20 and Overprotective parents?
Okay I'm 20 and I have redneck over controlling parent's. I go to school and I work part time in a retail clothing store. My family and I haven't gotten along ever since high school. Don't know why. They don't accept me for me. But Everything has gotten better since I got a job at Kohl's. Its part time and its going well. But I recently hanged out with my best friend, who I have been best friends with since High school. 5 years. My parent's haven't really liked her because of piercings and tattoos. I don't really care because they have always been controlling and I'm now 20. getting close to 21. I'm a college student. Anyways I've told them that me and her were thinking about being room mates. Then all HELL went lose. Starting yelling at me saying I don't respect them and etc. Which I do respect, that's why I'm straight forward with them. I do everything that they want. I know now that maybe I shouldn't of told them. But I'm trying to have a better relationship with them and I thought it was going great until now. I still think my parent's and I are only getting along because of my new job. I'm trying to make everything work until I can afford to get a place of my own... I just don't get why every time I'm actually happy, they ruin it. -Sigh- ADVICE Please?
My parents are overprotective, what should I do?
Thats normal feeling during teenage.... When I was a teenager, I thought I new the world in and out and I could tell my mommy and daddy how to live. But I was wrong. Dont get me wrong, your parents may be overprotective, but teenage gets a person too excited and overconfident.... Thats why you see so many teenage girls losing virginity to a liar who just wanted to have sex. So be a little assertive and at the same time, try to talk to your mom and dad about the issues you're having with them. They will loosen up a little bit over the period.
How much can parents negatively impact their children?
The message you give your children about themselves is one of the most important things you can do to positively impact their future for the good. You can either speak blessing and positive things over them or speak things that will hurt them. If you prophecy good things over your kids like, " you are so smart", "you can do that really well", your child starts to see himself or herself through your eyes. If you speak curses over your child like," you will never amount to anything", or " you are so clumsy", your child will think what is the use? He or she will live up to your negative opinion. Words are very powerful. It is important to bless your children with as much positive input as you can while he or she is young and formative. Even if your child is not good in a certain area, speak positive things over him or her and soon you will find they will do much better than you ever thought possible. Peace to you! Edit: I did not see your addition until later. I am sorry that you had to go through that as a child. Sometimes if parents were treated that way as children, they grow up thinking this kind of behaviour is normal. Sadly, it may not be possible to get your parents to change or admit they did anything wrong. It is possible to stay away from toxic people and surround yourself with those who can build you up instead of tear you down. I do not mean never speak to your parents or anything, just limit the negative impact they have on you by choosing less time with them. I have relatives who are toxic and I have learned over the years that I am happier if I limit my time around them. Peace and blessings to you.