Are my parents too strict? I'm 18?
Hi, I am 18, and will be 19 soon. I live with my parents, and I know I have to respect their rules because I live under their roof, but honestly I find myself going insane with their strictness. They frequently don't let me go out because they think I should be working and doing homework, although I am already a good student, and my curfew is 11 p.m. I don't think they should be managing my time, especially since I have already graduated from college (at an early age). Every time I want to go out--even during the day--I have to ask them, and they make a huge deal out of it, because they think seeing friends is, essentially, a waste of time. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?
My parents are way to strict and I'm 17!?
I am normally all about children following the rules their parents lay down for them. We all went through it, most of us lived and even turned out ok. However it is not uncommon for overly sheltered teens to walk into the real world and be destroyed by it. You need social skills, you need street smarts, you need to be able to hold your own. You need to be able to resist peer pressure. The dangers in the world are great, but by contrast, the ones you face in your teens are less than those you face as an adult. Explain to your parents that you need to face the real world eventually, and you would like to do it while your brain is still in it's developmental phases. Edit: Ask your parents if they think you should do what someone tells you just because they can use violence against you. Ask them what they are trying to teach you with violence. At a younger age, force teaches you that your actions and words can cause pain. At this age, they are teaching you that it is ok to obey a person who hits you. Terrorists use force and threats of violence to get their way. If you reach a point where you have had enough, declare all unholy Jihad and walk out.
Do you have strict parents?
My parents were very strict. Many of their rules were based on their extreme conservative religious views.No dancing - I wasn’t allowed to go to PromNo shorts - Once I bought my own clothes, I wore shorts. I was not permitted to try out for the Pom Pom squad or Cheerleader because of the uniforms.No drinkingNo cursing - I was slapped across the face when I was about 12 because I said, “My zipper is all jacked up!”I left home when I was nineteen, my curfew was still 10:30. We had an above ground pool where a group of us loved to hang out on Sunday afternoons. One week was the boys, next the girls. We were not allowed to participate in mixed bathing, the bible doesn’t allow that. No matter how conservative our swimsuit, I still had to wear a t-shirt over it while swimming.Monday through Friday my bedtime was 8:30, as I entered Jr. High, I attempted to negotiate for 9:00, my parents didn’t budge. In High School, they didn’t budge either. If the light was on in my room after 8:30, I heard banging on the door and, “Time to go to sleep!” I keep wondering why they thought I could turn off the light, close my eyes and be asleep in seconds.My dad was firm with my weekend curfew. It was as if he thought it was impossible to become pregnant before 10:30. When I was sixteen, I got a car. The first thing my dad said to me is, “Every girl I knew who had a car when they were sixteen got pregnant.” I looked at him in bewilderment and wondered why he thought he needed to say this. My dad worked until 5:00 and my mom worked in retail and had her schedule posted by the phone each week. It made it easy to find the opportunity to get knocked up before 10:30 pm.In case you are wondering, I have only been pregnant once. I was 27 years old when I became pregnant and 28, when I gave birth to my son. So I had the last laugh about the car = pregnancy.
My Parents Too Strict?
oh but i can do what ever i want on the internet as long as its appropriate but im not allowed to eat sweet fruits because they say that there are too much sugar in it im also not allowed to wear make up but i dont care i dont wear them and they dont allow me to do sports when they want me to excercise because they think im fat but at the same time that they think sports is a waste of time and should be used for studying annnd IM ASIAN
Are my parents too strict?
I m 23 years old and my parents still want me to be home at a certain time (3am). I know it s not an early curfew but I m an adult with a full time job. I ve also had a rough couple of years going through school, relationships, and hanging out with the wrong people. Recently my parents went through my purse without me knowing and found something I shouldn t have had in the first place which I m not proud of but its something I want to leave in the past and I ve been trying to be more responsible and calm down on the partying. My parents are very religious, they won t even let me drink they think even a glass of wine will make me a bad person. Are my parents too strict?
Why are my parents so strict?
Your parents fear you might get hurt! This fear is not only an imagined fear. Thus is a real fear from 100s possible dangers around a child or even teenager.If you meet dangerous but exciting guys/girls they may insist you smoke with them. Or worse.I will give you an example of bad company, “dressed” nicely. My daughter said one day “ How much money do you want? I could get you any amount. It's false but perfect.” I froze. Then I freaked. She explained she had that “friend” who was supplying many with false money and they had to pay 1/10 only! The guy was charming and seemed like from a good family! He'll. ..can you imagine how her life could become a mess???There are so many real dangers and having fear is good in those cases to warn us to be alert. Parents can't be 100% there but they do their best and it's for their kids good.Other fears based on wrong beliefs and habits should be eliminated. Like - “ I can't ever do what Peter is doing! He is clever, I am not” That is stupid and it can be dealt with very efficiently now.[1]Footnotes[1] FREE LIVE Virtual Training Event: Learn To Apply The Latest Brain Based Methods To Uncover & Overcome Your Hidden Non-Conscious Fears
What is wrong with being a strict parent???
Wow-You really have a trust issue--first with yourself that you're not raising your kids right so must keep them on a tight rein for neither will you be able to show any confidence or trust in your children. If you 1-set a good example for kids learn by imitating their parents, love them unconditional, set realistic limits-boundaries and be CONSISTENT with Recognizing from the very beginning their their uniqueness, achievements etc and telling ,praising them and also consequenting misbehaviours your children will grow into well behaved children that can go to a frien's house for naturally you have already talked to friends parents , have phone no etc take there and pick up and so forth. Education is very important but please don't minimize Social life- if they have no social skills(they learn by peer interaction) they'll have serious problems getting along with other kids which will interfere with their leaarning. Kids need other kids. I suggest you talk to preacher, minister, priest(Don't know your religion)and get some advice-talk to school counselor etc. Children who are kept so strict until 16 will REBEL-guaranteed. You must show trust for it instills self confidence. The dating I agree on -on on one dating but should be able to have friends(same sex) and socialize-supervised of course by dropping group off at activity-skating rink, movie atc and picking up-can slways use BEHAVIOUR MANAGEMENT Plan--go to your Library and find some books on Discipline. The Prom should be open to all seniours(unless did something reallyu horrible) for once in a lifetime experience and if you raise right-be involved in schoolwork etc should have no grade problem. You mean well but need to do some research on Child Psychology for I know you wouldn't want to cause damage. NO.3-I doubt anyone will allow children to watch an autopsy--that is a extreme, dangerous to a child's mind thought-please rethink or educate yourself on this point. Good Luck
Why are my parents so strict?
My friends all say that they've cussed in front of their parents and their parents don't care. If I cussed in front my parents, especially my dad, they would get mad and tell me to never do that ever again. And they're allowed to have crazy parties and stuff with their parents' permission and have boys sleep over and stuff. If I asked my mom if I could have a party with alcohol and stuff she'd slap me and they'd have a fit if they ever saw a boy sleeping over in the house. They'd be so angry if I came home drunk. And my friends say that they hide their report cards from their parents and stuff, but I could never get away with something like that. My mom is always getting on my case about doing my homework and that I'd better finish all my homework and get good grades. They also never let me skip school unless I'm REALLY sick, and if I try to beg them they just tell me to get dressed because I must go to school and we're not discussing it. I'm not allowed to go out on weekdays and if I ask my parents are always like "don't you have a test to study for?' or 'don't you have homework that needs doing?' I even heard my friend on the phone with her mom and she was raising her voice to her and stuff. I would NEVER get away with something like that. Why are their parents so lenient?