Why are some men jealous of mixed race males especially jealous of men who are black and white mixed/biracial?
Now I am not saying all men are jealous of mixed biracial black and white men. I love light skin high yellow black men that can pass for white like Wentworth Miller, like most biracial/multiracial black men he is so damn fine...but when I try going on dating sites to be specific about the type of men I like men get mad and say light skin ****** are played out or I should just get a white man. I have even had men go as far as getting my account deleted off dating sites because they are angry that I like mixed race black and white men only...Watch ladies, especially on CraigsList say you like mixed men then put pictures like Wentworth Miller, DeAndre Brakensick,or Bizzy Bone(and don't dare show any other picture of a mixed race black man with a muscular body, light skin and blue eyes men will hand your *** to you) let men (on Craigslist especially) know what you are looking for and I bet you, you either will be cursed at, flagged, or account deleted..lol...I just feel that some men are jealous of mixed race light skin men only because what I have been through when trying to seek what I am mostly attracted too...I like light skin biracial mixed males who are black and white mixed and who have more dominate European features, how is that offensive to men? Now let me say this in alot of my sites that i go on to find these men I only put pictures of men I am looking for I don't go into detail about features and things like that because I believe a picture is worth a thousand words...I don't put down other races of men no nothing..I am just a woman who finds light skin mixed race males the sexiest I am not even the majority most women I know find white men or dark skin men more masculine and attractive me I think light skin mixed race black men have the best of both worlds..they got black mans swag and the white mans swag mixed in one...
Why do many women say that a workplace dominated by women often becomes dysfunctional, especially if the boss is a woman?
Workplaces dominated entirely by men or women tend to be dysfunctional. They're just dysfunctional in different ways because men and women have different interpersonal dynamics. I'm going to speak in some sweeping generalizations here. There are always exceptions. Culturally, we're more forgiving of stereotypical all-male work environments... Much of the time we don't recognize the dysfunction. But the "good ol' boys club" mentality or the dirty, crude "man camp" behavior that arises when women are absent is a form of dysfunction, just as much as the stereotypical drama and cattiness in an all-women environment. Why? To some extent, that is simply the emergent behavioral pattern of a collection of human beings. It happens because humans are that way. The only real answer to "why are humans the way they are" is that we evolved that way. Some pattern of selection and randomness led our brains to develop this way. From an evolutionary standpoint, the presence of order is really the anomaly, not the absense of it. I think we need to flip the question around -- not "why do single-gender groups often become dysfunctional" but "why are mixed-gender groups able to be functional?" And that has a simple answer -- the subconscious urge to be appealing to the other sex is one of the great forces of moderation in modern society. The drive to mate, when channeled within the norms of a non-violent environment, can be a powerful civilizing influence.
How to deal with nasty, gossipy women coworkers??!!?
I wonder if anyone else out there is in or has been in a similar situation to mine and, if so, what did you do about it? I work in an office with about 7-9 other women, only women. For lunch we all get together in the lunch room at the same time, we eat our lunches, and then sit and talk. I find this to be a hindrance to work more than a help, but they insist on it, and because I don't want to be completely ostracized, I do it. The conversation often turns nasty about other coworkers who aren't in the room at the time (the manager includes herself in this ragging on other coworkers), and it makes me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. Also, it doesn't just happen in the lunch room; it's all day long. I've heard every single one of them make nasty remarks about virtually all the others! The manager and another employee even very often sit in her office and gossip nasty about coworkers ... and I know that EVERYONE is on the list! (I've even heard them make a couple nasty remarks about me.) It's like being at a friggin slumber party of mean girls! I keep my mouth shut when they talk nasty about our coworkers, but geeeeeez, I can only keep quiet for so long when most of the conversation is nasty about coworkers! What I'm wondering is if there is anyone else who has been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it? The nastiness behind each other's back is a DAILY thing around here, and it's beginning to weigh me down. Work suffers, morale suffers, it's a ridiculous situation, and it's mentally and emotionally exhausting. I'm safely certain, however, that if I were to be candid about it - get it out in the open and take a "let's talk about this" approach - I'd be alone ... everyone would deny it! Why do women have to act like this? Why?! So often I find women to be difficult to work with -- petty, gossipy, backstabbing, passive-aggressively competitive, and I find that WOMEN often cause more problems for other women in the workforce than do men. Can anyone give me some solid advice on handling this rock-and-a-hard-place situation? Thank you!
