Christians only! Marriage advice please!?
Please only answer if you are a Christian. My husband has been addicted to pornography for over a decade and we have been married for a year and a half. He has not stopped pornography at all since we have been married. When I say pornography I mean DVDs, internet, meeting people online cyber sex, chat rooms etc. I don't think he has ever met anyone in real life although Im not sure about it. The other day I made a fake facebook account and sent him messages and he responded within a minute. I'm worried because in some of the chat rooms Im not sure if he's talking to girls that are of age yet. Also, my first laptop crashed because of a virus from porn that he put on it and i was so upset because the laptop was a graduation gift from my parents. We've also had huge phone bills at times from when he does stuff on the phone instead of online or a movie. This affects our sex life and our marriage in general tremendously. I just can't have sex with him after I find out about it, at least for a day or two. Although he recognizes it as sin, he really has no intention of quitting. He says he does but he always says it will probably keep happening, and that he wishes he could go back and not marry me since i have such a problem with it. He will not go to counseling or talk to one of our pastors about it. He also doesn't want me to speak to someone alone. Is this considered adultery? Do I have biblical grounds to divorce him? I really want out of this marriage but I have never believed in divorce unless it would be acceptable in God's eyes.
I caught my boyfriend using online dating site. I need help!?
I walked in on my boyfriend (we live together) using an online hook-up site. I eventually convinced him to let me read everything that he had written. He said it was humiliating, but I convinced him the only way we could move on is if I knew the truth. He was talking to unattractive women. One, (admitting that she was ugly) said her pics looked yummy and how he wanted to show her his skills. Another, he asked for her phone number. Which to me seems like he was going to take it to another level. I asked him to give me some space. He's been constantly crying; as have I. He says he's sorry, stupid, etc, and if I take him back he will never do it again. (They all say that). He says he will earn my trust back. But, should I let him? I asked him why & how he could do that to me. I got an answer. He says he was on there to help his self-esteem for someone to show they want him. Though I am very loving, I don't show him I want him enough as he does for me. He's very loving to me, and shows me so much attention. That's why it was such a shock to me. Oh! He said he chose unattractive women because they would be easier to boost his self-esteem. He's said he's committed to me, and that he realizes it was a stupid mistake. Do I let him earn my trust back? Am I to blame for not showing him how much I want him sexually? Where do I go from here?
Is it a sin to date at age 13? Christian ppl mainly?
It's not a sin to date at 13, or at any age, as long as you don't have sex with your boyfriend or your girlfriend. That's a sin called "fornication", because you're having a sexual relation with someone you're not married to. The Bible encourages us (boys and girls all together) to remain virgin until the time comes to wed! And that's why those who don't want to fall into the tentation prefer not to date, because (in a gril's case for example) when you want to have sex with someone, and that you have a boyfriend, who asks you to, you won't refuse! And that's when you sin! And try not to jum to the conclusion that he's racist. He may have planned to ask her before you came to him, this very day, then he told you "no" because he was hoping that his crush would pick him. And remember that it's not because you ask a boy, he's not obliged to say "yes". Being rejected is one of the cruel lessons life helps us to learn! In your case it was at an early age, but believe me it's no big deal. Hope it helped you!
My wife talks online in a chat room and it makes me uncomfortable. ANYONE WITH GOOD ADVICE?
I know its hard to trust your wife again. Divorce is not an option for any marital problems. I would say that you better meet a counselor or try to solve it talking together, only you and her. Women are more sensitive and expect more from their men and when they don't get what they want they either get depressed or search for someone who could help them out, this is the basic problem. Other people take advantage of her plight and thats creates a mess in the family. So the problem is not only with the wive's side but also with the husbands. The husbands may not know what the wives want, they would not have spoken about it. This is another root cause of such problems. In your case you can't hold back your wife from going online, she may find some other way as she has become addicted to it, and her hatred for you may even go deeper. So tr to show your love for her, I know it needs a lot of patience but it is the best solution if you need a happier ending. Show more love on her. Do something nice for her, take her to dinner, take her to some vacation spot and warm her up with your love, spice up your love life. Get her things that she likes, she will obviously start loving you and will try to avoid things that may hurt you. Give unto others what you want them to give to you, its just like a give and take policy. When you start satisfying and loving her, she will realise her mistakes and will come back to you, forcing or fighting can worsen the situation even more. Say her that you trust her always and keep away from her mobile or laptop or computer, stop sneaking and she will realise her minds. Make her feel more loved and show her your affection, love her like the way you loved her on day 1. Never tak about the mishaps, if she apologizes, accept it and forget and forgive her. Am sure this will work, this is called the love therapy that a couple need. Do this atleast for the sake of your 8 months old baby. He/She needs both dad and mom. You can't bring up a child alone. After all she is your other half. Hope this helps :) All the best for your future!! Pray well to Lord Jesus and ask him to bless the marriage covenant. Don't break what God has united.
Which are the biggest dating websites in India?
Mahesh Murthy & Sameer Parwani are right!Fropper.com has been the biggest dating site in India so far. But their lack of will to promote it (for various reasons) has made it lose its sheen. Ignighter.com didn't really realize what it was doing until it got the user base (mostly Male) and had to re-brand itself (mostly due to fakes, getting a bad name due to obvious reasons), it has just picked steam in terms of sign-up nos.We started QuackQuack.in in May, 2010 and as we picked up steam, Indian payment gateways played a spoiltsport in our progress and directly effected our marketing campaign.Having said that, post Dec, 2011, we have emerged as the fastest growing dating site in India, one which is 100% moderated and works because we market our product to both Male & Female audience in India. Today we have over 2.5 lac members, about 1000 registrations per day and all of this by still being bootstrapped!We're glad to be having over 200 male / female members exchange contacts everyday with over 25,000 chats exchanged per day. We were recently covered in ToI, Deccan Chronicle, Pluggd.in & Starting up with ET Now. However, since the members nos. can get skewed if females don't join, we are going steady to maintain the balance and growing at a steady pace. Lookout for us, we're really changing the game here! :)
Met a girl in a chat room who is asking me to register to a webcam site?
I met this woman in a chat room and everything seem good until she ask me to register to a webcam site. It's asking for credit card info and she said she can remove any fees. Do this sound like a scam to you. Every time I think I had met a girl online this always happen to me, everything.. grhhhhhh!!
I JUST WANT TO FIND A CHAT ROOM FOR OVER 60 YEARS OLD.?
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What are some good chat rooms?
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