have her, she taught me a great lesson, and she did it unintentionally. In the end I came out laughing at my failure.
How do I make conversation with a man who's shy and awkward?
Okay, I am exactly that kind of guy! So I will give you my perspective.We usually don't talk much, because we are very straightforward and we just like to get straight to the point. We don't indulge in banter, because we are not very good at it. We don't talk much because we don't know what to talk about.But all this doesn't mean we are averse to talking. We love being in a conversation. Even though we may not be speaking much or it may seem we are getting bored, we are not! We are listening to you very intently and we speak only when we think we have something good to say. We don't mind listening to you chat away. If you think we are not interested in the conversation or we are getting bored, trust me we are not. And we like if someone else initiates the conversation.So advice for you is:1. Always initiate the conversation. Slowly when he starts opening up to you, he will also start initiating.2. Don't assume he is getting bored and don't ask him if he is. If he is listening to you, that means he wants to be a part of the conversation.3. Don't mistake his silence for attitude. Just because he doesn't say hi first, doesn't mean he doesn't want to talk to you. It's just that he is shy.4. Talk to him about anything, keep him engaged and make him feel comfortable.In some time he will seem normal to you.