Boyfriend is always busy or tired? I miss him? :(?
Babes Im gonna be honest about it cause you ask alot of questions that that you already know the answer to. You think about him all the time right? That means that he is your priority right? Besides school and family he is your number 1 right? Ok then, is he is not showing you the same then why are you even asking this question? He goes to play soccer rather than see you, he parties rather than see you, he is tired and doesn't make the extra little effort rather than see you, he has a lack of motivation when it comes to you. Im sure you maybe never really even see him at all anymore because you thinking about him too much, yea he prolly (DO NOT underestimate guys babes, trust me I am one) does have someone else now you can't prove that so don't go off that, but still he actions towards you aren't saying anything and you are showing no standards in regards to stuff he should be doing for you, its simple as that, you may as well just send me a message from now on because I seem to be the only answering these Q's about him....lol your man should ALWAYS no matte what treat you like a lady and make you smile and always be happy, well that's what I do anyways I can't speak for the next person
Why every time my boyfriend calls me, he wants to know who I’m with, where I’m at, and when am I going home?
This is a very bad sign! I mean, really bad! This signals a kind of boyfriend/girlfriend personality trait of being way too controlling. These first little appearances of this trait now pave the way/set the stage for bigger, scarier and more obsessive behaviors you will see. If he’s this controlling now, as you describe, this has the potential to be far worse as time goes on. He will try to control everything you do, who you see, what you wear, what you do and who you can talk to. He will start accusing you of seeing other people behind his back, telling other people what he says and does to you. He will begin blaming your friends and family for things you do he doesn’t like—which will be everything, after a while. Your bf/gf relationship will become more of a hostage situation, with you as the hostage. If he hasn’t hit you already by now, that will start too. You can bank on it.Get out now while you can. Don’t try to negotiate. No second chances. No getting weak. Get out now, don’t stop, don’t look back, don’t pass go or collect $200. Just get out now. And for God’s sakes, whatever you do, don’t have a child with him!!I hope you make it.
Help! My relatives/friends are always asking me money!?
here's the story: I'm engaged to a kano and we are planning to get married anytime as soon as I get my visa. I hope everything goes well for us. :) The bad things are: * Why do people think I have a lot of money? My co-workers, when they found out that I have a kano fiance they always tell me "hey libre ka naman dyan, mayaman ka naman diba?" (hey why don't you treat us out since you are rich right?) * I have a friendster account so my fiance and me are the main profile picture, I always get a message like this from my 'friends' and 'ex-coworkers' "wow, siguro di mo na kailagan magwork kasi mayaman ka naman na at may sustento, libre mo naman kami" (wow maybe you dont work anymore because you have a monthly allowance, treat us out") edit: I resigned from work about a year ago because I had an open heart surgery and needed a lot of time to recover. All of the bills were taken care by my mom. * then when i asked them if they can join me sometimes and hang around with me. They always tell me "sure pero libre mo kami ha" (sure, but you get to treat us ok?" ) Why are they acting like that? My fiance is far from being rich and he is working his *** off to make ends meet. Just because he is a kano, it doesn't make me rich. I feel like I can't be with someone else right now without telling me to treat them. Sometimes I go out alone and didn't bother to call them. I feel like I don't have a real friends anymore and they don't want to be with me If i don't treat them. I can't invite them now because I'll always hear "libre mo kami" (treat us out) I did it once.. and now they expect me to do it over and over again. Even some of my relatives expect that I have more money and that I won the lottery. It's freaking me out sometimes! * then one time while i was still working. We had a farewell party because we got assigned to a different team. After the dinner, some of them told me "kaya na ni Melissa yan" (Melissa can pay that) I know they were joking but i didn't feel right. How can I tell them that we're not made of gold? Should i just brush them off? Now, when i want to do strolling... I just do it alone. I don't tell them anymore. When I say "no, i don't have money so i cant treat you" they say "oh you are being cheap" This is totally frustrating.
What are some signs that your boyfriend really loves you?
