Paddling an exchange student at High school and by host family ?
Your question actually has two parts. Others have told you that the way to avoid getting paddled at school is to follow the rules, and that's good advice. Your question about punishment at home is a little more complicated. Your sense of "right and wrong" tell you when you are not making a wise choice, so the same advice applies -- act wisely, and you will not have anything to worry about. But if you do, indeed, become subject to getting spanked, it is difficult to predict how the parents in your host family will act. On one hand, they want to treat you in the same way they treat their own children, which means you could get the same kinds of punishment when they feel you need it. On the other hand, even though you are an important person and a "member of the family" even for just a short time, they recognize that you are, in reality, someone else's child. They might be less inclined to spank you than they are to spank their own children, who have grown up with the rules and policies. Your smartest course of action is to listen to your conscience, act wisely, and not have to worry about punishments.
Were you a foreign exchange student as a minor? Would you share your experience?
Yes, I was a minor. I was 15 years old when I first leaving my country for United States. I don’t know what kind of answer I suppose to give however I do believe that it was a great experience.No one give me drink because they believe everyone from my country is conservative. I always got praised because I am willing to be an exchange when I was very young. I got ice cream as my first thing I ate when I arrived.Everything is beautiful in my perspective. I met cute friends that gives me a lot of love because I am very young lol since they put me in senior class. I got to change my perspective and hit my puberty in the right environment. I have a good CV for sure and something I could be proud of once I came back. And when I’m about to miss the flight, apparently someone screaming once he knows I am 16 and about to miss my chance to come back home and everyone is giving me the way.It was fun!
What should a exchange student in Japan be aware of when living in their house?
Sit down when you pee. And don't cum in the shower. I've written this elsewhere on the net, but it bears repeating.Sorry for the bluntness, but if you're a guy, you need to know this stuff.The conventional wisdom is something like, Take a small gift from your home country, say "ojamashimasu" when entering, and finish all your rice. All of which is basically wrong. So I was visiting a girlfriend's home, and this is what she told me. This was after I'd been here for 6 years, and thought I was well-versed in the culture. And my reaction was Ken Seeroi does not sit down to pee.But here's the deal. Japanese folks are insanely good at noticing small stuff. Like, I once got yelled at for erasing a note I'd written and then sweeping the four tiny grains of eraser dust off the page. So don't think the woman of the house isn't going to notice your splash around the toilet bowl. And my girlfriend saidYou should try it; it's relaxing.Okay, now the shower, everything other than water going down the drain gets caught in a small net. Which the woman of the house has to replace by hand every few days. And yeah, sure, somewhere in Japan there's a husband who does this job. Just nobody's ever met him. Anyway, suffice to say that drains here aren't a way to get rid of stuff. And yeah, turns out it is kind of relaxing.It's way too easy to focus on stuff like bringing a gift of olives or maple syrup that nobody wants, or reversing your chopsticks when taking off a communal plate, but then to ignore things that are glaringly obvious.
Paddling an exchange student at High school and at home?
Reckon you're stuffed. If your parents signed the enrolment forms meaning you're going to be an actual enrolled student rather than just a visiting student then I don't see how or why you can expect not to get paddled if that's what other kids at that particular school get. Similarly if your parents have said they want your exchange family to treat you as their own kid for the duration of your stay with them (saying 'my parents told me that I will have to follow the house rules' doesn't make it clear whether or not your parents would go as far as accepting your experiencing the same punishment as your host family's own kids in the event of your breaking those rules!). Really though I can't help wondering just where you're from. You're from a non-spanking country and yet you know about paddling?!? If that is true, you're the first kid I've ever come across from any place outside of America who does! Even myself, a 17yr old who's always grown up in a culture and society where corporal punishment is still pretty common for kids and teenagers, I still had to ask an American what on earth 'the paddle' was. PS If you ever do get faced with being paddled just try to remember it's really not the end of the world, even if it feels like it at the time! Really it all comes down to how it's handled and how its done; it could turn out to be the worst experience of your life but equally it could turn out to be pretty much nothing or it might just be somewhere in between. Whatever it's like though and however they do it, it is just a spanking (not an execution!) and kids the world over have been spanked - and survived - ever since the year dot. Really though the absolute worst thing about ever getting spanked is not the actual whacking itself, the absolute worst thing is the time you spend thinking about it and worrying about it before you actually get it.
The host family that I'm going to AuPair for doesn't want to sign a contract. Is this safe?
An au pair drafting a contract for the family to sign is not normal. The family is the one defining the job, not the au pair so the family has to come up with the contract.Asking a potential host family to review their contract before accepting a match isn’t an unreasonable request. When you are coming without an agency, you are literally on your own, and it’s better to have something written so that expectations are clearly laid out. Hopefully you have Skyped with them several times and not through email exchanges. The other red flag to watch out for is they didn’t ask enough questions to you to understand your experience with children, why you want to au pair, and your personality/values. If they want to host you right away without really knowing who you are, that is a huge red flag!The family should have a written agreement that lists out your schedule and duties, which days are off days for you, which days are holidays and whether you’re paid on those days or not, your stipend and when should you expect to be paid. If you haven’t asked about these things, you need to ask about it ASAP.On the written agreement there also needs to be a clause of how much notice should be give if either party should end the contract. Ideally families want someone that stay for a year, but it’s better to offer an “at-will agreement” with a 4 week notice so that either party doesn’t feel pressured to stick it out for a year if it truly isn’t a good match.NEVER rush into matching with a host family. You need to ask a lot more questions about the job and their expectations if they aren’t going to write up a written contract. Things like: are you also expected to cook for the parents and do their laundry in addition to the children’s? What are the parents’ work hours and how far is it from their house? Would you be able to attend church if you’re religious? Who is expected to attend to the baby, if the baby wakes up in the middle of the night? If they have pets, who will be responsible for them? Will there be a car and would you be allowed to use it for personal use after work? Could you have other au pair friends over after work hours?Find all you can about the job before you take it. Don’t assume anything! Most au pairs/nannies who take a job and later get frustrated with the host family because the job isn’t what they expected is usually because they didn’t ask enough questions to the family before deciding to match.
Is it safe 16 year old girl to live alone with host family in Los Angeles.?
If you are living with a host family, you are not living alone. As with any city, there are locations that are safe for a 16 year old girl to venture alone, and locations that are not.