How come women never want to work "hard" jobs?
So many feminists and Strong Independent Women say they want the want "equality in the workforce" and yet I don't see any of them shoveling coal, moving furniture, or risking their lives in the line of service for their country. Most of them just sit around working cushy office jobs. Kind of a p*ssy way to the fight the patriarchy, don't you think? Come on feminists, get with the ******* program
What is the best way to deal with a co-worker who consistently discredits you in a passive-aggressive way?
I like Irwin Klein's answer - a lot. It starts with a very important threshold question: are you really being discredited in the eyes of your peers or supervisors/managers or is it all just a stupid game he's playing that no one else is paying attention to? And all the advice about ignoring him is spot on IF there are no real effects beyond his or her (everyone seems to assume it's a guy, but I've seen plenty of petty, irritating women in the workforce, too).I diverge from Irwin Klein's answer a little bit, depending on your work environment. If the people around you are good people; reasonable people; people who have some sense of reality and are open to facts, then at some point I would escalate this to your supervisor or manager. The person who is responsible for managing you and your peers is the person with the authority and clout to hear you out and do something about it if warranted.I had a supervisor who was problematic for me. At some point I escalated it over his head and my manager said, "He's just being his usual irritating self. We know you are not the problem." I was then able to relax and let him be the gnat he was without it ruining my day. Eventually, when he saw I didn't care, he went away.One caveat: If you have respected your boss' opinion up to this point and he or she says that your skin is too thin, I'd do a bit of self-examination. Sometimes (let me say this about myself) sometimes - I have been my own problem and once I thought about it, I could get out of my own way. But if after reflection you still believe the problem is with your peer and not with your thin skin, I would escalate it again and maybe insist on a meeting with your manager and the problem person.Finally, if your manager simply doesn't have your back, you may have to find a more intense solution (e.g., legal or finding another job).Good luck.
Why don't women support each other as much as men do in their careers? Do you agree with this statement, or is it untrue?
Emmanuel Lazega studied social environment for professional workers, with several case studies in law firms. If I remember his conclusions properly, women (in general, from accomplished professionals or housewives) tend to have a very distinct social structure from men:women have a close group of strong empathic, frequently met, friends, often in completely unrelated areas, sometimes in direct professional contact;men have many occasional contacts, from people who span both empathy (from rather intimate to rather indifferent) and relevance (from co-worker to unrelated workers in the same area, to unrelated).The wider net gives men access to relevant information about their sector, beyond what they get from their own team: precisely the close enough to trust and understand but far enough to bring new insight that Mark Granovetter defined as weak ties. That network isn’t as reliable when facing personal crisis, but far more capable to anticipate it, or even help go up professionally.That matches my anecdotal personal observation. More so, the few women whom I know have a wider social network have very fast careers; this also corresponds to the type of wide, occasional, interested ties that upper-class education appears to foster. Fiction tends to mimic that distinction more often than not, too: male characters have long-lost contacts to whom they “owe a favor” while female characters rely on the tight in-group of “the girls”.
Why do some women prefer to have male friends instead of female ones? Is it because women can be more judgmental, harsh, or fake to their friends?
Well yes! I will prefer having male friends to female friends. In fact I have more male friends than female ( Yea, I am one of those "some women" ). Why? BecauseNo over drama. They will react normally to every situation. Nothing like "awww", " hawwww", "omg" or any other exaggerated version of their emotions.They are hardly fake. May be some of them are more practical or diplomatic but nothing very fake. If some guy is saying "Trust me" to me, yes I can actually trust him.Very chilled out attitude. No overthinking. Nothing high profile .Generally they don't give a damn about what to wear, how to behave, what the other person is thinking and other social formalities. So, I will better prefer hanging out with guys in casual tees to roaming in a dress with gals gang.They are always there for you. No exception . I have experienced situations in which my close friends ( Girls) have backed out because of some stupid reason but male friends never! No jealousy factor. When I was in final year and placement session was going on , I have seen so many closed friends( female) bitching about the other girls who got placed before them. That placement session really brought out the true colors of them.You can share anything and everything with any of your male friends. In most of the cases they will keep it with themselves. But in case of female friends, you have to give a second thought even with your childhood best friends. And especially with a girl having a boyfriend. It is by default assumed that if you are sharing with her, it will automatically reach to her boyfriend. But again this is in most of the cases, not every case. This is my personal opinion. May be for some girls its true but for some other it may not. So no offense intended.