Basics signs to understand if your boyfriend loves you He will certainly make time for you without any lame excuses.He will reply to your text and call quickly or if in case he is late he will call and make you understand the reason .He will understand the insecurity of a girl and never try to act or do anything stupid to make you vulnerable.He will introduce you to his close inner group of friends and family so you can be more comfortable around .He will have eyes for you (may be few flirting incident in general) but you will always be his girl.You will be his Priority among along his work and people as he will never ignore you under the veil of space and time .He would understand the difference between Lovd and Lust. He would wait .He would ask you for the marriage first.He would treat your parents and family as his own and your friends as his own group .He would lead you in hardtimes, guide you when you will be low and stand by with you when you will be least expecting this him .Even after a long and tiring day if he is calling to ask you how was your day/ did you have your lunch etc . . Believe me he love you .He will balance things, work /time /relations with you.Instead of breaking up on small or big fights, he will sit with you, communicate and solve the issue and make things work again.You will see him with genuine smile and warmth whenever you will meet him.He would be a bit possessive ( natural in all men) as he is afraid to loose you .Your weight/skintone/ etc will not be a matter of concern to him .The best way to know if he love you is try testing him when things go south, if he is there till the end to make things rights and workable (girl don't loose him , he is a keeper).If a man is into you, he will come and get you . It is this simple.Though relation is based of true abs mutual efforts of both the individuals . Trust and respect him, if the person is genuine , he is not going to wander.Peace (Ra)
What to do about my boyfriend always being on the phone around me?
whenever i'm around him. He's always texting alot of people from co-workers to his brothers. At first it was ok, but now it is annoying. He barely stays off of it. Im tired of hearing him texting and his ringer. I asked him multiple times to stay off of it when i'm around but he doesn't listen to me and has not stopped yet. He says he does it when he's alone and if me and him aren't talking he feels bored and gets on his phone. He's just not listening to me and it's starting to push me over the edge.
Why don't I know what to say when I am with my girlfriend?
In ancient times, women were highly dependent on men: they were supposed to bring food and protection, as women took care of their children.The man could leave anytime, and live "happily forever after" while condemning the woman and the children to death by his absence.So women developed ways to detect if the man was about to leave, which is mostly checking how much "quality attention" they got.I believe women still have that instinct nowadays... that's why your silence bothers her so much.If you do like her, then just talk about whatever is in your mind. The words don't really matter, what matters is that your are talking to her.When I am that situation, just talk about what you did yesterday, TV shows you watched and why you liked it, what parts were funny, etc. Discuss the things that happened at work or school, the things you thought about it, what you are wondering, etc.That generally does the job for me!
My boyfriend doesn't have a cellphone and doesn't have a house phone either. What do I do?
Get him the cheapest go-phone cell phone that you can find. It's better than nothing. Don't sign up for a plan. It sounds like his family keeps to a really tight budget. I know people who only use a cell phone and never have a house phone. In your boyfriend's case, it is his dad's cell phone that everyone is sharing. That is their 'house' phone. So for his birthday/Christmas gift, get him the least expensive cell phone you can find and a card with minutes on it. He can get your calls on his cell. If he wants to burn up the minutes, he'll just have to learn to restrain himself!
My dad always takes his anger out on me?
I understand where you're coming from in a lot of ways because my father was also angry and miserable. What i came to understand was that my father had a lot of emotional issues, and his screaming and threats were never about me ! They were about him and his inner misery. If you notice, not everyone treats family members like our fathers treat us... neither your father or mine know how to be a parent, they don't know how to communicate properly and they are too lazy to face their anger, fears and emotional problems. Believe me, they are adults and as such, we ALL know there is help out there. Well, as far as i'm concerned our fathers were too scared to go get the help they need and deserve. Once i realized this, I accepted my father's behavior at face value. He was never going to change, and did not. You're not too sensitive. But you can tell your father you're sorry he's upset and that it really scares you when he screams and threatens.... at least it's the truth and he will hear it coming straight from your mouth. When you tell him this, don't yell it or scream it, but say it in the kindest way you can. Maybe it will give him something to think about.